xpaperxcutx Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 Because I think I'm overdoing it. I have a prepaid phone so most of the time I communicate with my friends through text. However, if this was a prospective date, would texting every other night be drastic? He told ime it was okay to vent to him about work but I personally feel like texting to much is a poor reflection on myself. I would really prefer we actuall talk on tje phone but since I've initiated contact the last two times I feel like he shouldtake the initiative.
93TheHitStick Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 Because I think I'm overdoing it. I have a prepaid phone so most of the time I communicate with my friends through text. However, if this was a prospective date, would texting every other night be drastic? He told ime it was okay to vent to him about work but I personally feel like texting to much is a poor reglection on myself. I would really prefer we actuall talk on the phone but since I've initiated contact the last two times I feel like he shouldtake the initiative. Lol why you over thinking it? If you wanna call him then call him. Don't be a weirdo about it. And if you don't know if he likes texting just ask him.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted December 21, 2011 Author Posted December 21, 2011 Lol why you over thinking it? If you wanna call him then call him. Don't be a weirdo about it. And if you don't know if he likes texting just ask him. Haha I like your straightforward-ness but I would rather he take the initiative. Obviously I love talking to him but I also want him to do it because he wanted and because I urged hm to.
ShannonMI Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 Because I think I'm overdoing it. I have a prepaid phone so most of the time I communicate with my friends through text. However, if this was a prospective date, would texting every other night be drastic? He told ime it was okay to vent to him about work but I personally feel like texting to much is a poor reflection on myself. I would really prefer we actuall talk on tje phone but since I've initiated contact the last two times I feel like he shouldtake the initiative. Text him AND call him. I prefer to text because it's just easier for me. If I'm at work or whatever I text because I can't really be on the phone all day talking. But yeah if you think you should have some phone convos, then do it.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted December 22, 2011 Author Posted December 22, 2011 It was horrible. The entire duration of our conversation, I felt like I had to take the lead to get him to talk. He sounded nervous with pauses in his responses and while we did have a few good laughs, he really gave off a wooden impression. As much initiation as I had done up until now, texting aand calling him, I also had to dominate th coversation because as hard as I tried I could not get him to open up. I tried hint, flirting, even direct propositions, but either he was slow on the uptake or he really was awkard. The only thing we had in common were still our dogs. I don't know what to do. I just felt like I was talking to someone who didn't have aj opinion of his own and had to agree with everything I said.
dasein Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 He likely isn't that interested or has some social/emotional problem. As far as how much texting is too much? An ex of mine texted me over 1000 times in one month (yes, 30+ a day every day for a month, I have the bill to prove it), I responded to maybe 1/3 of them and was exhausted. THAT's too much.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted December 22, 2011 Author Posted December 22, 2011 He likely isn't that interested or has some social/emotional problem. As far as how much texting is too much? An ex of mine texted me over 1000 times in one month (yes, 30+ a day every day for a month, I have the bill to prove it), I responded to maybe 1/3 of them and was exhausted. THAT's too much. From what I know about him, his family is pretty well off and he is college educated. However, I'm not getting much depth from him. He prefers to listen to me talk and while that is geat ( the first time around) Im left to remind myself I'm not talkig to one of my girlfriends. I don't know what he wants exactly but he is keen on meeting up. He has continuously asked me about my work schedule. However, I also feel like our personalities can clash at any moment.
chryssy83 Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 Maybe he is more comfortable hanging out in person. Just do that and the texting/calling thing will work itself out naturally.
dasein Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 Have you met this person yet? If not, stop all contact until he asks you out on a proper date. Google "cat string theory." Works with men as well as women. Figure out a way to elicit response other than overt contact.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted December 22, 2011 Author Posted December 22, 2011 Have you met this person yet? If not, stop all contact until he asks you out on a proper date. Google "cat string theory." Works with men as well as women. Figure out a way to elicit response other than overt contact. You're right. I need to take a giant step back. Obviously, we havent met yet and it s impossible to think texting or talking will build interest.
BetheButterfly Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 Because I think I'm overdoing it. I have a prepaid phone so most of the time I communicate with my friends through text. However, if this was a prospective date, would texting every other night be drastic? He told ime it was okay to vent to him about work but I personally feel like texting to much is a poor reflection on myself. I would really prefer we actuall talk on tje phone but since I've initiated contact the last two times I feel like he shouldtake the initiative. Your avatar is adorable! i think it's best to only text in emergencies or when you can't talk. If you have the ability to talk, that's best. As to who should take the initiative, I don't think there's any law written in stone as to who. It is fair though that a couple take turns. However, when I was dating my now husband, I expected him to call me every single night if possible. He wanted me so he did for the most part, though sometimes he sent me texts saying he was really tired from work and he would call me the next day, and he always delivered. A man keeping his word is a high quality man!!! That's one of many reasons why I allowed myself to love him and marry him! Though I know not every case is the same, normally if a guy really wants a specific girl, he's going to want to talk with her everyday too, unless there's an emergency or he is really tired.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted December 23, 2011 Author Posted December 23, 2011 Your avatar is adorable! i think it's best to only text in emergencies or when you can't talk. If you have the ability to talk, that's best. As to who should take the initiative, I don't think there's any law written in stone as to who. It is fair though that a couple take turns. However, when I was dating my now husband, I expected him to call me every single night if possible. He wanted me so he did for the most part, though sometimes he sent me texts saying he was really tired from work and he would call me the next day, and he always delivered. A man keeping his word is a high quality man!!! That's one of many reasons why I allowed myself to love him and marry him! Though I know not every case is the same, normally if a guy really wants a specific girl, he's going to want to talk with her everyday too, unless there's an emergency or he is really tired. Thank you! If in a different scenario, we are a couple, it would've made things so much easier. Unfortunately we are not, and have yet to meet up. I can tell he's being really patient with me but it's the holidays, and I'm too swamped with work to meet with him. Our only means of communications has been writing back and forth, beginning with email exchanges online and then progressing to texts and finally talking on the phone. I don't want to build up his and my expectations through such means, because it's really unrealistic and we're basing each other off our own expectations. Hence, I decided I won't contact him unless I'm calling to meet up with him. I think that would be the better approach.
Pizzaman81 Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Bah... texting as limits. I get irritated when a girl texts ALL the time. After a fe long texts, I just call her.
Humate Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 (edited) I made the huge mistake of texting a girl quite frequently before meeting up for a first date and between the few after-dates I had with her. When it came to the actual dates, she didn't really match from what I saw of her throughout her texts. In this day and age it's hard to avoid not getting into technological trends but I have a personal habit of always saying "I'll call you sometime" to a potential date. If a person doesn't take a liking to phone conversations and sticks to texting, it's kind of a turn-off/flag. Words to the ears are so much more meaningful then words to the eyes (if that makes any sense lol). Edited December 23, 2011 by Humate
phineas Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Bah... texting as limits. I get irritated when a girl texts ALL the time. After a fe long texts, I just call her. Similar here. Unless it's dirty talk & pics are being sent. But for the most part if i'm just getting to know someone I prefer to use the phone just to set up face-time. Some women can write a fricken book & i'm Edward sausage hands. I spend more time correcting what I typed or picking the correct word I typo'd from the spell check feature than actually typing. so I try to stick to short responses.
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