colliejoanie Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 Last night I went out with some friends. My girlfriend is 36, looks great, and dates a 29 year old guy. We went out with him and his friends..... And a 27 year old hottie and I really hit it off. So much so that we ended up making out! (yay me!). But during the amazing make out session, he was telling me how attracted he is to me and how he can't believe he's getting to kiss me. I'm trying not to look like a cheshire cat, when he says, "i'm just so attracted to older women". And it hit me......Holy Moley! I'm 36. I'm an older woman! When did this happen? All in all though, it was so much fun! It's so nice to be out in the world again now that my ex husband is finally taking our daughter (one night every other week, but I'll take it!). I feel like I'm rejoining society! And I love that even though I'm an "older woman", I still got it . While I want nothing to develop between this guy and I, it was nice to feel adored for a night.
GildedLily Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 You look quite young and very pretty though so it may be easier for you to hear "older woman" lol
Cee Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 Yep, once you pass 35 or even 30, you become an older woman. It's awesome to be an older woman nowadays. It's more common for older women/younger man pairings. My sister and her best friend are married to men 7-9 years younger. And I'm living with a guy 17 years younger. My boyfriend never mentions the age difference, except he sometimes jokes I'll leave him for a younger man. He's completely blind to my age. I think it's me who is hung up on age, but really there isn't much difference. It's true what they say - age is just a number.
Author colliejoanie Posted December 19, 2011 Author Posted December 19, 2011 Thank you very much for the compliment!! I agree Cee. When I was newly single, and overweight I didn't, though. I thought it was all over for me. Recently, however I'm really thinking about dating younger men. The guys my age and older have had their families for the most part, have been married, aren't enchanted with "family life". Younger guys have the world ahead of them.....they want famlies (and I'd love to have more children), and so far, of the two I've interacted with, they've been completely adoring, respectful, and honest. I'm sold! (17 years younger???? WOW!!!!!! you go!!! )
Soxfaninfl Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 Last night I went out with some friends. My girlfriend is 36, looks great, and dates a 29 year old guy. We went out with him and his friends..... And a 27 year old hottie and I really hit it off. So much so that we ended up making out! (yay me!). But during the amazing make out session, he was telling me how attracted he is to me and how he can't believe he's getting to kiss me. I'm trying not to look like a cheshire cat, when he says, "i'm just so attracted to older women". And it hit me......Holy Moley! I'm 36. I'm an older woman! When did this happen? All in all though, it was so much fun! It's so nice to be out in the world again now that my ex husband is finally taking our daughter (one night every other week, but I'll take it!). I feel like I'm rejoining society! And I love that even though I'm an "older woman", I still got it . While I want nothing to develop between this guy and I, it was nice to feel adored for a night. Your an attractive women and could pass for a 28 or 29 year old. Sorry to hear that your divorced at 36. I'm divorced at 36 also. Being single and dating sucks. I'm about to end my 2nd relationship since my ex-wife I split from our 11 year marriage. I didn't realize it would be this hard to find a good women.
Author colliejoanie Posted December 19, 2011 Author Posted December 19, 2011 Your an attractive women and could pass for a 28 or 29 year old. Sorry to hear that your divorced at 36. I'm divorced at 36 also. Being single and dating sucks. I'm about to end my 2nd relationship since my ex-wife I split from our 11 year marriage. I didn't realize it would be this hard to find a good women. Thank you. And I'm sorry to hear about your divorce too. I never thought I'd be 36, with a 3 year old, and single, that's for sure!! I've had two real relationships since my divorce, both were with older men.....they obviously didn't work out. Yes, it is tough out there and i often wonder if I'm destined to be alone....if that's the path I'm supposed to take. just focus on my career and my daughter.....Who knows??? Good luck Soxfan!!! I hope you find someone who makes you happy!
