cdm369 Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 Was married 2 a woman for 6 years....had 3 kids together. She cheated on me and I kicked her out. I have the kids. We were both real young...each others first love....so on. Its been 10 years...first of the year we decided to try again...she came to me. Both had a horrible relationship since each other. I figure we both grew up. Together about 7 months and had a blow because of lie she told and led to me finding out other things. None of which are good but had to be dealt with. She decided she didn't want to be with me anymore because I put my foot down and established CLEAR boundaries. Well...she went to her mothers for about 3 days and came back and told me that none of the things she was fighting for was important as what she would be losing. She didn't want to lose everything again. She came back and has been really accomodating and cooperative. I don't know if she is sincere or doing a better job of playing the game. I am pleased but still can't get that nagging feeling to go away. Maybe with time I guess. Will it get better. Am I a fool for letting her come back. What's your thoughts?
ShannonMI Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 Was married 2 a woman for 6 years....had 3 kids together. She cheated on me and I kicked her out. I have the kids. We were both real young...each others first love....so on. Its been 10 years...first of the year we decided to try again...she came to me. Both had a horrible relationship since each other. I figure we both grew up. Together about 7 months and had a blow because of lie she told and led to me finding out other things. None of which are good but had to be dealt with. She decided she didn't want to be with me anymore because I put my foot down and established CLEAR boundaries. Well...she went to her mothers for about 3 days and came back and told me that none of the things she was fighting for was important as what she would be losing. She didn't want to lose everything again. She came back and has been really accomodating and cooperative. I don't know if she is sincere or doing a better job of playing the game. I am pleased but still can't get that nagging feeling to go away. Maybe with time I guess. Will it get better. Am I a fool for letting her come back. What's your thoughts? You aren't a fool for taking her back. You love her. It's hard to just shut someone you love out of your life. And you have children together. Maybe you should try couples counseling. If you don't know if she's sincere or not perhaps going and talking things through with a therapist would help you to figure out if she was for real or not. It sounds like the problems are reoccurring. I think seeing someone as a couple would be a good idea. That way you can both talk about things and there will be an outside party to give you feedback and prospective. Just a thought.
Soxfaninfl Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 You two needs couples counseling. It's recommended when a divorced couple get back together especially when kids are involved.
Eddie Edirol Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 Let that nagging feeling keep your heart at a distance from her. Stay with her for now, watch her closely. She might have changed, maybe she didnt, but you wont be satisfied until you have clear evidence of either. So you dont need to trust her right away, just keep it to yourself until you have some clear evidence.
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