U1987 Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 OKC has a 1-5 star rating system for profiles. One of the search options is even to list profiles by highest ratings. If you write a girl on OKC and she doesn't respond, would it come off as creepy or weird to ask to her to at least take a second to give your profile a 5-star rating? Just to help your visibility around the site, improve your appearance to the next girl you write and to make up for not writing back?
oaks Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 OKC has a 1-5 star rating system for profiles. One of the search options is even to list profiles by highest ratings. If you write a girl on OKC and she doesn't respond, would it come off as creepy or weird to ask to her to at least take a second to give your profile a 5-star rating? Just to help your visibility around the site, improve your appearance to the next girl you write and to make up for not writing back? I thought you could only search on rating if you were paying for 'A list' membership (or whatever they call it) which few people seem to do, but anyway... ... try it! I predict you'll mostly get ratings of 1 star.
ScienceGal Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 (edited) Why do you feel that a woman would have to 'make up' for not writing you back? What if you met a woman in real life that turned you down? What would she owe you? As a female, I can tell you that I just opened an account and the day I posted a photo, I received a dozen messages. OLD can be overwhelming, so if a woman doesn't respond, just move on. I don't respond to men who have an age limit minimum of 18, because I think that is inappropriate for a 30+ year old man. I also don't reply to men who seem like they haven't read or paid attention to what I am looking for. (Smokers, way out of the age range I list, someone who is significantly overweight). My advice would be to make sure you meet the expectations of the women you are writing to (at least on paper). Also, make your profile as attractive as you can and make sure you're writing effective messages (most sites offer tips on how to do this). Edited December 19, 2011 by ScienceGal
ditzchic Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 Definitely weird. And if you asked me I would rate you a 1 based on creepiness alone.
fortyninethousand322 Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 I say go for it. You have nothing to lose.
serial muse Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 I say go for it. You have nothing to lose. Except rating points. I think that if you do this, OP, you definitely run the risk of having it backfire and someone finding that off-putting enough to downgrade you. Why bother? I think you waste way too much time thinking about how to get even with people who couldn't care less about you.
fortyninethousand322 Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 Except rating points. I think that if you do this, OP, you definitely run the risk of having it backfire and someone finding that off-putting enough to downgrade you. Why bother? I think you waste way too much time thinking about how to get even with people who couldn't care less about you. I've never had anyone "rate me" on Okcupid before, but really, what happens if they "down rate" you? I mean does it show up in the search results? Do women see that John Smith has a 2% rating or whatever and think "oh boy he must suck, not messaging him"? Worst case scenario OP just deletes his profile and creates another one.
EnigmaticClarity Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 I'd definitely down-rate anyone who asked me to do this. So you're not my type, but you want me to abuse the rating system--thereby making it less useful--by using it to lie regarding my opinion about you? Ugh, I'd groan if ever asked to do this. I've written OKCupid recommendations for women I didn't end up dating because I liked them but not enough to date--in one case because the girl lived too far away and in another because she wasn't my type but I remained friendly with her. The nice thing about recommendations is you can just accentuate the positive...I would've only given the second girl a 3/5, but with a recommendation, I can avoid what I don't like and just focus on her strengths.
serial muse Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 I've never had anyone "rate me" on Okcupid before, but really, what happens if they "down rate" you? I mean does it show up in the search results? Do women see that John Smith has a 2% rating or whatever and think "oh boy he must suck, not messaging him"? Worst case scenario OP just deletes his profile and creates another one. I'm not actually on OKC (married) but a good friend is...I'll have to ask him whether he's noticed any impact from the rating thing. But I guess my point is that if the OP cares enough about his rating to ask a stranger who wasn't interested to upgrade him out of guilt, then a) he runs a strong risk of having it backfire; and b) he's overthinking things.
