SJC2008 Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 After a hard stretch of OLD I'm on somewhat of a roll! I'm talking to 4 women right now (haven't metany in person yet). But 2 of them are "looking for friends". WTF I say, yeah I wouldn't mind expanding my social circle but go to a friend site like meet up ya know. Here's the kicker, they still require you to be single. Now one is a prospect IMO but the other is defiantely not because she's moving in few months. How do yall feel about the "looking for friends" option on some OLD sites?
kaylan Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 Its usually BS. It either means: a) I have a fall back explanation if I decide to friend zone a girl b) So the girls know that while its possible I may date them, right now I am taking things slow. Basically if I am not feeling you, I make a new buddy and can network friends. Its less pressure if I am just looking for new pals c) I want to have my fun but keep my options open. I am option B
Author SJC2008 Posted December 22, 2011 Author Posted December 22, 2011 (edited) Well there's nothing wrong with starting out as friends it makes things less tense in the beginning but I think should they say they are looking to date but in their profile state they prefer to start as friends to get to know you which is the same thing as taking it slow which I have no problem with. To me it's a loophole they can always be like hey I was just looking for friends. Edited December 22, 2011 by SJC2008 missed a word
dasein Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 Keep in mind that when some of them say this, they are looking for NSA sex, or at the very least sex and dating without the guy going puppy dog on them too fast. Up to you to figure out which is which.
shayla Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 I was on a site before I started a relationship, and I got to like the forums. So I'm still there, it's detailed in my profile, and I say that I am all about FRIENDS and nothing more...having a profile is a condition to access the forums, and I message others on the forums and we have grown fond of one another....I notice that younger people actually use the same site as a way to socialize with their friends so I thought it would be okay to do that as well.... are I have noticed that I have gotten some emails and I am always asked, " you serious?" and when I assure them that I am, some don't believe me. They think I am looking for something other than friendship, and I truly am not. I'm not trying to deceive anyone, my profile is very clear.
kaylan Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 ^thats different. We are talking about single folk. Not people in relationships =P
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