swfc_77 Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 I just popped back because I feel a bit low about it. Her sister has moved in over the road which is like 15 - 20 meters from my front door, my ex is there most weekends and I had avoided seeing her until today. We were together for 2 years and she treat me like **** tbh. I put a lot of effort into making her life better helping her learn to drive, taking her to work at 5.30am and giving her a home in my families house. I was used and tossed to one side when she got board I think. Any way I have got a new girlfriend a really nice girl, but I'm feeling rather uncomfortable in my own house knowing my ex is only over the road who I avoided like the plague when we split. I was filling my van up for work tomorrow and she was stood over the road she never said anything but it very awkward. I feel very let down and low about it, the effort I put into that girl and the relationship accounted for what feels like nothing, like iv dropped £50 and found 50p. Iv spoken to my girlfriend about this and how it makes me uncomfortable, I suppose it just make me a bit upset and sad. I can't be friends with her I think it would rake up old memories and feelings in me. I feel really bad I thought I had left all this crap behind, I'm not sure how to deal with it and how to deal with it the next time it happens. Thanks in advance for the replies
broken-and-lost Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 hmmm i'm not to sure what to advice here if he sister lives over the road from you it's going to be hard not to run into her, you still have unresolved issues with the girl maybe if you just forgave her you then wouldn't care so much when you see her know that might be possible but the feelings you have now about her are not going to help you move on fully you don't need to talk to her to forgive her just think what happened happened and your now with someone you really care about it wouldn't have happened if she was nicer to you so in a ****ed up way she did you a favour or just try and avoid her best you can m8y
0hpenelope Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 It's just a small bump in the road. It's not like you haven't moved on and it's great that your current GF is very understanding of your feelings. Like yourself, I experience my bumps in the road when our mutual friends still get in touch with me from time to time and their actions have shown me they chose him. Too little too late and all that. So I'm back on LS for a while to remind myself of how far I've come. Good on you for sharing with us and showing the new members (and also reminding older members) that sometimes feeling down about things is normal but it doesn't mean that you're not moving on. How are you?
Author swfc_77 Posted March 28, 2012 Author Posted March 28, 2012 I'm ok, cheers. I'm currently in NZ with my partner and can't sleep as she is in Auckland, so I thought I'd check the forum out. I actually forgot about the thread I started and have only just read the replies. In regards to the ex, things are ok with me. I still do think about how she's doing but I guess this must be natural, it doesn't bother me or anything but some times I'll just wonder. I did get a txt on Xmas day not long after this thread was started saying "I'll be the bigger person then, merry Xmas" This after we walked past each other on Xmas day and I spoke to her brother in law and quietly said hello to her, but I don't think she heard, hence the txt I recieved later that day. I'm not sure if she was expecting a kiss on the cheek and a over-enthusiastic merry Christmas from me, but I did say hello, which was enough. After the txt I wasn't bothered, my gf found it pathetic and convinced me not to txt back explaining that I had said hello. Would have probably led to arguing and silly txts so it was a wise decision to ignore. Not heard from since and, don't want or expect too. Hope people are good,
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