ChipsnSalsa Posted December 20, 2011 Share Posted December 20, 2011 (edited) Hi, Thanks for looking at this post. Here is the scoop, no pun intended (chips n salsa, get it?) There is a girl that I like and well she knows it(though I didn't tell her verbatum), and she started to withdraw some from interacting with me via text/FBook. Fast forward to this past weekend.. I asked her to join me at an event and I got the ole BLAB BLAB, i might not go cause 'got too much to do this weekend w/ Xmas coming up, etc.. Understandable, but someone always tries to make time for someone they like and I thought something sounded fishy... so I invited a few girls who I am just friends with to the event instead. Turns out I happened to see the girl I like with another guy, imagine that. So, the girls i went with posted on my FB about how much fun they had and BLAB BLAB... The girl I like obviously was checking out my wall recently, cause she posted something like "I'm so happy you had a great time this weekend!". etc, etc... My question is 2 fold: 1. How do you respond to that if at all, knowing she showed up with another guy. Maybe it went great for her, maybe it didn't.. I don't know. 2. And what does she mean by "I'm so happy you had a great time!", is she for real or meaning something else? Thanks, Chips Edited December 20, 2011 by ChipsnSalsa Link to post Share on other sites
jadedone Posted December 20, 2011 Share Posted December 20, 2011 She is steering you towards your other female friends, so that you will leave her alone while she concentrates on the guy she was with. Link to post Share on other sites
ditzchic Posted December 20, 2011 Share Posted December 20, 2011 She is steering you towards your other female friends, so that you will leave her alone while she concentrates on the guy she was with. Agreed. She is trying to be gracious and friendly but letting you know that seeing you there didn't affect her negatively at all. She's not interested. Link to post Share on other sites
PlumPrincess Posted December 20, 2011 Share Posted December 20, 2011 She is steering you towards your other female friends, so that you will leave her alone while she concentrates on the guy she was with. Not unlikely. And she probably wanted to show you that she wishes you well despite not wanting to date you. And notice that she didn't apologize. Link to post Share on other sites
serial muse Posted December 20, 2011 Share Posted December 20, 2011 I concur with the others...it's unanimous. She was trying to indicate that she feels friendly toward you but nothing more, and she's hoping there are no hard feelings. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ChipsnSalsa Posted December 20, 2011 Author Share Posted December 20, 2011 I concur with the others...it's unanimous. She was trying to indicate that she feels friendly toward you but nothing more, and she's hoping there are no hard feelings. Thanks for the input, but why bother at all? Should I just respond with a simple Thanks? Link to post Share on other sites
ScienceGal Posted December 20, 2011 Share Posted December 20, 2011 Thanks for the input, but why bother at all? Should I just respond with a simple Thanks? She wants to be friendly and that's it. This is her way of being clear about that. I wouldn't respond if I were you. Just move on... Link to post Share on other sites
serial muse Posted December 20, 2011 Share Posted December 20, 2011 Thanks for the input, but why bother at all? Should I just respond with a simple Thanks? As ScienceGal said, you don't need to. She probably responded just because she felt a little bad for saying she wasn't going and then going with someone else. Sounds like a case of her feeling awkward. Link to post Share on other sites
PlumPrincess Posted December 20, 2011 Share Posted December 20, 2011 Thanks for the input, but why bother at all? Should I just respond with a simple Thanks? I would consider it nice if the guy said thanks back. Thus, I knew he wasn't having hard feelings for me either and that me not going out with him wasn't a big deal (that makes handling interactions in the future easier). I'm the kind of person who would assume that you were angry with me if you didn't reply to my message. Link to post Share on other sites
Wolf18 Posted December 20, 2011 Share Posted December 20, 2011 Delete this person from your life. Link to post Share on other sites
ditzchic Posted December 20, 2011 Share Posted December 20, 2011 Don't respond at all. I highly doubt she even cares if you are upset with her or not. Stop putting yourself out there for her. Take your ball and go home. Link to post Share on other sites
PlumPrincess Posted December 20, 2011 Share Posted December 20, 2011 Don't respond at all. I highly doubt she even cares if you are upset with her or not. Stop putting yourself out there for her. Take your ball and go home. If she didn't care, she wouldn't have said anything at all. Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted December 20, 2011 Share Posted December 20, 2011 It means that even though she didn't go with you, she is glad that you still managed to go and sort of had a good time. I guess she must feel bad that she went with someone else and you saw her. Link to post Share on other sites
ditzchic Posted December 20, 2011 Share Posted December 20, 2011 If she didn't care, she wouldn't have said anything at all. I think it more a nicety more than anything. Her way of saying "Hey no hard feelings, ok?". If she cared that much she wouldn't have shown up with another guy when she knew he would probably be there. Just because she isn't souless doesn't mean that she could give two strokes what happens from this point forward. Link to post Share on other sites
PlumPrincess Posted December 20, 2011 Share Posted December 20, 2011 I think it more a nicety more than anything. Her way of saying "Hey no hard feelings, ok?". If she cared that much she wouldn't have shown up with another guy when she knew he would probably be there. Just because she isn't souless doesn't mean that she could give two strokes what happens from this point forward. I don't think you can expect a woman to limit her social/romantic life, because she might hurt someone's feelings. It's not her fault the guy fell for her and that it hurts his feelings seeing her with someone else. I think it's nice of her to acknowledge his feelings, but she should not have to apologize that she feels differently. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ChipsnSalsa Posted December 21, 2011 Author Share Posted December 21, 2011 (edited) I don't think you can expect a woman to limit her social/romantic life, because she might hurt someone's feelings. It's not her fault the guy fell for her and that it hurts his feelings seeing her with someone else. I think it's nice of her to acknowledge his feelings, but she should not have to apologize that she feels differently. Everybody, thanks so much for the input. If it doesn't work it out doesn't work out, truth be told I kind of killed the mystery... so thats my fault and hopefully I will learn from this experience. The thing I don't get, even though there was mutual physical and mental attraction the last time I saw her and we made tentative plans to see each other again, is why, if she is not interested romantically and views me as just a friend, would she wait to make the comment only after she found out I was with other girls? Coincidence? A caveat to this is that her comment was also only made after someone mentioned that one my "friends" and I look good together, and truth be told my "friend" is a knockout... but so is the girl i like... Haha... dating is nutz And I get that she might feel bad and is caring just to be nice, and that may be true... but someone else mentioned a different take on things given the history. They said that she may not of had the greatest time with this guy she went out with, and she might be a little jealous that I moved in another direction so quickly with other girl when I couldn't get a staight answer from her. Or, she wants the other girls who are my friends to know she is in the picture too. Oh well, time will tell all.. and dating can be so confusing... LOL Cheers from... Chips Edited December 21, 2011 by ChipsnSalsa Link to post Share on other sites
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