Author U1987 Posted December 19, 2011 Author Posted December 19, 2011 Why do you feel that a woman would have to 'make up' for not writing you back? Because I took the time to write a sincere, honest message. I think it's really mean and callous to not write ANYTHING back. What does it take to click on the little 5-star in return? What if you met a woman in real life that turned you down? What would she owe you? Well, if she did, she'd atleast have to actually engage me face to face. These girls who write nothing back don't even offer that. As a female, I can tell you that I just opened an account and the day I posted a photo, I received a dozen messages. OLD can be overwhelming Okay... I'm sorry you feel it's "overwhelming." Do you know what it's like for a guy to send out dozens of messages and only get a tiny few responses? (Which mostly don't even turn into dates?)
PlumPrincess Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 OKC has a 1-5 star rating system for profiles. One of the search options is even to list profiles by highest ratings. If you write a girl on OKC and she doesn't respond, would it come off as creepy or weird to ask to her to at least take a second to give your profile a 5-star rating? Just to help your visibility around the site, improve your appearance to the next girl you write and to make up for not writing back? I find it superinsane to ask someone who has ignored you for a positive rating. Do you understand what it means when people ignore you? Hint: it's not a positive sign.
PlumPrincess Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 Well, if she did, she'd atleast have to actually engage me face to face. These girls who write nothing back don't even offer that. Well, then don't do online dating if you want a face-to-face reply.
Author U1987 Posted December 19, 2011 Author Posted December 19, 2011 Like I said, it's to improve my chance with the NEXT girl I write. When a girl ignores a guy, does she really NOT want him to succeed with the next girl?
Janesays Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 When a girl ignores a guy, does she really NOT want him to succeed with the next girl? She doesn't care. One way or another.
Author U1987 Posted December 19, 2011 Author Posted December 19, 2011 So how do guys get 5-star profile ratings on OKC?
PlumPrincess Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 She doesn't care. One way or another. Five stars!
PlumPrincess Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 So how do guys get 5-star profile ratings on OKC? They threaten the girls. It usually works like a charm.
oaks Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 So how do guys get 5-star profile ratings on OKC? By being awesome. Failing that, by creating some fake 'friends' and getting them to log in and rate him, perhaps.
Art_Critic Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 Haven't they already rated you by not replying to your email ?
ScienceGal Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 I don't care about ratings and don't pay attention to them. I care about finding someone that I am compatible with, so I look at the percentages and read what the guy has written. Some guy just wrote to me, "hey baby, how wuz your weekend?" I'm sure as hell not responding or giving him any stars! It's a lame message that he's probably sent to dozens of women. Huge turnoff. Like i said, work on your approach and make sure you're writing to women you're compatible with. You sound like your 'casting a wide net' and messaging a lot of women and getting discouraged with your low response rate. If you're looking for a date (seriously) you have to be better than the other dubs emailing these women. Figure out how to improve, not just how to get women to lie and give you a useless 5 star rating.
ditzchic Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 So how do guys get 5-star profile ratings on OKC? I rate based solely on looks alone.
Nexus One Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 Like I said, it's to improve my chance with the NEXT girl I write. I see her thinking: "Damn, according to his profile I'm SO NOT compatible with this guy. But he has a 5 star rating! That changes EVERYTHING!"
lululucy Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 I see her thinking: "Damn, according to his profile I'm SO NOT compatible with this guy. But he has a 5 star rating! That changes EVERYTHING!" hahahaha I guarantee every girl you send that message to will go out of her way to give you a one star rating. Or report your message (which as a moderator is SUPER ANNOYING). The only benefit of the star rating is that if you're in the top percentile of attractiveness on okc, you'll see only others in the top percentile. You get an email and everything.
Imajerk17 Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 Let me get this straight: You're so hard-up that you are asking women who turned you down to rate up your profile? So it's come to that for you? Threads like these are what I am referring to when I talk about how there are so many "Lovable Losers" among the male posters on this forum.
fortyninethousand322 Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 Let me get this straight: You're so hard-up that you are asking women who turned you down to rate up your profile? So it's come to that for you? Threads like these are what I am referring to when I talk about how there are so many "Lovable Losers" among the male posters on this forum. Shouldn't that be good for people like you. I mean, more women for you to choose from? In order for there to be "have mores" there have to be some "have nots".
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