Shyguy0898 Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 Met this girl im 27 never had a long term girlfriend through personal addiction which all has been resolved.She is 22 never had relationship to my knowledge. met her through mutual friend she made it known she liked me, would go out in a four never really happened. mainly through my lack of experience/confidence. she fell out with her friend who we all went out with in the group, i asked her to just come out with me, tbh i made all the mistakes which put me in the friend zone, always being there, she had me rapped round her little finger we even went away together for 10 days shared a hotel room but seperate beds. finally confessed that i liked her and wanted to be more than friends she just wanted to be friends and still hang out. Sttill kept in touch but she occasionally invited me out but always made sure i was busy or made out i was. now about 2 months later, this week she is texting me ringing me everyday.instead of the 1 kiss on every text there has been 2. was out on the town she spent 1/2 the night texting me and has been ringing me every day. she even has a cat and she calls it her son, she even calls me the cats dad, she even has sent a christmas card from her and me to a mutual friend. she keeps inviting me out tommorow or over the the weekend. if she giving me the come on, being sympathatic over my father who is terminally ill,or trying to keep me interesed so i am there for her., im so confused ?
ShannonMI Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Met this girl im 27 never had a long term girlfriend through personal addiction which all has been resolved.She is 22 never had relationship to my knowledge. met her through mutual friend she made it known she liked me, would go out in a four never really happened. mainly through my lack of experience/confidence. she fell out with her friend who we all went out with in the group, i asked her to just come out with me, tbh i made all the mistakes which put me in the friend zone, always being there, she had me rapped round her little finger we even went away together for 10 days shared a hotel room but seperate beds. finally confessed that i liked her and wanted to be more than friends she just wanted to be friends and still hang out. Sttill kept in touch but she occasionally invited me out but always made sure i was busy or made out i was. now about 2 months later, this week she is texting me ringing me everyday.instead of the 1 kiss on every text there has been 2. was out on the town she spent 1/2 the night texting me and has been ringing me every day. she even has a cat and she calls it her son, she even calls me the cats dad, she even has sent a christmas card from her and me to a mutual friend. she keeps inviting me out tommorow or over the the weekend. if she giving me the come on, being sympathatic over my father who is terminally ill,or trying to keep me interesed so i am there for her., im so confused ? Your grammar is terrible. It's hard to read this post, but from what I gather from it is you've been blowing this girl off because she friend-zoned you. You said you say your busy or pretend you are so you don't look like a loser with no life. Well now she is blowing you up because she wants your attention again. She wants to keep you on the hook. She wants you to be all about her like you were beore. You know things will never progress with this girl beyond being friends, so don't let her play these games with you. Start ignoring her.
Feelsgoodman Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Classic attention whore behavior. She can sense that you are pulling away, so she's trying to reel you back in. She has no intention of being with you romantically...you can bank on that. My advice would be to drop this woman like a pair of soiled underpants and cut her out of your life. She's just wasting your time.
Author Shyguy0898 Posted December 23, 2011 Author Posted December 23, 2011 Apologies for the poor grammar, think i will just ignore her texts/calls well take a day to reply anyway. Guess she must be a bit lonely and needing some attention as it's christmas.
Jessica45 Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Perhaps she simply misses her friend. It doesn't have to be any more complicated than that. Why is wanting a male friend make a girl an "attention whore" or not worthy of your time? What's wrong with just being friends?
Feelsgoodman Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Why is wanting a male friend make a girl an "attention whore" or not worthy of your time? What's wrong with just being friends? From a man's standpoint, what exactly is the benefit of having a female friend? Women like to accumulate male "fanclubs" because it increases their social status with other women...plus you can ask guys for favors, like helping you move, fixing something around the house, etc. Men, on the other hand, don't need or want non-sexual attention from women. Females are a source of unnecessary drama...we may be willing to put up with it, but only if we get something worthwhile in return (i.e. sex). As far as favors go, women hardly ever do anything for men, so they are useless in that regard too. Friends is what other men are for.
