Casablanca Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 So I posted a couple weeks back about a girl asking me to "catch up" over dinner despite us never hanging out on a one-on-one situation. I kind of figured it was her way of asking me out We hung out in a group last night (something I did invite her to just because she's a teacher and it was a teacher get together) I get home last night and I see a facebook message asking me out and her telling me she likes being around me. I'm not interested in her any more than friends, I like her friendship, and I would like to keep her in our group, she does say "That (us hanging out) doesn’t normally happen very often... This week being an exception, and I don’t really foresee it happening again unless you want it to" and "I would have told you in person, except you really didn’t seem interested and I figured it would be easier for you to ignore me if you wanted" She is right that I wasnt interested and I did my best to not show much interest as to try to not lead her on Should I respond and if so what should I say?
Oxy Moronovich Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 Yeah, just tell her you are not interested. There's no need for that, "I want to stay friends" malarky. Say you are pursuing other interests.
Lemontang Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 Yep had this and it would be in your best interest to nip it in the butt as quickly as possible. Even something as simple as "I appreciate your interest, thanks, but I'm not on the same page sorry". No point wasting her time trying to pursue you. Plus from my experience being up front has actually strengthened some acquaintances into really good friendships.
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