fivefive Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 Hey all, Haven't posted on here in a while, but I needed some answers. The person that I am "talking" to, has just recently broken up with her boyfriend. They broke up, maybe, a few weeks ago. To my understanding, they only dated for a few months. She broke up with him. As the semester came to a close, we started getting feelings for each other, and she admitted she had a crush on me. I felt the same way. We're both on Xmas Break right now, and we've been communicating daily. I called her yesterday to only find out that she went to breakfast with him. I shook it off and never acknowledged the fact, but deep down it really bothered me. If she broke up with him, why would she go to breakfast with him? I feel that when you go to breakfast with an ex, you're looking for a "pleasant, casual" way to try to work things out again. Should I be worried? How should I approach this? I've been through this before and I cannot be the shoulder to cry on or the "friend".
2sunny Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 Ask her! Ask what was the point in going to breakfast... What was the outcome? Stay quiet while she answers - so you can hear what she's not willing to tell you.
Philosoraptor Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 I'd agree you need to ask. She may be trying to work things out. She may not have feelings for him anymore and has a desire to maintain a friendship.
Author fivefive Posted December 22, 2011 Author Posted December 22, 2011 I just feel that someone is your ex for a reason. There's no reason to stay friends. That's just my opinion. Obviously people have their views on their exes. I feel that by going back to talk or see your ex for a "casual" breakfast date is only going to have a negative impact. You broke up with them for a reason!
Philosoraptor Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 Well do you know the reason? Was there abuse, either verbal or physical? Or were they friends who gave it a try, decided it didn't work, and took a step back?
Author fivefive Posted December 22, 2011 Author Posted December 22, 2011 No, I don't know the extent of their relationship.
Philosoraptor Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 Well then all you can do is ask her about it.
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