Author jstobo Posted January 3, 2012 Author Posted January 3, 2012 It's hard for us to know how you communicated with her. For us to really know, you'd have to show us the communication log (the texts you sent versus those she sent, you called her, what did your vm say). That she responded to your texts over New Years indicated some positive interest. But where was the text conversation leading? I know it's hard to know without seeing everything word for word. Half of her texts would just answer my question and half of them would be something like "did you have a good night?" I would answer her and add a question. That's when she would wait a day. A third of my texts were simply me saying I would give her a call later. My voicemail was simply letting her know I wanted to say hi and to give me a call. That was a Thursday. By Saturday, she hadn't called. I broke down and sent her a text that Saturday. She responded to that. The next day was Christmas. I wished her a Merry Christmas. She responded with the same the next day. I asked if she was busy this week and she said she had her son all week. I told her to let me know if anything opens up for her. She responded with, "you really can't wait to see me again." . I wrote, "what can I say, you're really fun to be with." I never heard from her that week. I finally texted her New Year's Eve. I think you know the rest. Maybe I handled it wrong, but I pursue, I don't chase!
phineas Posted January 3, 2012 Posted January 3, 2012 Yeah, she was feeding you bread crumbs. I was like you in the beginning also. Afraid of scaring a woman off. But now, She either wants to see me once week or she goes on the back burner. I can't get to know somebody if i'm only seeing them twice a month. I also don't go for that drive-by texting crap where they ping you with a question then don't respond when you answer. WTF is that?
Author jstobo Posted January 4, 2012 Author Posted January 4, 2012 So 2 days later, she responded saying she understood and it was nice meeting me and wished me luck. 2 days to send THAT response. What a frustrating experience!
joeyanna Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 So 2 days later, she responded saying she understood and it was nice meeting me and wished me luck. 2 days to send THAT response. What a frustrating experience! Welcome to the world of dating!!!
phineas Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 So 2 days later, she responded saying she understood and it was nice meeting me and wished me luck. 2 days to send THAT response. What a frustrating experience! I hope you didn't respond. She was either scrambling to lock down the other option or waiting to see if you changed your mind so she could keep stringing you along. Delete this chicks number.
Author jstobo Posted January 4, 2012 Author Posted January 4, 2012 I hope you didn't respond. She was either scrambling to lock down the other option or waiting to see if you changed your mind so she could keep stringing you along. Delete this chicks number. I didn't see anything to respond to. I thought her wishing me luck was a pretty clear message about her interest, which was minimal.
Imajerk17 Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 I hope you didn't respond. She was either scrambling to lock down the other option or waiting to see if you changed your mind so she could keep stringing you along. Delete this chicks number. I agree with phineas (who gives great advice, IMO)
Emilia Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 Phineas is right when he says he draws a line quickly if he perceives someone isn't showing him enough interest/she is too lazy/flaky, etc. There are a lot of people out there OP who just float around wasting everyone's time. Maybe they check out other options in the meantime, maybe they are annoyingly flaky, maybe they don't want to disappoint you and hope that you will lose interest. If a woman doesn't return your call, maybe you can try one more time just to see whether she had a good reason not to but otherwise walk away. There is absolutely no reason why you should have some drawn out, unsatisfying text communications with anyone. What's the point? Most don't go anywhere. I'm the same. If I sense the guy is lazy/not interested enough/not trying to build rapport/etc I lose interest and move on.
Buttercup84 Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 I don't play games . If I like a guy I text him after the date to say I had fun . You are not keeping me interested if you play hard to get . If a guy thinks I'm coming on too strong then he isn't the one , I'll get over it . So if you like me , call me or text me ASAP .
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