Bazamu Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 So last night, my exgf hit me up asking what I was doing. I was coming back from the Hospital from the surgery I just had done (Please don't ask). She told me her and her friend were going out to a restaurant to celebrate her friends B-day. Later on that night me and a friend were going out to the clubs. I asked my exgf , if she wanted to come along and have some fun. They agreed to coming out and we had a great time. I definitely thought it was going to be awkward. It came around to closing time and we all headed off to my exgf place. Everyone was tired. I wanted to see what my exgf intentions were behind all of this. She wanted to go get a hotel room and have some "catching up time" We hit the night off at the hotel room perfectly. Everything felt great, until my exgf told me she was talking to another guy (who I knew) and I kind of blew my lid. I left the hotel room while she was crying in the bed asking me not to leave her there. I couldn't bare it anymore. My gut feeling was to tell me I should walk and never look back, but my heart, said, "no, stick through this and see where it goes." I came back into the room and we talked for around 5 hours about the whole situation. I thought I could read her like a book, but apparently I couldn't see ****. While she went to bed, I decided to be a control freak and talk to her phone company to block the numbers she has been talking to. Seeming like it was a great idea at the time. Well... I thought wrong. The next morning we were still doing amazing, like nothing ever happened. The day ends with her going to work and a couple hours later, I get the phone call Her, "How dare you invade my privacy and do such a selfish act like that." Me, trying to explain and tell her, I was trying to make us work it out and smooth out all these rough bumps. I thought wrong and made it way worse. She told me to give her a couple days on for her to decide if she was going to block my number and never speak to me again. Right after she told me that on the phone, I decided to send her a text and tell her, "You were right, I had no ****ing right whatsoever to do that, specially to someone I needed to trust. I had great memories with you and will slowly forget them as time moves on. I will help you decide if you want to talk to me or not. Please block my number and have a great life. please don't text me back." this would be way longer, if I wrote all the details out, but with me not being a great writer, I left it as this heh. I know I should have never tried to get back with someone like this in the first place, someone who put me in second place in life, while she has been trying to see where all these new relationships she is making goes. I know I shouldn't have ever intervened with her privacy at all, but at the time, I thought it was right. I definitely need to step back and think about my actions before doing something so ridiculous like this.
BoredAgain Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 Yep. Hanging out with an Ex you're not over is dangerous business. That's why No Contact is suggested until you're healed... you learned the hard way, I guess.
Sustugriel Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 To be honest, I can't say many of us would have behaved much differently considering the circumstances. Jealousy is a natural feeling in something like this. What made you feel jealous though was the possible reconciliation between you two. Seriously, if she really wanted to make it up to you, why would it piss her off so bad? She shouldn't be contacting those individuals if she wants you. It makes no sense. She's playing you still bro. Turn around, run, never look back.
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