ChipsnSalsa Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 Hi, Here is the scoop. Me and this woman have been chatting back and forth over the past couple of months. Mutual attraction was there but I facepalmed myself and led on that I liked her...opps, gave her the upper hand and lost momentum/attraction Fast forward to the present... over the weekend I went to an social event. I messaged her that maybe we could meet up. Her response was blah blah blah... got so much to do before Xmas, not sure if I am going.. So, my gut told me something was up. I wasn't sure if she would be there and I wanted to go, so I called up a few women who I am just friends with to join me. When I get to the event, bingo.. the girl shows up with another guy.. imagine that... Lol What do I do at this point? I obviously don't want to come off like it phased me at all by acting weird or unsual. I am friends with her on a social network FBook and she makes alot of posts about the event already... Blah Blah Blah.. and I every once in a while make comments/likes to her posts. What is the best way to interact or not interact moving forward? Should I abstain from any contact with her for a while or what? , i.e. response to post, text mssg, ect... What is the right way to handle this situation moving forward? Thanks, Chips
oldguy Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 How large was the social event, was it the size that running into one another would be probable? It seems a little weird for someone your chatting with not to say something like, "no, thanks anyway, this other guy asked me already" or something to that effect when you asked her. Your just FB friends, right? Have you even met before? Just curious. I'd probably go on like before.If your interested in the girl stop keeping yourself. Move the conversations in that direction.
Author ChipsnSalsa Posted December 19, 2011 Author Posted December 19, 2011 How large was the social event, was it the size that running into one another would be probable? It seems a little weird for someone your chatting with not to say something like, "no, thanks anyway, this other guy asked me already" or something to that effect when you asked her. Your just FB friends, right? Have you even met before? Just curious. I'd probably go on like before.If your interested in the girl stop keeping yourself. Move the conversations in that direction. Pretty big event with assigned seating. I have already personally met her before this time. What do you mean go on like before and stop keeping yourself/move the conversation?
YaOldBuckaroo Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 (edited) Hi, Here is the scoop. Me and this woman have been chatting back and forth over the past couple of months. Mutual attraction was there but I facepalmed myself and led on that I liked her...opps, gave her the upper hand and lost momentum/attraction Fast forward to the present... over the weekend I went to an social event. I messaged her that maybe we could meet up. Her response was blah blah blah... got so much to do before Xmas, not sure if I am going.. So, my gut told me something was up. I wasn't sure if she would be there and I wanted to go, so I called up a few women who I am just friends with to join me. When I get to the event, bingo.. the girl shows up with another guy.. imagine that... Lol What do I do at this point? I obviously don't want to come off like it phased me at all by acting weird or unsual. I am friends with her on a social network FBook and she makes alot of posts about the event already... Blah Blah Blah.. and I every once in a while make comments/likes to her posts. What is the best way to interact or not interact moving forward? Should I abstain from any contact with her for a while or what? , i.e. response to post, text mssg, ect... What is the right way to handle this situation moving forward? Thanks, Chips Hey chips I'd stop communication with her for a bit. Like stop liking her posts and stuff like that. Then after a few days I'd start rebuilding the attraction in her mind, but in a subtle manner. By becoming more desirable, you'll be able to win her over easily by coupling it with a few basic seduction tricks. To become more attractive, project an image that exhibits high social value. Good social value can be seen in your ability to interact with females and males efficiently with confidence. Here's a helpful article that can help you out with the task: http://www.scribd.com/doc/4654457/Attract-Women-With-4-Routines-From-Black-Belt-Seduction Max Edited December 19, 2011 by YaOldBuckaroo
ShannonMI Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 Hi, Here is the scoop. Me and this woman have been chatting back and forth over the past couple of months. Mutual attraction was there but I facepalmed myself and led on that I liked her...opps, gave her the upper hand and lost momentum/attraction Fast forward to the present... over the weekend I went to an social event. I messaged her that maybe we could meet up. Her response was blah blah blah... got so much to do before Xmas, not sure if I am going.. So, my gut told me something was up. I wasn't sure if she would be there and I wanted to go, so I called up a few women who I am just friends with to join me. When I get to the event, bingo.. the girl shows up with another guy.. imagine that... Lol What do I do at this point? I obviously don't want to come off like it phased me at all by acting weird or unsual. I am friends with her on a social network FBook and she makes alot of posts about the event already... Blah Blah Blah.. and I every once in a while make comments/likes to her posts. What is the best way to interact or not interact moving forward? Should I abstain from any contact with her for a while or what? , i.e. response to post, text mssg, ect... What is the right way to handle this situation moving forward? Thanks, Chips You told her you like her and she did what exactly? Freaked out and starting giving the cold shoulder? She obviously doesn't feel the same about you because she wouldn't give you a straight answer about the Christmas party and then ended up showing up with another dude. If she was interested in you, she would have gone with you. I would just let this one go. Don't make an ass out of yourself. If you can handle it, remain friends with her, but don't expect anything more. Expecting anything more and discussing it with her will only make you look desperate. You don't want that.
Author ChipsnSalsa Posted December 19, 2011 Author Posted December 19, 2011 You told her you like her and she did what exactly? Freaked out and starting giving the cold shoulder? She obviously doesn't feel the same about you because she wouldn't give you a straight answer about the Christmas party and then ended up showing up with another dude. If she was interested in you, she would have gone with you. I would just let this one go. Don't make an ass out of yourself. If you can handle it, remain friends with her, but don't expect anything more. Expecting anything more and discussing it with her will only make you look desperate. You don't want that. I never told her verbatum that I liked her, she picked up on it. I agree, the less than straight answer about going to the event threw up a red flag in my mind. Thing is, on the way to the event she posted that she was on her way. Obviously, when she got there she didn't want to text me because she was with another guy and didn't want to hurt my feelings and/or mess up the event with her date. Do you think I should just ignore her moving forward on the FB thing? One other person has suggested a way to play things, how would you or just let it go. Thanks
ShannonMI Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 I never told her verbatum that I liked her, she picked up on it. I agree, the less than straight answer about going to the event threw up a red flag in my mind. Thing is, on the way to the event she posted that she was on her way. Obviously, when she got there she didn't want to text me because she was with another guy and didn't want to hurt my feelings and/or mess up the event with her date. Do you think I should just ignore her moving forward on the FB thing? One other person has suggested a way to play things, how would you or just let it go. Thanks I would probably just let things go. If I liked someone and they didn't reciprocate the feelings, I would feel rejected. I probably wouldn't even be friends with them. That's me though. If you can set aside your romantic feelings for her and remain friends, then do it. Just don't expect anything more then that.
Author ChipsnSalsa Posted December 19, 2011 Author Posted December 19, 2011 I would probably just let things go. If I liked someone and they didn't reciprocate the feelings, I would feel rejected. I probably wouldn't even be friends with them. That's me though. If you can set aside your romantic feelings for her and remain friends, then do it. Just don't expect anything more then that. Thanks for the advice Shannon. It sucks feeling this way. I actually made the mistake of already buying a Xmas gift for her, and I can't take it back. Should I just throw it away, ask for her address to mail (which I know isn't a good idea at this point) or give it to her on a later date if things change?
ShannonMI Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 Thanks for the advice Shannon. It sucks feeling this way. I actually made the mistake of already buying a Xmas gift for her, and I can't take it back. Should I just throw it away, ask for her address to mail (which I know isn't a good idea at this point) or give it to her on a later date if things change? Don't send it to her. Give it to someone else if you can't return it.
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