amythan Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 Now i get it. He is not interested. I posted about this guy with whom I slept twice. He always replies right away and he always says we have to get together soon. But he never goes through his plans. I was confused and thought that maybe he wants to string me along or he can be possibly interested. Today he came back saying that we should catch up after the holidays. Two weeks ago I would be wondering if he really means it, now I am not. I am sure he means it NOW but if he needs to change his plans, is tired or it is complicated .. then he is not. I guess if we come across each other he will even try to sleep with me again because possibly he finds me attractive and he likes me enough to keep me as an acquaintance. I do not think he spent two minutes thinking about me, he is just the social and nice type who likes to be popular and have a bunch of random people to party. Just that. He is not a bad guy and he is not playing any game. He is just not interested. Now finally I get it.
manup Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 I always find it funny when girls sleep with a dude and then wonder why he doesn't want anything more. I'm guessing you slept with him rather quickly? If that's the case what'd you expect?
lululucy Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 It's not always the case that sleeping with a guy right away will limit the relationship. Every guy I've dated that I have hooked up with too soon has been incompatible in some other way with me (except my current boy) and it would've ended for any number of reasons anyway. BUT that's neither here nor there. OP, I'm glad you came to this epiphany. He isn't trying to be a bad guy, he's just not interested in a relationship. When sex is convenient, he goes for it -- oh well. Keep him as a friendly acquaintance if you want (or don't) and find someone else who wants to see you.
xpaperxcutx Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 I haven't came across a man who has objected to sex as of yet... but when it comes to wanting more their running feet never fails to answer.
DearAbby Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 I always find it funny when girls sleep with a dude and then wonder why he doesn't want anything more. I'm guessing you slept with him rather quickly? If that's the case what'd you expect? Agree 100%. Anytime you sleep with a guy too soon, you are checked off as their next conquest and they make like Jay Z on to the next one... lesson learned
Elysian Powder Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 I haven't came across a man who has objected to sex as of yet... but when it comes to wanting more their running feet never fails to answer. Can't blame a guy for being smart, and commitment only benefits women. women better get used to the transference of sexual power onto men . Freedom rocks.
Mme. Chaucer Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 As I posted before - the concept of "casual" could very well mean that some day, some guy might feel like calling you and having sex with you, and if he does - then he'll call you for it. Making plans, keeping in touch, feeling accountable don't come with a casual sexual relationship for plenty of people. Would you mind discussing why you repeatedly get into "casual sex" relationships and then suffer when that's what you get? You sound very much like a woman who would like a relationship with a man you can count on. I'm not judging casual arrangements that include sex; I think they're fine as long as both people are fine with them.
manup Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 It's not always the case that sleeping with a guy right away will limit the relationship. Every guy I've dated that I have hooked up with too soon has been incompatible in some other way with me (except my current boy) and it would've ended for any number of reasons anyway. BUT that's neither here nor there. OP, I'm glad you came to this epiphany. He isn't trying to be a bad guy, he's just not interested in a relationship. When sex is convenient, he goes for it -- oh well. Keep him as a friendly acquaintance if you want (or don't) and find someone else who wants to see you. I think women also underestimate how much men appreciate variety. Many times guys will stay around so they can hit it for a while though, which you may have run into. But yeah sometimes relationships can develop from hookups but I still think it's a ****ty strategy. It'd be like me trying to make a wife out of some drunk chick I banged at a bar. Does that sound smart to you?
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