witchychick Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 Hi, I've posted here before but I just need some guys opinions on something. My ex broke up with me 2 months ago and the last time he saw me,I tried coming onto him but he stopped me. I was talking to this guy and I told him about this and he thinks that means there is someone else. That would hurt and pi** me off especially since he told me there was no one else that nite. But it would also hurt if he turned me down because he was no longer physically attracted to me,or if it was just something about my looks. We were only together a few months,so would it even be possible that he turned me down because he was no longer physically attracted to me? I didnt change and couldnt really in just a few months. Also,I tried to make my title say I need opinions from guys please,and it wouldnt let me. Wth not? Weird.
carhill Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 Ever had the experience of falling out of love with a man? Where you saw him as a good friend but his presence didn't engorge those nether parts? For some men (not all), it works the same way. He may not find you sexually attractive anymore because he doesn't have those feelings for you anymore. TBH, and I mean her no disrespect to her whatsoever, I'd probably do the same thing if my exW ever 'came on' to me. Either that or vomit. A good life lesson is that a man's feelings aren't necessarily fixed by sex. Some men will still get their dick wet but that has nothing to do with how they feel. Does it hurt to be rejected like that? You betcha. Welcome to the lifetime experience of most men, whether single, LTR or M. We're all human.
smokey bear Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 When exactly was the last time you saw in in the last 2 months since you broke up, when did you try to hit on him, right after the break up 2 months ago or after that.
wilsonx Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 Hi, I've posted here before but I just need some guys opinions on something. My ex broke up with me 2 months ago and the last time he saw me,I tried coming onto him but he stopped me. I was talking to this guy and I told him about this and he thinks that means there is someone else. That would hurt and pi** me off especially since he told me there was no one else that nite. But it would also hurt if he turned me down because he was no longer physically attracted to me,or if it was just something about my looks. We were only together a few months,so would it even be possible that he turned me down because he was no longer physically attracted to me? I didnt change and couldnt really in just a few months. Also,I tried to make my title say I need opinions from guys please,and it wouldnt let me. Wth not? Weird. This is a fundamental insecurity in EVERY DAMN WOMAN. There are guys out there that will do this but I do not think this is your case here. I think he sees what I see, someone thats completely insecure with themselves in all aspects with no personal boundaries. He's actually doing you a favor, if he was an assclown, he could exploit this to no end and continue to do so until he got bored with you. In all honesty, you should be thankful that the relationship lasted as short as it did and work on your self esteem and establishing personal boundaries for how you wanted to be treated
witchychick Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 He told me he still had feelings for me the last time he saw me. I dont know. Of course only he knows how he felt,though. Why would you do the same thing if your ex came onto you? Of course I know feelings and sex dont always have anything to do with each other. And I myself have had sex with a few guys who I didnt have feelings for at the time,too. Ever had the experience of falling out of love with a man? Where you saw him as a good friend but his presence didn't engorge those nether parts? For some men (not all), it works the same way. He may not find you sexually attractive anymore because he doesn't have those feelings for you anymore. TBH, and I mean her no disrespect to her whatsoever, I'd probably do the same thing if my exW ever 'came on' to me. Either that or vomit. A good life lesson is that a man's feelings aren't necessarily fixed by sex. Some men will still get their dick wet but that has nothing to do with how they feel. Does it hurt to be rejected like that? You betcha. Welcome to the lifetime experience of most men, whether single, LTR or M. We're all human.
witchychick Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 No need to be a dick and you dont even know me. But yeah I am insecure and he knows I am insecure,too. I didnt do anything wrong,either. I just tried coming onto him and a person can't help it if they are insecure. It's certainly not something to get mad about,either. I could say a lot about most men,too. This is a fundamental insecurity in EVERY DAMN WOMAN. There are guys out there that will do this but I do not think this is your case here. I think he sees what I see, someone thats completely insecure with themselves in all aspects with no personal boundaries. He's actually doing you a favor, if he was an assclown, he could exploit this to no end and continue to do so until he got bored with you. In all honesty, you should be thankful that the relationship lasted as short as it did and work on your self esteem and establishing personal boundaries for how you wanted to be treated
witchychick Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 November 7th. That was the last time{the time I am talking about} that I tried to hit on him and the last time I saw him. He broke up with me October 22nd. When exactly was the last time you saw in in the last 2 months since you broke up, when did you try to hit on him, right after the break up 2 months ago or after that.
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