UmbrellaBoy Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 Well, you can look up my old threads through my profile I guess. But, I guess if you "shake the TV" enough, eventually it fixes itself. He broke up with his boyfriend is kicking him out of the apartment for me finally because I went no contact and he couldn't stand the thought of that again and realized he couldn't have it both ways any more and really did have to choose. And he chose me! I know. I know. "If he acted that way once, he will again." But we'll see.
whichwayisup Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 Take..It..Slowly! He ended his relationship "for you" and is "kicking (ex)boyfriend out." So, it is just happening or about to happen.. Does he (and you) expect to just get together and live life, go on as if nothing happened? Don't go rushing into this and move in with him. He still needs time to grieve the loss of his previous relationship, he isn't "over" that guy, even if he does want to be with you. Just allow him time and space to work through stuff, don't go and have sex.. Save that for when the timing is right and is special. Otherwise it'll be just picking up where you left off and have the same affair dynamic. Hope this makes sense to you. Date and keep it light, get to know him again in a new light. Just shield your heart. He isn't "yours" yet. Words and his intentions are one thing, actions are a whole other game.
nofool4u Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 Well, you can look up my old threads through my profile I guess. But, I guess if you "shake the TV" enough, eventually it fixes itself. He broke up with his boyfriend is kicking him out of the apartment for me finally because I went no contact and he couldn't stand the thought of that again and realized he couldn't have it both ways any more and really did have to choose. And he chose me! I know. I know. "If he acted that way once, he will again." But we'll see. Congratulations!! Your prize? A lying cheat.
LilyBart Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 Congratulations!! Your prize? A lying cheat. Huh. I guess the same can be said for the BW whose WH ends up "staying" because he begged and threw the OW under the bus. I just love it when statements like this are made.
reboot Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 Huh. I guess the same can be said for the BW whose WH ends up "staying" because he begged and threw the OW under the bus. I just love it when statements like this are made. You're absolutely right, it IS the same. Nobody said differently. What's your point?
bentnotbroken Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 You're absolutely right, it IS the same. Nobody said differently. What's your point? Her point is she really liiiikkkkkeeeessss it.
reboot Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 Her point is she really liiiikkkkkeeeessss it. Heh. You're always so good at cutting through all the crap.
bentnotbroken Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 Heh. You're always so good at cutting through all the crap. Always carry an extra pair of hip boots;)
donnamaybe Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 Always carry an extra pair of hip boots;) Wise advice Grasshopper. Especially in certain circumstances.
nofool4u Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 Huh. I guess the same can be said for the BW whose WH ends up "staying" because he begged and threw the OW under the bus. Yes, the same could be said. I never advise staying with a cheater. I just love it when statements like this are made. Why? I agree with you.
Author UmbrellaBoy Posted December 30, 2011 Author Posted December 30, 2011 So...I don't really know what to do now. We're taking it slow, have been on a few things that felt like dates (we're going to a New Year's party tomorrow). I know it's difficult because there have been holiday trips interrupting things and the break-up just happened, but...whose court is this ball in? Should we discuss things? Should I back off for a while?
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