2sunny Posted January 5, 2012 Posted January 5, 2012 Thank you for all of the responses. She told me that she doesn't feel the same way about me that she used to so it wouldn't be fair to me. I can't seem myself meeting up with her again in the future after what she just did and how it made me feel. Also her saying she has lost feelings. What do you guys think? No reason to believe anything will be different or better. My answer would be no way!
Author wow123 Posted January 6, 2012 Author Posted January 6, 2012 I don't see how I can let her put me through this again.
Buttercup84 Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 I'm sorry Hun , she sounds selfish for putting you through that .
Phillyg123 Posted January 7, 2012 Posted January 7, 2012 WOW123, at the very least you have given me the strength to continue on my path of NC and for that I thank you. It hurts everyday but maybe thats how its supposed to be... One day it won't anymore
Author wow123 Posted January 8, 2012 Author Posted January 8, 2012 I'm right back in a bad place hurting like hell. I'm so mad at her for doing this to me. And mad at myself for allowing it to happen.
Jayerjay Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 Hi - really sorry to hear what you're going through. This actually happened to me about a year and a half ago... I broke up with a girl i dated for 8 months, regretted it and she was already in another relationship very quickly. It's a very painful process, and it's so easy to rationalize actions you know you shouldn't be doing with, "but I was the one that broke up with her". Don't do that to yourself, this would all still be happening regardless so don't blame yourself. Try not to be angry with her either. She was selfish and inconsiderate toward you, but she was confused and trying to sort out her feelings and didn't do it intentionally. I was in a dark place for about 3 months after my breakup, but I'll guarantee this much... A few months from now you will look back and realize how much happier you are without her and think you were crazy for wanting to get back with someone like that. The best advice I can give is forgive her, know that better things are coming, learn from the experience and don't blame yourself. Hang in there! I'm back on here from a new breakup now, but my past situation sounds very similar to yours so of I can help out in any way let me know. Good luck.
Author wow123 Posted January 9, 2012 Author Posted January 9, 2012 Thanks for your advice. I really appreciate it. I got mad about her lying during this process and told her off. She didn't handle it well at all. We won't be speaking ever again. She hates me.
lalalandman Posted January 10, 2012 Posted January 10, 2012 Nah she doesn't hate you. She just knows you're still messed up over her. She'll probably be back to check up on you later to see if you're still a piece of putty, but hopefully by then, you'll be more healed and she won't be able to dig into you. Just relax, take a breath, and get back to being that cool guy you once knew.
Author wow123 Posted January 10, 2012 Author Posted January 10, 2012 Thanks lala. She really does hate me. I told her off and told her bf she was playing both sides. So wrong I know. I was an emotional mess. Probably better that she hates me. I don't have to worry about crumbling when she throws me breadcrumbs again...
Author wow123 Posted January 10, 2012 Author Posted January 10, 2012 Has anyone else ever told the other guy that the girl was playing games with both sides? If so how'd it go?
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