perfectlyflawed459 Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 @ Perfectlyflawed: I don't think it's as much to do with age, as it is to do with not knowing how to respond in times like these. We're never told how to deal with these types of situations, and even if we knew how, odds are our emotions would take over anyway. Even though my ex and I don't fight when we have contact it still hurts and is confusing. Ah well, one day it'll all just be a memory @ dicky fish: "The overall feeling I have though is a feeling of being totally lost. I don't know who I am or what my place in the world is anymore." Dude you've just described exactly how I'm feeling, and in a way knowing someone else feels like that is a comfort, because it suggests to me it's normal. Thanks for the reply and I hope things start to pick up for you soon Yea you are right. Emotions definitely derail any sort of logical thinking or any ability to keep cool during a break up. Yea talking to my ex or even someone bringing him up still stabs me a bit in the stomach :S Like today, someone pointed out how terrible he looks with that new girl and how he was such an idiot for leaving me for her. Even though they said that, it still stung to hear that they are still together ya know? Ah but it's okay, I try to appreciate all the great things I have in my life right now I think I have made great progress in my 3 month period of NC, which makes me very happy. However, I would be lying if I said I don't have a ray hope for him and I to get back together.
mike588 Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Yea you are right. Emotions definitely derail any sort of logical thinking or any ability to keep cool during a break up. Yea talking to my ex or even someone bringing him up still stabs me a bit in the stomach :S Like today, someone pointed out how terrible he looks with that new girl and how he was such an idiot for leaving me for her. Even though they said that, it still stung to hear that they are still together ya know? Ah but it's okay, I try to appreciate all the great things I have in my life right now I think I have made great progress in my 3 month period of NC, which makes me very happy. However, I would be lying if I said I don't have a ray hope for him and I to get back together. Glad to hear that your making good progress in your 3 months of N.C....I'm alittle over 4 months now of N.C. and it does help soooo much! Now I just remember and appreciate the great times I had with her and the memories...something that no one can take away(from her either) even if the outcome wasn't what I wanted. Good luck....keep up the good work!
perfectlyflawed459 Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Glad to hear that your making good progress in your 3 months of N.C....I'm alittle over 4 months now of N.C. and it does help soooo much! Now I just remember and appreciate the great times I had with her and the memories...something that no one can take away(from her either) even if the outcome wasn't what I wanted. Good luck....keep up the good work! Thank you so much I am glad to hear you are making progress as well. I am like that too. I went through my Facebook timeline and saw a history of the things him and I did together. It didn't make me sad though, but rather it put a smile on my face. I hope he remembers all those great times too. I really miss him, and I have wanted to contact him on several occasions, but I have held my ground. Man NC sucks sometimes, this isn't a bridge I really wanted to burn but it is helping me and it is for the best. Good luck to you too. I hope things work out for the best
mike588 Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Thank you so much I am glad to hear you are making progress as well. I am like that too. I went through my Facebook timeline and saw a history of the things him and I did together. It didn't make me sad though, but rather it put a smile on my face. I hope he remembers all those great times too. I really miss him, and I have wanted to contact him on several occasions, but I have held my ground. Man NC sucks sometimes, this isn't a bridge I really wanted to burn but it is helping me and it is for the best. Good luck to you too. I hope things work out for the best I'm more than sure he will remember those good times too! There is no way anyone can forget truely good/happy times!!! There is no reason to burn that bridge....I didn't..after I was dumped...the last time we spoke I left with as much dignaty as I could.....no anger or hatred towards her.....and I know she knows/feels that. I know and have accepted it's REALLY over but somewhere way...way..way back in my head I still hope she reaches out to me in the future.Like you we will have both moved on but because she meant so much to me (as did yours) it would still be somewhat comforting to hear from them.
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