cdm369 Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 I have always been one who really analyzes everything. Im currently working through trust issues with my fiance. Things seems to be going well but I find myself analyzing every little thing. I don't want to be a overbearing worry wart but I don't want to be a blind fool either. What are the odds that if things keep going well it will get better with time?
FitChick Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 Over analyzing is wanting to be in control. Are you a Virgo?
dasein Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 The fact that you don't give us any details to work with suggests that you do overanalyze things. Nothing in life, that the sun will rise tomorrow for instance, or that you will wake up from sleeping, is certain. Start there and build up towards what is important in a relationship. The analysis begins and ends with "how am I being treated? am I happy with that treatment?" If the answer to those is "yes," time to stop the analysis and enjoy the fun.
chryssy83 Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 Did the trust issues develop as a result of misconduct on his part? I agree with dasein on this one (which actually surprises me a little). If he treats you well and you like him, relax and have fun. If he treats you poorly, then you have no reason to stick around. It doesn't take a lot of analysis....your heart knows the answer.
dasein Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 I agree with dasein on this one (which actually surprises me a little). It's good that it only surprises you a little, agreeing with a polymathic genius is a smart idea generally.
Author cdm369 Posted December 22, 2011 Author Posted December 22, 2011 Yes I am a virgo. However if you knew me personally you would know that control and I don't belong in the same sentence. And yes a few instances of lying and bad relationship behavior caused me to feel the way I do. Its weird because even knowing I am very analytical I never worried about these things until my trust was broken. Probably sounds weird but that's how it was. Never really thought about anything but trusting her.
Author cdm369 Posted December 22, 2011 Author Posted December 22, 2011 Over analyzing is wanting to be in control. Are you a Virgo? I haven't always been so analytical. Being cheated on has made me that way. Just don't want to be hurt.
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