robthefool Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 (edited) Long story short, we broke up in February this year after 5 months of going out. We were both each other's first sexual partner (I was 18, her 17). She broke up with me (she never gave me a reason, she just said 'I think we should see other people' but i'm taking that to be 'I've lost interest') She was very keen to stay friends, me not as much, but I (foolishly) said yes before I left. After that, I never initiated contact, for the next week she would text me as if nothing had happened, and I was really blunt in my replies, eventually it calmed down to the point where she would text me every other day, asking to meet up etc and I would just say 'yeah sometime maybe.' I ignored quite a few of her messages as I was trying to move on, and eventually I kept ignoring her from about April onwards, at which point I knew she was annoyed as she mimicked my Facebook status to try and annoy me. I had also heard from mutual friends that she had been saying nasty stuff about me behind my back, so I decided that it was time to just let her go from my life completely. Nevertheless, my last text from her was in May which I didn't respond to, and then I heard nothing from her until late September when I got a Facebook inbox message from her (she was too scared to even try to talk to me online) saying the usual 'Hi, We haven't spoken in years haha! xxx' I ignored this as I really do not want to be in her life or give her the acknowledgement that I'm there to speak to if she wants to. She also has a boyfriend now that she's been going out with since Summer so I have no intentions of talking to her ever again. My question is that in October she blocked me from Facebook chat (I can tell because she is never online anymore yet she still posts a lot on Facebook) and while I really don't care, I don't understand why she did this as I haven't initiated contact since the break up and don't reply to her attempts at conversation anyway? Any comments or similar stories would be nice as well Edited December 22, 2011 by robthefool
BoredAgain Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 ...maybe there's some resentment because she didn't realize breaking up with you means dropping out of each others lives completely. ...maybe she's still trying to get over you, and seeing you on facebook is making it difficult for her. ...maybe she accidentally hit the "block" button one day. I have no idea. Whatever the case, it's probably not worth thinking about.
Author robthefool Posted December 22, 2011 Author Posted December 22, 2011 ...maybe there's some resentment because she didn't realize breaking up with you means dropping out of each others lives completely. ...maybe she's still trying to get over you, and seeing you on facebook is making it difficult for her. ...maybe she accidentally hit the "block" button one day. I have no idea. Whatever the case, it's probably not worth thinking about. Thanks, yes it probably isn't at all, I'm just a curious person and I read a lot into what people say or do. Really I should have just deleted her ages ago, but If I did that now then she would think I'm still suffering.
Eddie Edirol Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 She did it to get your attention. She was probably hoping that you would try to message her asking why she blocked you. See she is upset that she needs to hear from you, but that you dont need to hear from her. Good job btw, I commend you on not wanting to hear from her, youve hit her where it hurts. Alot of us didnt have that kind of resistance when we were dumped. If you really dont want to hear from her, and you really want her to feel the pinch, block her from seeing your fb. She deserves it. Nothing worse that not knowing hat you id wrong in a relationship because your dumper is too selfish to let you in on the problem.
Zabs Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 She seems to be wanting control over when and how you move on. It is clear she still sees your qualities..however, did not want them in the capacity of b/f..hence the BU. It has dented her ego that you seem unresponsive..and despite her texts and requests for meets..you haven't. Facebook, when manipulated is a public humiliation...and in my view people that do that are desperate for a response from their ex. She has a bf? It won't stop her thinking about the good times she shared with you...after all, I doubt it very much he is a replica in personality, character etc is he? If you believe your situation is cut and dried...do one of either two things...Block her entirely..or carry on as you are. Those are the only two options you have without a) contacting her or b) dropping to that level. Much love, Zabs xx;) Ps..well done...as there are many that wouldn't have the backbone to do what you are doing!
Author robthefool Posted December 22, 2011 Author Posted December 22, 2011 Thanks guys Yes it was hard, especially at first, but really I can say this for anyone else who tries - no contact really does help and I'm so glad that I did it. I knew she would never take me back, and I knew that we would never work as friends, so there was no other option really
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