sghffdmc Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 Man, has my life changed over the past 3 months. I'm 21 years old and a junior in college. In October, I broke up with my girlfriend of 2 and a half years. It was a tough break up, but I thought I needed to explore myself, grow on my own, and my love for my ex had faded. Although I was sad, I was excited to be single in college for the first time with no relationship responsibilities. I will admit, I'm having more fun than ever going out all the time with my friends. However, one of the things I thought I would enjoy more would be doing the college thing and occasionally hooking up with random girls. Well, just this past weekend, I had casual sex and before that I had only been with one person, my ex. I enjoyed it of course, as sex tends to be enjoyable, but at the same time I was disappointed. After hearing all of these stories from various friends, I discovered hooking up with random girls wasn't all it's cracked up to be. At least not to me. In fact, I don't even know if I care to pursue girls while I'm out anymore, at least not purely for the sake of bringing them home. I want more than that, I want a significant other and I want sex to mean something, not be just another experience. However, I say all this, but at the same time I have my doubts. I have had more fun than I ever have in my first two years of college over these past few months. I have enjoyed talking to different women without feeling guilty. I also don't want to just be looking for a "rebound relationship", though I can assure you I am over my ex. I also feel like I'm not normal. Is it weird that I'm not into casual sex with random girls? Does it sound like I'm ready to be in another committed relationship, or should I just relax, be single and let life come to me? Is there such thing as a "relationship type of person" who just prefers to be in a relationship? Any advice is greatly appreciated...
Stilnaught Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 (edited) If you are honest with your own feelings & thoughts, why should you be worried? Besides, i share your attitude towards casual sex: it ain't fun without love. Perhaps i lack the mindset, to be able to surrender to "lust", but then i guess i'm more of an emotional type + i hate other guys who have slept with every female on earth, or just keep them as pets (know guys who are in one relationship after another, but treat them as **** time after time). I'd start looking at it from another perspective: you're not a desperate guy, you're not an emotional abuser, you're having fun without troubling anyone with it. And i think it makes you a better catch than all the other type of guys i just describes. But then, i am male too. I can't guarantee all of the women will share this opinion But i got through my life developing this set of moral viewpoints. When i got them worked out & really honestly lived like that, i had a blast of at time ... and encountered my ex, my first great love. Things didn't work out between us, but i blame the hard time i had & the fact that i lost my drive for a long while. So now i'm getting back into this again. Have fun, let the players play & live the better life. It will lead to the better women automatically. Edited December 19, 2011 by Stilnaught
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