El Brujo Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 Ladies, if you had to choose between a successful fatso and a thin loser, which would you pick? Let's not go outside the box on this one...
Philosoraptor Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 The person who is successful probably has a great deal of ambition in life and has proven they can make a difference. I would always chose the successful person, no matter what the weight, as that person would have the drive needed to stay not only successful in life, but in a relationship as well. Not a lady though.
Ruby Slippers Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 If I had to pick one, I'd take the fat guy. Since he's successful elsewhere, he could most likely be successful at losing weight if he made the commitment. But as far as a relationship goes, a loser is just dead weight, pretty much -- someone who will most likely just drag you down and try to mooch off your hard-earned success. No thanks.
Nexus One Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 But as far as a relationship goes, a loser is just dead weight, pretty much -- someone who will most likely just drag you down and try to mooch off your hard-earned success. No thanks. Jesus, what a way to think about people.
CocoaBrown Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 Unless they want to take care of someone and have serious issues, would anyone actually choose the thin loser??!
Ruby Slippers Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 Jesus, what a way to think about people. Well, it's true. Believe me, I have a wide 'save the world' streak, and have wasted a lot of time and energy trying to help people who will never help themselves. Now I've figured out that the key is to help people help themselves, without letting them drag you down. To me, a 'loser' is someone who has the self-defeating attitude that he/she is a loser and will never 'win'. If a person is convinced this is true about him/herself, it is. And there's very little anyone else can do to change that.
oaks Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 Jesus, what a way to think about people. These aren't people. They are El Brujo's thin caricatures. Well, one of them is thin; the other is a fatso.
Ruby Slippers Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 And Nexus, would you want to be with a lazy, free-loading woman who has no aspirations for herself and no will to make things happen? I doubt it.
jobaba Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 Ladies, if you had to choose between a successful fatso and a thin loser, which would you pick? Let's not go outside the box on this one... Tough choice. Tiebreaker might have to come down to penis length...
Nexus One Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 To me, a 'loser' is someone who has the self-defeating attitude that he/she is a loser and will never 'win'. That changes the context, I thought you were talking about poor people or people who failed in life despite trying.
iris219 Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 How fat are we talking here? Is he willing to lose weight? If he's super obese with no plans to lose weight, I'm not going there. I wouldn't call someone who doesn't take care of their body successful anyway. If by "loser" you mean he doesn't make a lot of money, then I'd choose him. If he's poor, but he treats me well, I'm ok with that. If he smokes pot all day, has no job and wants me to support him, then no I wouldn't date him.
Nexus One Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 And Nexus, would you want to be with a lazy, free-loading woman who has no aspirations for herself and no will to make things happen? I doubt it. She can be lazy if she wants to, she's allowed to have no aspirations. But freeloading for the sake of freeloading, no. And the reason for that is when you truly love someone, then you don't want to take advantage of them in a way like that. So if she'd be freeloading for the sake of freeloading, then that would indirectly tell me something. However, if she would be poor and I'd see she needed help, then that's another matter, similarly when she lost her job or business. There's a difference between people who willingly want to take advantage of others to suck them dry like a leech and people who can't help their situation, but are trying, if not doing everything they can to change it, yet still failing.
snug.bunny Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 I select "thin loser". For a couple reasons... (A) I'm not capable of being attracted to someone who is massively overweight, it's a personal limitation for me and my problem in that I couldn't get past it, so it wouldn't matter how successful he is. (B) Being a "loser" is subjective.
Ruby Slippers Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 That changes the context, I thought you were talking about poor people or people who failed in life despite trying. Not at all. I spent most of my childhood poor and have worked very hard to climb up out of the dirt. I'd have no problem being with a guy who didn't make much money but was doing what he was passionate about, or working to get to that point. In fact, I've had long-term relationships with guys like that (grad student, for example). But I would never support some lame guy who wasn't willing to work hard himself, no matter how sexy or sweet he was. And believe me, the more successful I become, the more 'hot losers' I attract. Some of them are great for a little fun, but nothing more.
lululucy Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 I've only been attracted to one overweight man my entire life. He is one of the sweetest, most caring men I've ever met and if he and I had been single at the same time, maybe we would've dated. How fat is fat? Edit: Now that I say that, I realise there have been two. One is a guy who used to be fit and gained a lot of weight but damn if I still don't think he's hot.
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