fucpcg Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 (edited) My ex split up with me last february, and went thru a tremendous anger phase. She told me she would never speak to me again, and when she did speak of me to other people, she went on and on about what a terrible boyfriend I was. After our split, when I would randomly bump into her out, she was extremely unpleasant, and she would never avoid me, almost kind like a show of strength, if you get what I mean. She sure as $hit wasn't about to leave the club, that would show weakness. She was more like if she saw me, she'd find an excuse to walk right past me. That was always her demeanor. I don't go out much other than summers, and holiday seasons when I have friends in from out of town. I hadn't come face to face with my ex in months. Four weeks ago I hit a club I know she used to like to hang out at. Her routine was get there a little bit before midnight, and stay till 2am close. I got there about 11, and about 11.30 she walked right in front of me real quickly and went into different section of club. At the time I was looking up watching a sporting event, I just caught a glimpse of her very blond hair, and by the time I looked to see if her, she was well past me. I finished my drink and left the club. When leaving she walked right past my friends car as she crossed street to leave club, so she basically hung out for 15mins and left, totally not character for her. Okay now flash forward to just this past Saturday. I walk thru entrance atrium, stand up against wall, and turn around to look and wait for my friends coming. About 5 seconds behind me was my ex. We locked eyes as she walked thru the atrium. When she got to where I was standing, I got a half of a smile, she said hello (which I repeated back), then she walked past. It may be wishful thinking, but I swear she almost stopped to talk, then decided last moment to keep going. Maybe that is my own fantasy, can't be sure either way. I kept my cool, let her pass, and did not go anywhere near the area of club she was hanging in. Okay now just like four weeks ago... next thing I know I see that very blond hair taking a very far path away from me to the exit, and leaves, about 15 minutes after arriving. Honestly I have never known her to ever go to this club and leave before 2am close. What's going on, thoughts? Could it possibly be that 10 months since the break, and basically nc completely, initiated by her, has led to her calming down and missing me? Her and I had amazing relationship, she was my best friend, and we spoke of things like marriage and maybe a child (we are 40 and 41 so kids a big consideration at our age). It ended after a fight got blown completely out of proportion, and she refused to talk about it and just moved on. She went thru ugly divorce before me, so I know that is something that did affect her, and probably the outcome of this fight. Okay now you go.... Edited December 19, 2011 by fucpcg
smokey bear Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 Your situation is hard to judge, i havent experienced it before, the age thing etc makes it difficult mixed in with her liking her drink and partying, from this all i can gauge is that yes, she has calmed down. To answer any other questions, you'll have to ask her which may be possible now that she has calmed down.
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