Pizzaman81 Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 I got tons of photos from the times I was with my ex. All of our trips and such. After a few months, I still have them on my computer where they were before. I never touched them. But one day, I will have to find a way to put them somewhere. My previous ex's I put them in a thumb drive and store them somewhere. I now forgot where my thumb drives are and would probably one day be found by my future wife and divorce will ensue. I mean some pics I want to keep.. like scenery and such. But ya.. it's tough. I am at that familiar place in my life again. So where do you all put them? Delete? Store? Forget?
colliejoanie Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 My ex husband has ALL of our pics on an external hard drive.....how do I know this? His new girlfriend said they found them one day, they went through the whole thing, and he told her "our" story. It wasn't weird at all, for some reason. I know my ex husband loved me and cherished those times... For me? I have ALL my pictures in one place. (before digital, mind you - after digital, I really haven't saved any). The physical pics I have, I hope to keep forever. I guess I'm old enough now to realize that we all had lives before our SO's. And for whatever reason, other relationships didn't work out. I never want to forget the adventures I had, or who I had them with.....and I wouldn't expect a guy who's had any sort of life outside of his mama's womb to throw meaningful pictures away.
Author Pizzaman81 Posted December 20, 2011 Author Posted December 20, 2011 Ah ok! Man.. where did I put those thumb drives.
colliejoanie Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 Haha! The thing is, I know they're there. I've never hidden them from anyone.....and I haven't looked at them for ages....I especially don't look at them when I'm happily involved with someone. there's no need. They're just a part of my history....and his pictures are a part of his. I do like to compare myself to the nasty a.ss hoes my ex's have dated though. Bahahahaha!
Author Pizzaman81 Posted December 20, 2011 Author Posted December 20, 2011 Haha! The thing is, I know they're there. I've never hidden them from anyone.....and I haven't looked at them for ages....I especially don't look at them when I'm happily involved with someone. there's no need. They're just a part of my history....and his pictures are a part of his. I do like to compare myself to the nasty a.ss hoes my ex's have dated though. Bahahahaha! Hahahaha. Aren't you glad you got out of that! :bunny:
Lonely Ronin Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 Mine are on a thumb drive in a box in the attic, along with anything else of significance from our 7 year relationship. It's shocking how little space, the stuff that really matters takes up.
Author Pizzaman81 Posted December 20, 2011 Author Posted December 20, 2011 Mine are on a thumb drive in a box in the attic, along with anything else of significance from our 7 year relationship. It's shocking how little space, the stuff that really matters takes up. Don't worry man, thumb drives store a lot of capacity. It's not the size that matters... if you've heard that before
oldguy Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 I've managed to salvage a few very early pics & wish there where a few more. It's surprising how time changes your perspective. I came across a picture of a girl that broke my heart in HS some 20 years later & found myself smiling from ear to ear. At the time she broke my heart I didn't think that day would ever come. It made me feel better about the circumstance I was in when i found that old pic.
snug.bunny Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 We didn't store pics on the computer back then (God I sound ancient ) so they were put in a box and stored away. To be honest, some of them may have gotten thrown out when I last moved, but I think I still have a few cards written to me stored away somewhere.
oldguy Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 For me an old photograph feels more like it is linked to the moment it was taken than a digital pic. I'm not sure why it just does. Maybe it's just me or does anyone else feel that way?
kaylan Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 Well I try to move on as quick as possible and usually tell myself they arent a part of my life anymore and wipe them out. I delete and throw out all pictures, and also get rid of any reminders of them. This way I feel i start over clean. Now you should note that I am in my 20s and havent been married, so I have no need for mementos since I havent been in super long relationships yet. But hell, even if I was married and divorced I prolly would keep stuff.
snug.bunny Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 For me an old photograph feels more like it is linked to the moment it was taken than a digital pic. I'm not sure why it just does. Maybe it's just me or does anyone else feel that way? Agree. I love looking through old family photo albums and what not, and I have first dibs on my Family's photo albums . But, there is something a bit different with actual photos or looking through a photo album versus stored on the PC. When they're in a photo album, it kind of gives you a chronological history to view through which I think is nice.