Author Shyguy0898 Posted December 24, 2011 Author Posted December 24, 2011 She maybe missing her friend Jessica but some texts i personally would not to sent to some who admitted they liked me 2 months earlier. Just reading them back i think she upped the x to 2 as she was showing sympathy as i admitted my father condition had gotten worse, however sending texts like sweet dreams xx seems wrong for friends. Am in the process of rebuilding my life i honestly don't know if having her in it is a good thing, as its obvious to all that i want to be more than friends, one of her older friends without me telling said i worship the ground she walks on.
Jessica45 Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 From a man's standpoint, what exactly is the benefit of having a female friend? Women like to accumulate male "fanclubs" because it increases their social status with other women...plus you can ask guys for favors, like helping you move, fixing something around the house, etc. Men, on the other hand, don't need or want non-sexual attention from women. Females are a source of unnecessary drama...we may be willing to put up with it, but only if we get something worthwhile in return (i.e. sex). As far as favors go, women hardly ever do anything for men, so they are useless in that regard too. Friends is what other men are for.You have a very jaded view of women and that's unfortunate. Not all women are the way you describe. Women can make very good friends - no drama and yes, even doing you favors. Plus having someone of the opposite sex to talk to and help understand the opposite sex is a huge benefit. I like having male friends. Since I'm in an exclusive relationship, the question of sexual attraction isn't an issue. I don't believe the majority of men only want women for sex. Otherwise, they would just buy it and never get married.
Jessica45 Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 She maybe missing her friend Jessica but some texts i personally would not to sent to some who admitted they liked me 2 months earlier. Just reading them back i think she upped the x to 2 as she was showing sympathy as i admitted my father condition had gotten worse, however sending texts like sweet dreams xx seems wrong for friends. Am in the process of rebuilding my life i honestly don't know if having her in it is a good thing, as its obvious to all that i want to be more than friends, one of her older friends without me telling said i worship the ground she walks on.I had a good male friend and we always signed off with "kisses". And there was never any question about us being together. Some people just do that with those they care for. Alot of people physically kiss their friends on the cheek when meeting. Or some just hug. But none of it means they are interested in a relationship. But since she knows you are interested in her, then it's thoughtless for her to act that way if she doesn't want to pursue a relationship. I don't know how to get an answer from her without bluntly asking. And that is painful in itself if the answer isn't what you want.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 Shyguy0898 Sttill kept in touch but she occasionally invited me out but always made sure i was busy or made out i was. Good for you. Not being too available. she even has a cat and she calls it her son, she even calls me the cats dad, she even has sent a christmas card from her and me to a mutual friend. she keeps inviting me out tommorow or over the the weekend. She sent a Christmas card from you and her to a friend? Shyguy, that is a little creepy. She could be looking for attention. She could really want to be your friend. Can't really say from thei nformation given. If you want to be friends with her, then hang out with her. If you are looking for more then that, then I would say don't hang out with her. I don't see anything wrong with being friends as long as that's all you allow your expectations to be. However, if you are hoping to hang out with her as friends so it develops into something romantic, then it's best not to hang out with her. Even if something did develop, she still has a lot of growing up to do plus she is acting kind of strange and sending out holiday cards to other friends from you and another friend and calling you her cat's dad isn't normal girl behavior. You said your dad was ill, has she ever been there for *you* even as a friend for the stuff I am sure you are going through with your family?
joystickd Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 You have a very jaded view of women and that's unfortunate. Not all women are the way you describe. Women can make very good friends - no drama and yes, even doing you favors. Plus having someone of the opposite sex to talk to and help understand the opposite sex is a huge benefit. I like having male friends. Since I'm in an exclusive relationship, the question of sexual attraction isn't an issue. I don't believe the majority of men only want women for sex. Otherwise, they would just buy it and never get married. Lol no man goes around saying to themselves hey she would make a great platonic friend.
Feelsgoodman Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 You have a very jaded view of women and that's unfortunate. Not all women are the way you describe. Women can make very good friends - no drama and yes, even doing you favors. There may be women like that, but they are in the minority, from my experience. I don't believe the majority of men only want women for sex. Otherwise, they would just buy it and never get married. You are right, we don't only want women for sex. Eventually, we need someone to raise our kids. As for buying sex, it's not as easy as you think. Social stigma, increased health risk and other factors conspire against that proposition.
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