93TheHitStick Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 We have been dating for less then a week. She invited me over to hangout. We fooled around for a few hours. But then when her friends came she pretty much kicked me out. She was like to her friend "please give him a ride home right now". And all her friends were like "why isn't he gonna watch movies" And she was just like "cuz he has to go" And if it was just cheerleaders there i wouldn't be mad. But at least two of them had there boyfriends with them. I know that her mom called and told her she couldn't have people over. But her mom didn't get back till late. And she had a bunch of people there anyway. When i asked her after this happened she was like "I didn't want you to go. But i thought my mom might come back early. And i already had a bunch of people there. please let make it up to you." I know she has known them for longer. But i feel like she is lying because one more person wouldn't have hurt. And she really could have just told the rest of the cheerleaders not to come since i had plans with her before this anyway.
Casablanca Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 I feel like there is something missing...did you say or do something where she acted weird before they showed up? Like pissing her off? Even so, she sounds like a bitch. I would be pissed if I was seeing someone and they treated me like that and there is a good chance that I wouldnt go out with them a gain after the stunt she pulled.
Author 93TheHitStick Posted December 23, 2011 Author Posted December 23, 2011 I feel like there is something missing...did you say or do something where she acted weird before they showed up? Like pissing her off? Even so, she sounds like a bitch. I would be pissed if I was seeing someone and they treated me like that and there is a good chance that I wouldnt go out with them a gain after the stunt she pulled. Yea. I mean before they came she was trying to get dressed. And i kept starting up with her and she would end up naked. Eventually she told me to stop. And she seemed kinda mad. But we were laughing again not even two seconds later. So idk. I kinda think i should stop talking to her. Just because she did actually hurt my feelings. Cuz i do actually care about her. And i don't want her to like really hurt my feelings. But idk shes a cheerleader... definetly wanna do that.
norajane Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Her mom called and told her she couldn't have people over. Cheerleaders. Sounds like you are in high school? My guess is that if her mom came home early and caught her with friends over, it would be harder on her if she also had some guy there her mother never met before. A guy that she was fooling around with. And that her mom would suspect she fooled around with. She didn't want to have to explain who you were to her mother.
Casablanca Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Her mom called and told her she couldn't have people over. Cheerleaders. Sounds like you are in high school? My guess is that if her mom came home early and caught her with friends over, it would be harder on her if she also had some guy there her mother never met before. A guy that she was fooling around with. And that her mom would suspect she fooled around with. She didn't want to have to explain who you were to her mother. Even if that is the case, there is a mature non-hurtful way and an immature hurtful way to do this and she chose the latter. I would be very weary of this girl.
Author 93TheHitStick Posted December 23, 2011 Author Posted December 23, 2011 Yea. I mean before they came she was trying to get dressed. And i kept starting up with her and she would end up naked. Eventually she told me to stop. And she seemed kinda mad. But we were laughing again not even two seconds later. So idk. I kinda think i should stop talking to her. Just because she did actually hurt my feelings. Cuz i do actually care about her. And i don't want her to like really hurt my feelings. But idk shes a cheerleader... definetly wanna do that. That does kinda make sense. Because she wants me to meet her mom on saturday.
Dust Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 You just have to go with your gut. I wouldn't worry about it to much you still like her. Maybe she was worried about you getting her naked? How old are you? How old is she?
Author 93TheHitStick Posted December 23, 2011 Author Posted December 23, 2011 We are both 16. I have another question but i don't feel like starting another thread. IF she texts me a lot and wants to talk every night on the phone does that mean she likes me? I haven't done a lot of stuff with girls that i have actual feelings for. I have done stuff with girls that i was attracted to. But i actually have a crush on this chick. Like a bad one. That is why i am kinda confused. If she doesn't like me i don't even want to talk to her. Like there is freshman chicks at my school all over me that are hotter then her. So if she only sees me as like someone to fool around with then i really don't wanna even talk to her.
Dust Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 We are both 16. I have another question but i don't feel like starting another thread. IF she texts me a lot and wants to talk every night on the phone does that mean she likes me? I haven't done a lot of stuff with girls that i have actual feelings for. I have done stuff with girls that i was attracted to. But i actually have a crush on this chick. Like a bad one. That is why i am kinda confused. If she doesn't like me i don't even want to talk to her. Like there is freshman chicks at my school all over me that are hotter then her. So if she only sees me as like someone to fool around with then i really don't wanna even talk to her. Have you considered asking your dad, an older brother or an uncle for some advice? Only time will tell how she feels about you. Try not to worry about waisting your time and just enjoy that you found a girl you like and that she may like you back. Thats my advice. Have fun!
