Green Light Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 Anyone here married but basically living in separate rooms? Eating meals separately? Sleeping separately? Keeping money separate? Not much or no sex?
giotto Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 Anyone here married but basically living in separate rooms? Eating meals separately? Sleeping separately? Keeping money separate? Not much or no sex? I've done that for a while, when we separated... obviously, no sex, but I kept paying the mortgage and supporting the family. We are back together, same bed, but still little sex...
SoMovinOn Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 Anyone here married but basically living in separate rooms? Eating meals separately? Sleeping separately? Keeping money separate? Not much or no sex? Yes. We are "separated but living together". I've not filed for D, primarily to keep her on my health insurance (otherwise, she'd have none).
luvkitties Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 My parents are like that...been together 43 years, don't ask me how.
Lostinlife4now Posted December 22, 2011 Posted December 22, 2011 My parents are like that...been together 43 years, don't ask me how. Do you and I have the same parents? My parents have been together 52 years....52 UNHAPPY YEARS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My brother and I are lucky we are even here, if you know what I mean! Just don't understand how 2 people can live such a dysfunctional life..
giotto Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Just don't understand how 2 people can live such a dysfunctional life.. I think it's called stay with what you know...
18Years2Late Posted December 24, 2011 Posted December 24, 2011 Me Too... Separate bedrooms...separate bathrooms...on separate floors of the house...separate bank accounts...although I pay all the bills so it really doesn't matter anyway...come to think about it a "roommate" situation would b an improvement bc then at least I'd only b responsible for 1/2 the bills...hmmmm...
The Blue Knight Posted December 26, 2011 Posted December 26, 2011 I think it's called stay with what you know... There's a safety element there as well. My father and mother in law live like that. No common shared interest. Both have obvious contempt for one another. He's staying because he's content (not looking for love) and has his outdoors life which he lives for year round. Additionally, he'd hate to pay out what she'd get in a divorce. She stays because he has the house paid off and takes care of any big ticket items and she can come and go and socialize with her friends as she likes. It's a marriage of pure convenience. I couldn't do it. I need much more from a marriage. I'd sooner be single than pass someone I used to love but now despise each and every day.
giotto Posted December 29, 2011 Posted December 29, 2011 I'd sooner be single than pass someone I used to love but now despise each and every day. Despising someone would make leaving easier... the problem is when you don't despise the other person and you really care about him/her, but you are still unhappy, but not that unhappy to go. And usually kids are an extra factor...
The Blue Knight Posted December 31, 2011 Posted December 31, 2011 Despising someone would make leaving easier... the problem is when you don't despise the other person and you really care about him/her, but you are still unhappy, but not that unhappy to go. And usually kids are an extra factor... I heard you giotto. Sorry about your situation. I know that's got to suck.
standtall Posted January 3, 2012 Posted January 3, 2012 I am getting the idea that most people have high expectations out of marriage.
giotto Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 I am getting the idea that most people have high expectations out of marriage. I definitely did... or, if not marriage, being in a relationship with someone... is that a bad thing?
giotto Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 I heard you giotto. Sorry about your situation. I know that's got to suck. well, it's wearing me down, and from time to time I have to convince myself that there are worst things in life...
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