Soxfaninfl Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 Thank you. And I'm sorry to hear about your divorce too. I never thought I'd be 36, with a 3 year old, and single, that's for sure!! I've had two real relationships since my divorce, both were with older men.....they obviously didn't work out. Yes, it is tough out there and i often wonder if I'm destined to be alone....if that's the path I'm supposed to take. just focus on my career and my daughter.....Who knows??? Good luck Soxfan!!! I hope you find someone who makes you happy! So far I've dated older also. I dated a 42 year old and a 37 year old. I know 37 is only a year older. My ex wife was a year younger. I have an 8 year old and want more kids. I do have him 50% of the time, and he's is my world. Another thing that you have to worry about in dating is STD's. I miss being marred. I didn't have worry about that s***! Good luck to you too Colliejoanie.
kaylan Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 You know, I always found it strange how most women refuse to date men younger than them until they themselves end up being considered an "older woman". Ok Cupid even mentioned this is one of their OKTrends blogs regarding age. Apparently once women hit their mid 20s then they open up to it. Possibly because mids 20s tends be that cutoff age where guys treat women as if they are at the top of their game. Plus 30 starts to approach and people start to wanna settle down and open up their options. Ive seen this reflected in guys preferred age range in profiles as well, though not as much as women. But folks seem to spread their ranges a bit as they get older. And I always thought the excuse that younger guys are immature didnt fly....its usually that young gals would rather avoid the stigma since whenever a younger gal dates younger men, it raises questions...even though no one bats an eyes when the gal is younger than the dude. And in my experience, women are no more mature than men of the same age. I find some girls a little bit younger than me immature as hell as well. So it goes both ways. I think its all got to do with older male point of view being fed to everyone in the world. It works to a guys advantage for young gals to only want to date their age and older. If that wasnt so commonplace to being with, more women wouldnt be so weird about dating younger guys. If you click, you click, regardless of age.
Ruby Slippers Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 Recently, however I'm really thinking about dating younger men. The guys my age and older have had their families for the most part, have been married, aren't enchanted with "family life". Younger guys have the world ahead of them.....they want famlies (and I'd love to have more children), and so far, of the two I've interacted with, they've been completely adoring, respectful, and honest. I'm 35, and when I first started dating after a breakup a few years ago, I completely ruled out 20-somethings, totally writing them off as after sex only. But then I gave one a shot, and was very impressed. We weren't a good enough match for long term, but his attitude was really refreshing, compared to that of most older men that I've dated. Now I'm open to a much wider age range, and it does feel very freeing and fun. I could see myself getting serious and settling down with the right younger guy.
Soxfaninfl Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 I realize I need to date younger women to have more children 30 to 32. Ideally if I date someone my age 36, and we date for two to three years and then marry. The women would be 39 when we would have our first child. I would like to have 2 more kids. If I didn't want kids then age would really would not be an issue for me.
ShannonMI Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 Last night I went out with some friends. My girlfriend is 36, looks great, and dates a 29 year old guy. We went out with him and his friends..... And a 27 year old hottie and I really hit it off. So much so that we ended up making out! (yay me!). But during the amazing make out session, he was telling me how attracted he is to me and how he can't believe he's getting to kiss me. I'm trying not to look like a cheshire cat, when he says, "i'm just so attracted to older women". And it hit me......Holy Moley! I'm 36. I'm an older woman! When did this happen? All in all though, it was so much fun! It's so nice to be out in the world again now that my ex husband is finally taking our daughter (one night every other week, but I'll take it!). I feel like I'm rejoining society! And I love that even though I'm an "older woman", I still got it . While I want nothing to develop between this guy and I, it was nice to feel adored for a night. You're a cougar girl!!! I'm cougar-ish too. The young guys like me. I'm 32 and I get hit on my the 22 and 23 year olds all the time. I don't like dating them though because they tend to be immature, but making out with them is always fun. It is nice to be desired by young men. It makes you feel like you still have it.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 I think some youngerr men can be very mature and some older men can be very immature. Age isn't what determines maturity. I realize I need to date younger women to have more children 30 to 32. Ideally if I date someone my age 36, and we date for two to three years and then marry. The women would be 39 when we would have our first child. I would like to have 2 more kids. If I didn't want kids then age would really would not be an issue for me. You'd be 39 too. Mens' sperm begins it's decline at 30. Older fathers are reputed to be cause for concern just as older mothers are. It's great that you factor in your partners health, but men need to be more realistic and factor in their own health. Because the only one that's going to suffer in the end is going to be his own child. I'm so glad more information is coming out this though. It's been too easy for men to make justifications why they can be playboys until their 40s and then seek out younger partners and act like *they*, at their age, should be having children while condemning their female partners. I don't think this has anything to do with "health" and "biology". If it did, then men would do just as much research and have information about their own biology and the reality of when they peek and how they contribute to the health or detriment of their own children.
