Jono85 Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 Just a light thread to unite all the dumpees out there like myself, who will NOT message the ex over the holidays, and feel good about it! I'm 11 months NC, so not fresh in the slightest, but still lately I've been thinking about messaging her a simple "Merry Christmas to you and your family" just to let her know I've forgiven her, am not bitter, and wish her the best. The last thing I said to her, back in January, after she texted me asking how I was doing, was basically telling her I don't think being friends will work as I couldn't get past some of the things that happened (no physical cheating, but emotional, and lies during/after breakup) but I swore that I wasn't really bitter (clearly I still was) and wished her all the best and said goodbye. She never even responded, and still hasn't. So a part of me wants to reach out and let her know I'm okay and don't hate her or anything, but I realized I don't need to. I can forgive her/move on without notifying her. If I wanted her back, I WOULD msg her, but I realize she's a person that doesn't share the same values as me, and she's not right for me (I could never do some of the things she did to me). So I'm not going to msg her afterall. Anyway, just a thread to unite us, and give us extra motivation NOT to msg our exes. Let's be strong, and as the dumpees, NOT give in. We shouldn't be the one stroking their ego, but the other way around if any ego stroking takes place. Resist the urge to even send them a Merry Christmas! They're not a part of our lives anymore, and surely if they wanted us a part of their lives, they would have reached out by now.
smokey bear Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 Im in, even though i know im full of sh*t lol
Author Jono85 Posted December 21, 2011 Author Posted December 21, 2011 Im in, even though i know im full of sh*t lol no weaklings allowed in here. we will be here for u. we will get u through it. NO CHRISTMAS MESSAGES THO!! can't have one foot in the club, all in or the exit door can be found using the back option on your browser!
Dims85 Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 Great thread Jono. Im 7 months no contact and have been feeling the urge to break NC as well. Your words on my thread last week helped me decide to not contact her and leave it be.
mike588 Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 I solemly swear that I won't contact her..that's the truth..the whole truth..and nothing but the truth.lol You sound like me...I came VERY close to sending her a short email just saying Merry Christmas...Tell (her friends names.. who adored me) I said hello and Merry X-mas to them too. Ohhhhh I was so close to hitting the send button... I thought sending that would show her I didn't hate her. I'll just leave it up to her if she ever wants to talk.
punkinless Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 i'm a dumpee with 2 months no contact. i love her dearly and she thinks i hate her but i don't. she went back to her ex and they are fighting a lot and then making up and then fighting some more. i am still close with her family as her brother is my best friend. i don't really want to msg her but you know it runs threw my mind. i would prolly shyt my pants from joy if she texted me merry christmas. but i'm not counting on it. i will be at my bestfriends house christmas day and of course she and him and her whole family will be there. could just say merry christmas everyone when i'm there. IDK. THIS SHYT IS HARDDDD. i'm in a tight spot....
CaliBabe Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 I'm 7 months NC and I have been considering it too. But really, what would I gain in doing so? Nothing.
Lil1 Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 I'll join this club too. I broke up with my ex in January (after having spent a very lonely Christmas and New Years in an involuntary LDR) then wanted to work it out but he was done with it. I broke down and wrote him an email in Sept. but he did not respond so I've only been about 2.5 months NC. He has been 8 months NC. I will not reach out to my ex anymore. What if he reaches out to me though? I think it would be rude not to respond. He won't though so I shouldn't even consider that scenario lol! I miss him but I'm also moving on. This Christmas and New Years will be a fabulous one for me and I'm really looking forward to it! Happy Holidays to all my broken-hearted LS peeps! Keep looking forward and try your best to enjoy this life you have!
sugarmomma Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 I'm not texting him and even if he does text me so what? Its just a flippin text. whatever.
motive2002 Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 Delete delete delete.... All the contact info is gone. I guess if I was desperate I could reach out on Fakebook... but I'm going to resist. We were gonna spend Christmas together and she was looking forward to it. I haven't heard from her in a month.
punkinless Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 Delete delete delete.... All the contact info is gone. I guess if I was desperate I could reach out on Fakebook... but I'm going to resist. We were gonna spend Christmas together and she was looking forward to it. I haven't heard from her in a month. like you don't remember his/her number... i can ring my ex's digits off in my sleep. you don't fool me!
Mileena Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 I want too wish him a Merry Christmas also, but I'm not. He'll probably be with her anyway all happy, while I'm stuck here by myself with my parents. I hope his Christmas blows and his cat pees on his XBox
motive2002 Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 like you don't remember his/her number... i can ring my ex's digits off in my sleep. you don't fool me! It was stored in my phone. I honestly don't remember the number. I can remember the number from my ex 3 years ago. I wish I could manage my own memories somehow. There is definitely things I'd rather forget... especially nowadays.
swann Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 I'm part of the club also. Since the day she moved out, one month ago, I've gone NC. No text, no e-mails, no phone calls. Nothing at all. And that's what she'll keep getting from me.
Buttercup84 Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 So if they wish us a merry Christmas we ignore it ?
swann Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 So if they wish us a merry Christmas we ignore it ? I don't expect to get any from my ex, but I would reply "Thank you, Merry Christmas to you and your family". Period. I think it's the right thing to do, as long as you don't expect anything back. I don't want to look angry or sad, a formal politeness is the best choice in my opinion.
Zabs Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 I have a photographic memory for numbers..but seeing as he is not the only one I am trying to avoid..I have changed mine! Tee-fuc**** hee! Merry Christmas Parsnip Brains!:laugh::laugh::laugh: Much love over the holidays y'all inna da Shack! Zabs xx:cool:
solobeary Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 I have a photographic memory for numbers..but seeing as he is not the only one I am trying to avoid..I have changed mine! Tee-fuc**** hee! Merry Christmas Parsnip Brains!:laugh::laugh::laugh: Much love over the holidays y'all inna da Shack! Zabs xx:cool: Count me in!! Broke up 5 months ago, low contact since then, now 2.5 weeks of NC. Need to plough through 'til the new year, then New Years Day will be exactly a month of NC, then New Years Resolution= NC some more!
mike588 Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 Ever wonder if some of them(dumpers) are thinking/hoping the same thing...they are hoping you'll contact them..but out of guilt or other reasons they want you to make the 1st move? This doesn't apply to all because alot of the dumpers have truely moved on or don't care.
Author Jono85 Posted December 22, 2011 Author Posted December 22, 2011 Great thread Jono. Im 7 months no contact and have been feeling the urge to break NC as well. Your words on my thread last week helped me decide to not contact her and leave it be. Thanks Dims, glad I've been of any help too
Author Jono85 Posted December 22, 2011 Author Posted December 22, 2011 Impressed with the turnout. Gonna be a lot of Dumpers out there this holiday on Dec 26th wondering why the ex that they dumped don't care about them anymore and are really moving on!
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