Lonely Ronin Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 Don't worry man, thumb drives store a lot of capacity. It's not the size that matters... if you've heard that before I wasn't referring to the photos, I meant all the other inanimate object that shouldn't mean anything, but do.
EnigmaticClarity Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 For me an old photograph feels more like it is linked to the moment it was taken than a digital pic. I'm not sure why it just does. Maybe it's just me or does anyone else feel that way? Your username explains it all.
EnigmaticClarity Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 For me an old photograph feels more like it is linked to the moment it was taken than a digital pic. I'm not sure why it just does. Maybe it's just me or does anyone else feel that way? Your username explains it all.
Casablanca Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 I really have never had any physical ones, Ive had a couple, but I trashed them, no reason to keep those...there are some still on facebook either that I loaded up or they loaded by them, I just leave those be, no reason to delete or untag myself from them.
tigressA Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 I don't have any pictures of exes...once the relationship is over I get rid of them. It's too hard for me to move on if I still have pictures because the temptation to look at them and wallow in sadness is always there--at least until I get over it, and by that time I don't care about not having any pictures.
oaks Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 So where do you all put them? Delete? Store? Forget? I build a special shrine complete with candles. Actually, I don't "put" them anywhere special - the photos will already be mixed in with all the other photos I have and I'm far too lazy to sort through them just to find ones including my ex to give them any special treatment. The paper ones are in boxes in various cupboards, and the electronic ones are on various hard disks, DVDs, CDs etc. Some are also on Facebook. I wouldn't be too keen on throwing some of them away if they are also memories of, say, a great holiday or a friend's wedding, and I would be concerned if my current girlfriend wanted me to airbrush previous partners out of existence - we're both old enough (30s) to have had previous relationships and to expect each other to have had previous relationships. Hopefully she's not so insecure as to get upset when she inevitably, eventually, sees an old photo of me standing next to an ex.
Author Pizzaman81 Posted December 20, 2011 Author Posted December 20, 2011 Man... The worst is when you come across a bday card that reads along the lines of: Dear (your name) "hunny", Blah blah blah ... "I feel so lucky to be part of this event with you and this will be one of infinite more we will spend together" ... -love (sig other name) She never did anything wrong... It was just two people who didn't get Long towards the end.
O'Malley Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 (edited) For me an old photograph feels more like it is linked to the moment it was taken than a digital pic. I'm not sure why it just does. Maybe it's just me or does anyone else feel that way? I have photos of my maternal grandparents and my mother from before they emigrated. It brings back an entire lifetime and culture that I've only been able to visualize from their recollections. My father was nearly fifty when I was born, so having the photos of him growing up and his war service pictures are the only reminders that I really have of his youth. I've kept some pre digital photos of my ex boyfriend (I'm only in my thirties, but I prefer having actual photos, not just stored images). They're nice reminders of outings with friends, some are with my dogs who have since passed away. Those memories are meaningful to me, and I'm not chucking them out simply because he's in them. My boyfriend knows about and has seen some of the pictures, he doesn't mind at all. No mushy love notes or naughty "hall of shame" photos, though....those never were my style. I wouldn't want to come across someone else's! Edited December 20, 2011 by O'Malley
Lonely Ronin Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 Man... The worst is when you come across a bday card that reads along the lines of: Dear (your name) "hunny", Blah blah blah ... "I feel so lucky to be part of this event with you and this will be one of infinite more we will spend together" ... -love (sig other name) I got a two page hand written essay like this after we got engaged. :-( It's in a special envelope, that says don't open.
Author Pizzaman81 Posted December 20, 2011 Author Posted December 20, 2011 I got a two page hand written essay like this after we got engaged. :-( It's in a special envelope, that says don't open. Damn dude... sorry to hear that
Lonely Ronin Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 Damn dude... sorry to hear that Thanks man. It's ok, I'm at peace with it.
JohnP82 Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 Wherever our trash goes in Texas....Louisiana? (j/k) But really, I throw that stuff away.
wildgeese Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 I honestly don't keep any letters or pictures. I'll keep little things that an ex-boyfriend may have given as a present (I use that stuff!) but they usually don't maintain sentimental significance or anything. Out with the old, in with the new.
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