ScreamingTrees Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 (edited) From the way you articulate, I would've guessed you to be much younger than 16, but that's just me. A "bad crush" ain't nothing at your age and especially your maturity level, boy. It's nothing substantial. Could you truly say that you have feelings for her if you could objectify her like that in the same breath that you say she's "special"? If there's no mutual desire to do the vertical tango, why bother playing house? She might like you. Then again, she kicked you out while she spent time with all of her friends, including their boyfriends. If you were to stop over thinking, what would such a situation tell you? Actions speak louder than words, most of the time. Even if we were to go by your word, her mother said she couldn't have ANYONE. One other person being there would've been inconsequential. Edited December 23, 2011 by ScreamingTrees
Author 93TheHitStick Posted December 23, 2011 Author Posted December 23, 2011 From the way you articulate, I would've guessed you to be much younger than 16, but that's just me. Why would you even feel the need to say that? I told you what my age was. I have no reason to lie about my age. And the way that i "articulate" myself on the internet doesn't tell you anything about me. If i wanted to i could type like an english professor. But i prefer to type how i talk. A "bad crush" ain't nothing at your age and especially your maturity level, boy. It's nothing substantial. Could you truly say that you have feelings for her if you could objectify her like that in the same breath that you say she's "special"? If there's no mutual desire to do the vertical tango, why bother playing house? You know absolutely nothing about my maturity level. I have had one 7 month relationship. And one 10 month relationship. And considering my age that is a while to be with the same person. I know when i actually like someone. I guess me saying that i had a "crush" on her was a bad way to put it. I am more then attracted to her. Lets say that. I actually enjoy talking to her. Hanging out with her. Seeing her. And the truth is i don't actually have fun when hanging out with the majority of people my age. I think that the crap that they like to talk about is stupid. She might like you. Then again, she kicked you out while she spent time with all of her friends, including their boyfriends. If you were to stop over thinking, what would such a situation tell you? Actions speak louder than words, most of the time. I am pretty sure she kicked me out because i wouldn't put my pants back on. And she felt like i would try to get her naked again and her mom would catch us. Kinda makes sense cuz she kept begging me to put on my pants. Oh and i'm not overthinking anything. I was confused so i asked a question. Even if we were to go by your word, her mother said she couldn't have ANYONE. One other person being there would've been inconsequential. I feel like your post was really condescending. Hop off your high horse.
Dust Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 I feel like your post was really condescending. Hop off your high horse. Yes it was welcome to the internet young sir. Fact of the matter is you saw her naked... a cheerleader naked in person. When I was your age the only cheerleaders I saw naked were the ones on the internet... (don't look at porn kid it will pervert you further) Just relax and have a good time. Plus dude you could have said all this stuff to her. "I think you want me to leave because things are getting to sexual, look you drive me crazy I really like you, but your friends are here and I will be a gentlemen, I understand your mom doesn't want people here but if they're here whats one more person!" Whats done is done and if you still like her I wouldn't harp on this one even. Just have fun. Thats the best advice. Don't worry and be happy. And yes expect people to insult you every time you post on here chump.
lululucy Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 She's texting you all the time and wants to talk on the phone every night, she likes you. She didn't want the first time you met her mother to be in that situation -- she might be a little immature but I think she likes you. Relax and let things happen. And please don't tell her there are girls hotter than her wanting to get with you or you are history dude!
Dust Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 She's texting you all the time and wants to talk on the phone every night, she likes you. She didn't want the first time you met her mother to be in that situation -- she might be a little immature but I think she likes you. Relax and let things happen. And please don't tell her there are girls hotter than her wanting to get with you or you are history dude! Oh he called the other girls wanting to get with him hotter. Thats pretty rude. Also if he finds the other girls hotter and they are trying to get with him why isn't he getting with them? I don't like a guy who dates a girl but doesn't hold her above the others.
Author 93TheHitStick Posted December 23, 2011 Author Posted December 23, 2011 Oh he called the other girls wanting to get with him hotter. Thats pretty rude. Also if he finds the other girls hotter and they are trying to get with him why isn't he getting with them? I don't like a guy who dates a girl but doesn't hold her above the others. I hold her above other girls. I am just being honest. There are girls with nicer bodies that flirt with me. But they are also incredibly annoying.
phineas Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Even if that is the case, there is a mature non-hurtful way and an immature hurtful way to do this and she chose the latter. I would be very weary of this girl. Correct. But we are talking about highschool. If OP isn't a football player.... Honestly, I say he should wrap it up & let her make it up to him & not be surprised when she pretends not to know him.
Casablanca Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Correct. But we are talking about highschool. I was in high school not too long ago (and still am in a way as I teach high school) and I knew better than to act like that then, so did my friends and I never had anyone treat me like that, ever. If someone doesnt know common courtesy by high school age, you need to be very cautious about them and more than likely move on from it
Author 93TheHitStick Posted December 23, 2011 Author Posted December 23, 2011 Correct. But we are talking about highschool. If OP isn't a football player.... Honestly, I say he should wrap it up & let her make it up to him & not be surprised when she pretends not to know him. I am a football player... But i also don't go to some cliche high school. Everyone at my high school is cool with each other. And i doubt the fact that i play football is gonna make her like me more.
lululucy Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 If you really like this girl, ignore these other girls who have "nicer bodies". You aren't really holding her above these girls by describing them like that. Just invest a little time into this budding relationship and let things happen -- it is winter break after all, you should have plenty of time to figure out how she feels. When are you meeting her mom? This weekend?
phineas Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 I am a football player... But i also don't go to some cliche high school. Everyone at my high school is cool with each other. And i doubt the fact that i play football is gonna make her like me more. Got it. In my highschool cheerleaders pretty much only dated football players. It's how it was. My highschool was probably bigger. Maybe she is dating someone else? IDK. It was rude, but if you want to tap it, you gotta let her know nicely it wasn't cool but don't get butt-hurt over it.
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