darran Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 Me and my ex have been broke for a year now. About a month (maybe 2) ago we started communicating again. Really good stuff, positive, warm and seemed like we were finally getting along as friends. Until I realised I have feelings for her (I can cope with it now no problem and know what I want) so I asked her VERY nicely to stop contacting me unless her intentions were different basically. This was of course after I was told by my ex she was still dating this guy she met straight after we broke up. Not only did she tell me she was still seeing this guy but she told me she wasn't in love with him, didn't know she even liked him. His age was an issue (21 years old) his religion also an issue. I mean wtf???? Yep! Head wreck! Anyway, I asked her to just leave me alone until they are done and she has different intentions. That is, she wants to talk with me, work on things and leave the past in the past - and I mean LEAVE IT THERE. So after a little moaning and throwing a mini strop, she left me alone until just recently. My ex and I have a mixed circle of friends, and naturally we are mates with friends who know us both. I have been friendly (nothing else) with one of her closest friends for about the last 6 months (a lot longer than this - 3 yrs - but just bumped into each other 6 months back and kept in touch again). She has known this and never had a problem with it. We head out in a group and I invite her along or one or two of my friends invite her along. Sometimes we do a bit of shopping together as I am not a shopper and tend to rush in and out and end up buying crap. Everything about this was ok with my ex but for some reason, especially after what happened last saturday night, she has got extremely jealous... has someone been gossiping? I just don't understand what has happened! She called me on a Saturday night, I answered the call... I genuinely didn't know who it was (hidden number)... As soon as I realised who it was I was just ok with it all and let her carry on. firstly my ex asked how I was... then asked if we (my ex's friend and I) were sleeping together! I just laughed and said WHAT!!! firstly I don't fancy her and secondly it would be the dumbest thing to do and not to mention, I've been hoping one day my ex and I would finally be ok talking and mingling again. Yes I care for her and want us all back being cool with each other - but of course, while this guy is in the picture (and I have my reasons) I don't want to know! The conversation about me sleeping with her friend lasted all of 30 seconds. Then she kept asking if I was seeing someone, if I was sleeping with anyone. She hounded me for an answer and I got a little muffed off and said does it really matter, I mean you're with someone so what does it matter? I then changed the subject asked how her mum and brother were doing and how she was doing in her new job etc. And then ended the call and left it at that. The following day she called twice. I didn't pick up, the next day again she called.... this time during work hours. I picked up, she didn't say anything and then she hung up! So come sunday I needed a bit of help for xmas shopping so asked my friend (and hers) could she help me out picking out a few things. So off we went and almost as soon as we walked into the store we bumped into my EX and my ex's mother out xmas shopping. We said hi, politely and walked on by. I thought "finally, we are all gonna be able to let it go and maybe everything will iron itself out". I dropped my friend home and about 20 mins later got a call. She was distraught! My ex started publicly putting my friend (and her friend) down over Facebook... I never looked at the post but it was some seriously nasty stuff. I sent my ex a text the next day and told her "what happened yesterday was out of order, what the hell is going through your head? It wasn't nice and what you said was very hurtful. I thought all this **** was in the past. You need to take a good long hard look at what you said and what you are doing. You should feel ashamed of yourself." I am confused as she is behaving really oddly, I am not even sleeping with anyone let alone our friend! I am not trying to get her back, I always ask her NICELY to do the right thing (get rid of the clown she ran off with) before talking to me as I don't want to know otherwise. Regardless of what some may think I am doing the right thing, I see no problem remaining friends with this person as I am also friends with other people she knows and she never says a thing about that! This all sounds like high school nonsense! What is going on with my ex???? Should I stop being friends with my mate?
Desensitized Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 Don't stop being friends with your mutual friend. Honestly, why the hell do you want to get back together with this girl? She seems very immature.
Author darran Posted December 21, 2011 Author Posted December 21, 2011 Yea, I didn't think stop being friends with her would be an option! Thanks dude. With regards to my EX.... I dunno what's happened with my ex mate! :S She's just went off on one! Really, she was never this bad!
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