amythan Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 Hi, So finally here I am. After all my love disasters I decided to give it a try. I set up an account yesterday and I met this guy who seems really cool. He lives close to me, works in the same industry and well in the picture he is incredible handsome. But he is very .. insistent. H emailed me quite a few times and asked me to add him on Facebook. Is this normal in online dating ? Are people in general that pushy ? I would prefer to grab a coffee before adding him and let him stalker all my life ... Just trying to figure out how this works
Twos Company Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 Only one pic of him? I'd ask for a couple more at least. I feel the same, I don't get this whole adding to facebook or MSN before ever even talking on the phone or going on a date, it's a waste of time. If you are new and he has pounced full throttle like that I'd be a bit wary that he is a bit desperate.
Lonely Ronin Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 If you are new and he has pounced full throttle like that I'd be a bit wary that he is a bit desperate. Or a psycho!
PlumPrincess Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 I'd never ever add anyone to my Facebook account without - uh, ok, I was about to say "... that I have never met in real life," but actually I have done that before. Ok, another try - I'd never add anyone I met on a dating site to my Facebook account without having met in person. I often don't even give people my first name. Tips: - Don't get your hopes high. - People put up fake information about themselves - age, pictures, etc. - Make sure the pictures are up-to-date
xpaperxcutx Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 There are more creeps online than there are none. I just recently got back to online saing myself and there was this guy who decided to write me a full letter about " the one". I was skeptical about him ( I mean really, 7 paragraphs for an introduction) so I wrote him back just to be nice and hopefully give him a chance. His second letter consisted of his life history his number and his email fr me to contact him. I was weirded out. Oh and I would never give out my fb because one its private and two only close famly and friends have access to my ijformation. I don't like to ' friend' random strangers whom I have never met.
curlygirl40 Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 There seems to be a difference of opinion with FB depending on age groups I'm finding. I'm in my 40's and I dont' add people that I'm dating, especially newly dating, and never before I met them. My whole life is on there. Pics of my kids and vacations, etc., etc. I have a great line (I think so anyway!) that I got from a friend so this is what I say: My whole life is on Facebook, I would much rather you get to know me the usual way instead of finding things out about me by reading my Facebook. It's not a lie, it's totally true. But yet the reason for not adding a person doesn't sound like 'because I don't know you and it might creep me out'.
xpaperxcutx Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 There seems to be a difference of opinion with FB depending on age groups I'm finding. I'm in my 40's and I dont' add people that I'm dating, especially newly dating, and never before I met them. My whole life is on there. Pics of my kids and vacations, etc., etc. I have a great line (I think so anyway!) that I got from a friend so this is what I say: My whole life is on Facebook, I would much rather you get to know me the usual way instead of finding things out about me by reading my Facebook. It's not a lie, it's totally true. But yet the reason for not adding a person doesn't sound like 'because I don't know you and it might creep me out'. No doubt when there are childre involved there is need to be more cautious and just because fb is a social network doesn't mean you're entirely open to random people. Considering how dating is about gradually getting to know a person, would you actually want a guy yo recently met to snoop through pictures of you and your family? If you are informative as most people are with their info on fb, you really want to be sure only peopl You trust have access. I certainly do not want a guy to snoop through my life. If he wnts to know me persanlly, then he has to meet me in person and get to know me in conversation
Mme. Chaucer Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 NO. Do not add ANY men you are dating to facebook until/ unless you establish a real relationship with them.
Soxfaninfl Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 I agree. Do not add this guy as a friend on Facebook. You barley know him. He sounds bait pushy to be honest.
jobaba Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 Hi, So finally here I am. After all my love disasters I decided to give it a try. I set up an account yesterday and I met this guy who seems really cool. He lives close to me, works in the same industry and well in the picture he is incredible handsome. But he is very .. insistent. H emailed me quite a few times and asked me to add him on Facebook. Is this normal in online dating ? Are people in general that pushy ? I would prefer to grab a coffee before adding him and let him stalker all my life ... Just trying to figure out how this works Oh yea. (referencing the Too Ugly to Date thread) It's really tough for women out there. :laugh: Good luck with the online dating...
Author amythan Posted December 22, 2011 Author Posted December 22, 2011 Not that easy as you think ! He emailed me today again asking me why I did't add him .. at this point I am creeped out. I am also under the feeling that his picture is fake and something is weird .. For someone with the level of education and job he claims he has, his writing skills don't really match .. I guess I am ready for the next one
SincereOnlineGuy Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 Good for you, Amy! I wouldn't add such a person. He's just trying to 'control' you, even before you have anything at all invested in him. This is just a harbinger of things potentially to come if you start dating him.
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