Standard-Fare Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 I think the physical dynamic between an older woman/younger man can be OUT OF THIS WORLD. For those of you who've been able to translate that into an actual relationship, that's awesome. It's something I'd like to do myself. At 30, though, I find I need someone at least 25 years old. I simply can't relate to the immediate post-college phase of younger 20-somethings... it's no one's fault, it's just a different stage of life and I can't go back and they can't skip forward.
Soxfaninfl Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 (edited) You'd be 39 too. Mens' sperm begins it's decline at 30. Older fathers are reputed to be cause for concern just as older mothers are. It's great that you factor in your partners health, but men need to be more realistic and factor in their own health. Because the only one that's going to suffer in the end is going to be his own child. I'm so glad more information is coming out this though. It's been too easy for men to make justifications why they can be playboys until their 40s and then seek out younger partners and act like *they*, at their age, should be having children while condemning their female partners. I don't think this has anything to do with "health" and "biology". If it did, then men would do just as much research and have information about their own biology and the reality of when they peek and how they contribute to the health or detriment of their own children. That is true that I would be 39 too, but I wouldn't have to carry the children. The women has to. If we had a 2nd or 3rd child then the women would be in her early to mid 40's. I've been told that women that conceive in their 40's tend to have more complication than women in their 20's and 30's. I eat right and keep myself fit, and all I have to contribute is the sperm. The women has to do the hard part of carry a child for 9 months. I take two 1000 IU's of vitamin E after my work outs to minimize soreness. I didn't realize it raises your sperm count. I just found that out recently. Edited December 19, 2011 by Soxfaninfl
Pizzaman81 Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 Thank you very much for the compliment!! I agree Cee. When I was newly single, and overweight I didn't, though. I thought it was all over for me. Recently, however I'm really thinking about dating younger men. The guys my age and older have had their families for the most part, have been married, aren't enchanted with "family life". Younger guys have the world ahead of them.....they want famlies (and I'd love to have more children), and so far, of the two I've interacted with, they've been completely adoring, respectful, and honest. I'm sold! (17 years younger???? WOW!!!!!! you go!!! ) I don't know.. you look really hot actually. Now our other thread is going to get awkward reallllll quick. :bunny:
Author colliejoanie Posted December 20, 2011 Author Posted December 20, 2011 I don't know.. you look really hot actually. Now our other thread is going to get awkward reallllll quick. :bunny: That depends......how old are you??? Hahaha!!!
Pizzaman81 Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 That depends......how old are you??? Hahaha!!! Why don't you check through my profile pics, PM me and guess my age. MUAHAHA
Negative Nancy Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 I think some youngerr men can be very mature and some older men can be very immature. Age isn't what determines maturity. You'd be 39 too. Mens' sperm begins it's decline at 30. Older fathers are reputed to be cause for concern just as older mothers are. It's great that you factor in your partners health, but men need to be more realistic and factor in their own health. Because the only one that's going to suffer in the end is going to be his own child. I'm so glad more information is coming out this though. It's been too easy for men to make justifications why they can be playboys until their 40s and then seek out younger partners and act like *they*, at their age, should be having children while condemning their female partners. I don't think this has anything to do with "health" and "biology". If it did, then men would do just as much research and have information about their own biology and the reality of when they peek and how they contribute to the health or detriment of their own children. This is true. It's ridiculous how men are always in denial of their own downsides of being just as old.
