missimsla Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 A brief intro about myself, I am a 28 year old Indian guy who's been in US for 5 years but never went out on a date with anyone over here and never had a relationship with anyone out here in the West. I have a profile on okcupid and I hardly have expectations from that site as I get very few hits or responses over there anyway. However, the other weekend, I was just sending out a few messages out there casually and surprisingly got an answer from one of the women out there. So we exchanged numbers and I went out on a date to a coffee shop, well it's perhaps not a date since it wasn't really a dinner or anything like that but we hung out for an hour having coffee since we were meeting each other for the first time. After the meeting itself I texted her stating that it was nice meeting her and that I look forward to meeting her sometime again. That was on Saturday, it's been 3 days now and I texted her today casually, however, I didn't receive any response from her although I sent her 2 text messages, does that mean it's over with her and that I should move on. I wanted my first date ever in life to be a little more successful, but I guess that wasn't to be.
thatone Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 if you didn't get any sort of response she isn't interested. move on to the next one.
Soxfaninfl Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 She didn't response to your two text messages then she is not interested. Move on and dot waist anymore time on this one.
dasein Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 Would try a phone call before giving up, lots of people don't view text as a legitimate way to start up with someone. If your call goes to VM and she doesn't return it, then move on. If she answers, have a definite date plan and time in mind, not just "hang out sometime." Avoid all texting with women early on, at least until after 3-5 dates.
Author missimsla Posted December 21, 2011 Author Posted December 21, 2011 Thanks for the response folks, well actually she did send me a text message later in the night saying that she couldn't respond earlier as she was at a movie, I don't know if it's true or if she thought long and hard about responding. Anyway, I have decided to move on from her, I don't feel somehow that she's interested in me anyway.
jstobo Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 Thanks for the response folks, well actually she did send me a text message later in the night saying that she couldn't respond earlier as she was at a movie, I don't know if it's true or if she thought long and hard about responding. Anyway, I have decided to move on from her, I don't feel somehow that she's interested in me anyway. Wait, let me get this straight? She wasn't responding and you were wondering if you should move on. Now she has responded and you are for sure moving on? If she had no interest, she would not respond. She responded, so she has some interest. The next contact should be a phone call. The stupid "rules or games" say the phone call should be short to say hi and how was your weekend, but not setting up a second date. I hate that crap, so I say ask her to go out next Tuesday or something like that. This is holiday season though, so don't be put off if she says she is busy until after New Years. And in the world of online dating, she is seeing other people. Accept it and be ok with it in her eyes. All that matters is if she says yes or no to seeing you again.
Author missimsla Posted December 21, 2011 Author Posted December 21, 2011 Wait, let me get this straight? She wasn't responding and you were wondering if you should move on. Now she has responded and you are for sure moving on? If she had no interest, she would not respond. She responded, so she has some interest. The next contact should be a phone call. The stupid "rules or games" say the phone call should be short to say hi and how was your weekend, but not setting up a second date. I hate that crap, so I say ask her to go out next Tuesday or something like that. This is holiday season though, so don't be put off if she says she is busy until after New Years. And in the world of online dating, she is seeing other people. Accept it and be ok with it in her eyes. All that matters is if she says yes or no to seeing you again. Thanks for the advise, she's actually going off on a vacation to her parents house tomorrow, so she would be away for a while like around 10 days, I am thinking about moving on because I didn't feel like we would have anything going on, I mean one of my buddies who's a big time ladies man told me that if we didn't kiss after the first date, I don't have any chance. And no we didn't kiss or anything like that, it was very informal and more casual.
jobaba Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 Thanks for the advise, she's actually going off on a vacation to her parents house tomorrow, so she would be away for a while like around 10 days, I am thinking about moving on because I didn't feel like we would have anything going on, I mean one of my buddies who's a big time ladies man told me that if we didn't kiss after the first date, I don't have any chance. And no we didn't kiss or anything like that, it was very informal and more casual. I'll say this the best way possible. If you're 28 and have never had a GF or been on a date before, I think you should take this chance. It's only one date. You might grow to like her. *bolded* :lmao:
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