Separated but living together and married, dating another man!

[ResilientX]

I am perplexed by my situation given the fact that it is the first time. I have been living with the same woman for Ten years and married Six. She wants to separate which in itself might be necessary given the problems we have had. It might be time to re-evaluate. However, she tells me that she has fallen for someone else, this happened while we were deciding to separate or not. We live toghether and she wants to see this person on an intimate basis. Do I ask her to leave? or do I ask her to use some restraint and move out as she can? I do not feel it is respectful to do this to me and in a way, it shows me her true nature. I do not think I want to remain with someone like this. Very confused....

[average guy]

If you are already going your seperate ways, then yes, ask her to go her own way. I assume you have discussed that she is the one who will "move out" and you stay? If not, I would go your own way and leave her. But I would not advise staying in the same house while she starts a new ralationship!

[ResilientX]

I will ask her to leave since she is the one not respecting the bonds that we had and is already interested in someone else. If I reverse the tables and think what would I do? I would say that I would not do something like this to hurt another persons feelings, no matter how tempting the lure of something new. There is a time and place for everything. Thank-You.

[ResilientX]

Any advice as How I should approach this? do not want to make it a huge argument about who stays and goes. She wants the breakup more than I do.