booyeah Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 (edited) Okay so I met a guy playing World of Warcraft 3 years ago. We started talking and kind of just connected and ended up dating for a little over 2 and a half years. I fell deeply in love with him and I thought he had fallen just as hard for me. He even told his mother he was going to marry me. He met my family and I met his. Things seemed great he got along well with my family and I got along well with his. I sometimes miss his mom. I was up visiting him this past summer he lives in the US and I am Canadian. We had lost our virginities to each other at least I know I lost mine to him. When I was up visiting him while he was at work I went on his computer and found a bunch of old chat logs on his skype and found that he had been webcamming with this nasty 30 year old woman that I honestly was unsure of if she was a tranny or not. So he cheated on me with whatever it was and tried to lie his way out of it saying it was a tranny and that he was curious. But then the next day I found texts in his phone from mere weeks prior to me coming to visit of him texting this other girl from where he lives and telling her that he was falling for her? After that I was so devastated I had to go home. I loved him so much I still tried to fix things with him and was just waiting for him to make things up to me or put at least some effort. About a month later he ended up dumping me. He joined the air force and went to basic training this october and just recently got home. But after the breakup he still continued contacting me and asking me to be friends and whenever i would say know or seem like i was doing well he would just turn into a huge jerk.. he even made up a fake girlfriend to upset me. he also seems to be afraid of me talking to his mom at all. Anyway he called me the night before he left for basic... and then again on his graduation day from his moms phone? i dont get why he is still calling he said he wants to be friends but i have told him time and time again that i dont want to be his friend because i still love him and i dont see him like that. Then he tells me that he met someone that he could change everything for? i dont know what that is supposed to mean. Then my friend who had him on facebook said he got it back and she showed me new pictures he posted and said she thinks he is gay. Then i started putting pieces together is it possible that he actually is gay hence why he left me? Because when we were together he got me to put makeup on him once and he took a picture of himself it was sorta weird.. and whenever we were out he would always compliment how some girls that passed were dressed and tell me i should dress like that. He loved going shopping and spent a lot of time with his uncle that is gay. He also dressed really well, and filed his nails and got his eyebrows done. He also was really interested in having anal sex? Also one of his new photos up is him in a super tight top so his belly appears and super skin tight shorts? He noticed things like shoes like not runners more like loafers and boat shoes. He also didnt really have any guy friends and preferred to have friends that were girls? I dont know if he is gay I just wish he could have told me rather than hurting me further.. I wouldnt have judged him because I do truly care about him even after how horrible he has treated me. I would have been his friend.. Is it possible that he keeps contacting me to be friends because he feels guilty for leading me on because he knows he is gay? and that he misses me as a person perhaps? but is too afraid to come out of the closet? He mentioned before that his mom thought he was gay and his uncle. Im so confused but also wondering how I never thought of this before? Is he possibly gay? or is he just a huge pervert and jerk? helppp he is 21 and i am 20.. Edited December 23, 2011 by booyeah
Omei Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 (edited) I also met my bf on WoW and also...I Canadian him American, going on 5 years now. First thing I gotta say about dating gamers is that a lot of single people talk to more than 1 person, a lot of them are lonely and will be flirtatious, when you start a online relationship not ONLY do you have to set boundaries in your relationship and what it means to both of you, you also have to set your boundaries in game as well, it's kinda like always being at a huge bar all the time everything is game unless you set rules this is really important to talk about with your partner because you may find what you may consider cheating isn't to him because its in a virtual world. That being said it sounds like you're already not sure about this guy I would just move on maybe he is trying to figure out what/who he is, for the record tho if he does like anal it doesn't mean he's gay there are plenty of men out there that like to venture into that with their current gfs. Edited December 23, 2011 by Omei
Author booyeah Posted December 23, 2011 Author Posted December 23, 2011 (edited) We had set boundaries and were committed to each other like any normal relationship. We also visited and were exclusive it was NOT an open relationship. And we dated for 2 and a half years met each others families visited every so often. We were very close and talked every day and were planning on moving in together before everything all came up.. Also when I found out about all the crap of cheating his mom whom he was living with was completely shocked at what he had been up to. She thought we were going to get married and stuff and that he had me up on a pedestool by the way he talked about me. We also discussed marriage and spending our future together and also were to remain faithful to each other.. It was a serious relationship I am just trying to figure out what went wrong and a friend recently suggested to me about him being gay and after thinking about it it just seemed to make everything else make sense. Its weird I dont understand why he continues to try to contact me its been 5 months since he left me.. Also it wasnt a virtual relationship it began that way but turned into way more than that. And i know that about anal it just pieces in with all of the other things .. i guess im just confused... and it bugs me about the virginity thing im kind of traditional if i had known what he was up to i would have never lost it to him.. kinda regret not waiting until marriage now but at least i lost it to someone that i was truly in love with. Edited December 23, 2011 by booyeah
Omei Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 It all just sounds like you didn't really know him as well as you think you did, talking about marriage with your first is pretty fast paced and not usually in the cards for most first timer's, You have so much more to see, Most girls get sucked into losing their virginity to a false sense of "forever" You say you set boundaries but it sounds like he wasn't as committed as you were, I would just drop this and date someone in your area. You don't always need to figure out what went wrong, and rather move on.
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