dumpedandsore Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 (edited) i knew a guy from a dating event. He contacted me immediately after the event and asked for my fb contact. He even suggested that we can meet in future for dinner and to stay in touch. I added him on fb the every day and sent him a sweet sms this morning. I was hoping to make some small chat or contact via sms this morning but he was very cold in his reply, simply telling me to have a "gd wk ahead". I feel he is telling me indirectly not to contact him anymore. He doesnt seem to want to make any contact with me again if so, why did he behave so enthusiastically in the first place after the event? What caused the change in behaviour? Edited December 19, 2011 by dumpedandsore
Survivor12 Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 Perhaps he saw something on fb that caused him to change his mind...not necessarily something "bad" but something that he interpreted as a deal breaker (I.e. lots of male friends, etc) I mean why would a guy you just met be interested in being fb friends other than to use it to "check you out"? On the other hand, he may well not be the only woman in his sights and became "distracted" by someone else. In any case, if you don't hear from him within the next few days, delete him and move on. There's no reason to concern yourself with a guy you don't even know.
SingleinSouth Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 but he was very cold in his reply, simply telling me to have a "gd wk ahead". What? He told you to have a, "G*dd*mn week ahead? Really? I can't for the life of me imagine why you would care what he is thinking after that! Are you leaving anything out? That is really strange behavior.
Author dumpedandsore Posted December 19, 2011 Author Posted December 19, 2011 What? He told you to have a, "G*dd*mn week ahead? Really? I can't for the life of me imagine why you would care what he is thinking after that! Are you leaving anything out? That is really strange behavior. sorry, i dont get you?
serial muse Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 What? He told you to have a, "G*dd*mn week ahead? Really? I can't for the life of me imagine why you would care what he is thinking after that! Are you leaving anything out? That is really strange behavior. "gd" = good, I suspect.
oaks Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 i knew a guy from a dating event. He contacted me immediately after the event and asked for my fb contact. He even suggested that we can meet in future for dinner and to stay in touch. I added him on fb the every day and sent him a sweet sms this morning. I was hoping to make some small chat or contact via sms this morning but he was very cold in his reply, simply telling me to have a "gd wk ahead". I feel he is telling me indirectly not to contact him anymore. He doesnt seem to want to make any contact with me again if so, why did he behave so enthusiastically in the first place after the event? What caused the change in behaviour? I don't think you've described enough of a consistent initial behaviour against which to assess this 'change'. Apart from the day of the dating event it sounds like you've been the one to initiate contact every time, so I wouldn't exactly describe him as "enthusiastic".
SingleinSouth Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 "gd" = good, I suspect. Haha, ok. He's not so strange to me now.
oaks Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 I don't think you've described enough of a consistent initial behaviour against which to assess this 'change'. Apart from the day of the dating event it sounds like you've been the one to initiate contact every time, so I wouldn't exactly describe him as "enthusiastic". ... and having read your other thread, in which you say you didn't chat much at the dating event, I'm even less inclined to describe him as "enthusiastic". Are you seeing things that aren't there? (and why did it need 2 threads?)
Author dumpedandsore Posted December 19, 2011 Author Posted December 19, 2011 ... and having read your other thread, in which you say you didn't chat much at the dating event, I'm even less inclined to describe him as "enthusiastic". Are you seeing things that aren't there? (and why did it need 2 threads?) There was a time limit to our interaction at the event. I mentioned he was enthusiastic as he smsed me just 10 minuts after the event. He mentioned that he wants to keep in touch with me and hopes to arrange for a dinner date soon. Afterthat, he asked me where i work and requested me to add him on my fb. Strangely, after i added him on fb, he stopped contacting me and then came the cold respond to my sms today..
Author dumpedandsore Posted December 19, 2011 Author Posted December 19, 2011 Perhaps he saw something on fb that caused him to change his mind...not necessarily something "bad" but something that he interpreted as a deal breaker (I.e. lots of male friends, etc) I mean why would a guy you just met be interested in being fb friends other than to use it to "check you out"? On the other hand, he may well not be the only woman in his sights and became "distracted" by someone else. In any case, if you don't hear from him within the next few days, delete him and move on. There's no reason to concern yourself with a guy you don't even know. ya..or that my fb pics are really awful and a big turn off to him
EnigmaticClarity Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 ya..or that my fb pics are really awful and a big turn off to him Sounds like that's the case. If I were you, I'd take a long look at what you've got up on Facebook, compare it to the present-day you, and try to figure out what may have turned him off. Actually, I might even ask him why he changed so much, and if something on Facebook did it, and if so, could he tell you what so you can think about changing it. I got semi-turned off by a girl after seeing her Facebook profile--she had pics of her from college when she was 60 pounds heavier, and it made me realize that on our first date she may have been hiding the fact that she was currently overweight with her dress and jacket. Sure enough, during the next date I could tell she was obese; I couldn't tell on the first date due to a large winter jacket.
ditzchic Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 Sounds like that's the case. If I were you, I'd take a long look at what you've got up on Facebook, compare it to the present-day you, and try to figure out what may have turned him off. Actually, I might even ask him why he changed so much, and if something on Facebook did it, and if so, could he tell you what so you can think about changing it. I got semi-turned off by a girl after seeing her Facebook profile--she had pics of her from college when she was 60 pounds heavier, and it made me realize that on our first date she may have been hiding the fact that she was currently overweight with her dress and jacket. Sure enough, during the next date I could tell she was obese; I couldn't tell on the first date due to a large winter jacket. Hey hey. That's not fair. I used to be fat and I still have some fatty pics up on my facebook from when I was on vacations and whatnot. Are you telling me that I should take them down so people don't get suspicious? I mean they are all dated and I have current full body pics up now so if someone can't figure out that that was the past they are probably too stupid for me to date anyway...
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