Dust Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 Thank you. And I'm sorry to hear about your divorce too. I never thought I'd be 36, with a 3 year old, and single, that's for sure!! I've had two real relationships since my divorce, both were with older men.....they obviously didn't work out. Yes, it is tough out there and i often wonder if I'm destined to be alone....if that's the path I'm supposed to take. just focus on my career and my daughter.....Who knows??? Good luck Soxfan!!! I hope you find someone who makes you happy! You're a cougar girl!!! I'm cougar-ish too. The young guys like me. I'm 32 and I get hit on my the 22 and 23 year olds all the time. I don't like dating them though because they tend to be immature, but making out with them is always fun. It is nice to be desired by young men. It makes you feel like you still have it. You two are pretty hot as far as I can tell... some of my favs on LS. I think the "I like older women" line was lame. I wouldn't have really brought it up. The truth is I like "pretty girls" which don't generaly end up being older women but when they do its refreshing.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 That is true that I would be 39 too, but I wouldn't have to carry the children. The women has to. If we had a 2nd or 3rd child then the women would be in her early to mid 40's. I've been told that women that conceive in their 40's tend to have more complication than women in their 20's and 30's. I eat right and keep myself fit, and all I have to contribute is the sperm. The women has to do the hard part of carry a child for 9 months. I take two 1000 IU's of vitamin E after my work outs to minimize soreness. I didn't realize it raises your sperm count. I just found that out recently. Yes, older women have the possibility for more complications. But this is true for older men too. I am not saying you shouldn't have children. But your only doing yourself and your potential children a disservice by not considering your own age and the role your body plays in the process.I think men have a higher chance of contributing to autism in children if I am remebering what I previously read correctly. Look at the high rate of autism we have. Men today want to take on a bigger role as fathers and how they contribute to their offspring. I personally think this is wonderful. This doesn't mean that men of previous generations where bad fathers at all (they tried to be the best fathers they could), but today's men are a little different. If you as a man want to have a big role in your child's life, and what your physical and mental contributions to your child to be recongnized, then you need to recongnize the good with the bad that you as a man and your age has the potential to creat in your own children. Unless your going to be praising your wife for all the wonderful qualities your child has because after all, she is the one that carries the baby. After all, if only the bad are attributed to her, then only the good can be attributed to her as well. Somehow though, I doubt men attribute all the positive qualities their children have and regard those qualities to just their wife. It takes a man and woman to make a baby. Women are not the only ones that have the potential to contribute health defects to their children. It would behove any man to really understand his body better, when his prime is (sperm count begins to decline in quality and quantity in your 30s) if he really cares about his off spring. Otherwise, any talk about wanting the best potential partner you can find for "biological" reasons are illogical and plain ignorant when you can't be bothered considering your own. The truth is older men and women aren't the best for making babies, in a stereotyped way. laying it all on women and living in some fantasy world about what you are able to contribute as an older man only hurts your potential children. No one else. And thinking a younger woman should settle for you when you aren't the best biological choice anymore is just kind of funny.
Wolf18 Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 Are you 2 always on the rag? I feel sorry for your husbands/boyfriends. I'm surprised you guys don't teach Women's Studies at my college.
PlumPrincess Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 Yes, older women have the possibility for more complications. But this is true for older men too. I am not saying you shouldn't have children. But your only doing yourself and your potential children a disservice by not considering your own age and the role your body plays in the process.I think men have a higher chance of contributing to autism in children if I am remebering what I previously read correctly. Look at the high rate of autism we have. Men today want to take on a bigger role as fathers and how they contribute to their offspring. I personally think this is wonderful. This doesn't mean that men of previous generations where bad fathers at all (they tried to be the best fathers they could), but today's men are a little different. If you as a man want to have a big role in your child's life, and what your physical and mental contributions to your child to be recongnized, then you need to recongnize the good with the bad that you as a man and your age has the potential to creat in your own children. Unless your going to be praising your wife for all the wonderful qualities your child has because after all, she is the one that carries the baby. After all, if only the bad are attributed to her, then only the good can be attributed to her as well. Somehow though, I doubt men attribute all the positive qualities their children have and regard those qualities to just their wife. It takes a man and woman to make a baby. Women are not the only ones that have the potential to contribute health defects to their children. It would behove any man to really understand his body better, when his prime is (sperm count begins to decline in quality and quantity in your 30s) if he really cares about his off spring. Otherwise, any talk about wanting the best potential partner you can find for "biological" reasons are illogical and plain ignorant when you can't be bothered considering your own. The truth is older men and women aren't the best for making babies, in a stereotyped way. laying it all on women and living in some fantasy world about what you are able to contribute as an older man only hurts your potential children. No one else. And thinking a younger woman should settle for you when you aren't the best biological choice anymore is just kind of funny. I agree a 100 %.
FredRutherford Posted December 31, 2011 Posted December 31, 2011 Last night I went out with some friends. My girlfriend is 36, looks great, and dates a 29 year old guy. We went out with him and his friends..... And a 27 year old hottie and I really hit it off. So much so that we ended up making out! (yay me!). But during the amazing make out session, he was telling me how attracted he is to me and how he can't believe he's getting to kiss me. I'm trying not to look like a cheshire cat, when he says, "i'm just so attracted to older women". And it hit me......Holy Moley! I'm 36. I'm an older woman! When did this happen? All in all though, it was so much fun! It's so nice to be out in the world again now that my ex husband is finally taking our daughter (one night every other week, but I'll take it!). I feel like I'm rejoining society! And I love that even though I'm an "older woman", I still got it . While I want nothing to develop between this guy and I, it was nice to feel adored for a night. Some of us single guys in our late 20s and early 30s, we deliberately went for older ladies. Not very successful with dating until my late 20s, then not great at it, frustration with trying to date women a little younger than me @26-27 led me to look to women a little older than me. Not sure what prompted me to look to the "older" gals, but something in me told me they, the ones maybe 3-7 years older than me, might be more interested in a relationship, like me. As they're older, they may feel time is "running out" for them and hence be less ambivalent and open to my advances. Plus, they may feel flattered a younger guy showed them romantic attention, something I so desperately wanted to do. Of course, didn't rule-out dating someone my own age, but that was one tough cookie to crack, so thought I'd take a shot at the older ones. It worked. Got married to a woman 3 years my sr.
Author colliejoanie Posted January 4, 2012 Author Posted January 4, 2012 Update on this post.....I don't know what the heck is going on, but all of the sudden I have four guys that really want to date seriously. 3 younger.....one older. (none from online dating) I have to say, the ones that are younger have proven to be a lot sweeter than what I'm used to. (and please, no BS age bashing, or gender bashing here) but the younger guys have been absolutely sweet and respectful to me. They're not pushy with my time, being that I'm a single mom and don't have a lot of it. They're completely nonjugmental, when it comes to how much money people make. They send sweet voicemails and texts throughout the day. They invite me to do unbelievably romantic things. I haven't slept with one of them! Now, being that I AM 36 and have dated a few guys in my time, I realize this could all be games to these guys, but I have to tell you, the effort they've put in, vs the guys older than me, is amazing.! It's almost like the romance isn't dead! Haha! I'm happy!
Author colliejoanie Posted January 4, 2012 Author Posted January 4, 2012 Of course, there is the difference in experience that comes with age.......for instance, the guy I like the most just texted that he's watching "teen moms". hmmmmmm. Take the good with the bad I guess. HAHA!
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