scobro Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 It had not even been four days and I went to my ex place in the morning to talk to her and of course a car was parked in the driveway overnight....i rang the bell she came down in her robe and I asked her whose car was in the driveway she gave some lame excuse that "someone is just parking it there"...lol then I saw the guys shoes asked her about them and said you have a guy here, she slammed the door on my foot and I left....nice woman after 3 years together.She wouldnt take my calls then finally texed me "you agreed it was over"....this is after I had just slept with her 4 days earlier.....how is it people can just jump from person to person so easily I could never ever do that.
PoppyLove89 Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 Hello First off...we need more info. Are you 100% sure she wasn't seeing this guy while you were still together? Who instigated the split and why did you break-up? It could be that it's a rebound but my guess is, unless she just picked some random guy up in a bar, that she already knew this man...without background info on the relationship/split, it's hard to just try and guess the reason behind her actions.
chados Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 It had not even been four days and I went to my ex place in the morning to talk to her and of course a car was parked in the driveway overnight....i rang the bell she came down in her robe and I asked her whose car was in the driveway she gave some lame excuse that "someone is just parking it there"...lol then I saw the guys shoes asked her about them and said you have a guy here, she slammed the door on my foot and I left....nice woman after 3 years together.She wouldnt take my calls then finally texed me "you agreed it was over"....this is after I had just slept with her 4 days earlier.....how is it people can just jump from person to person so easily I could never ever do that. well did you agree? , who broke up with whom?. it could very well be her way to get over you. maybe she dated him when you where together?. dont believe that if theres still feelings between you two that she will forget you and move on in just a few days. this is what we call a rebound. if you want her back this could be the best way for her to notice that it was a mistake breaking up. even if it could be the hardest way for you.
Phillyg123 Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 Pretty much the same thing happened to me scobro, found her in bed with another guy shortly after the breakup. All you can do is no contact, she has lost the right to have anything to do in your life. I believe that you should be able to have someone in your life who you can be proud of. Could you ever be proud of a person who has done that? Go find someone to be proud of now...
Author scobro Posted December 18, 2011 Author Posted December 18, 2011 the ironic thing is she had major trust issues and always thought I was cheating which i never was ever or wanted to.She would believe stuff that wasnt going on and would think its real when it was complete fantasy in her head.During sex she actually asked if i was cheating on her she was obsessed with me cheating and Im the most loyal guy on the planet.She in the end said I know in my heart I can never trust you and thats when this whole episode happened with this guy.Turns out she met this guy right when we first broke up back in Sept but then we got back together and she did her usual non trust things like check my phone,computer history,facebook etc and basically ended things because she said she would never be able to trust me. Its hard always having to prove yourself or walk on eggshells and feel like you are on trial all the time.Every 4 days she had a major drama queen meltdown once almost hit me with her car and physically threw me around a ripped the shirt off my back and my necklace in one altercation,she turned into a crazy woman. In the end it turned out I couldnt trust her she had someone else not me but was so insistent on her not being able to trust me...unbelievable!!....I offered to see her through counceling and try and get her to fix this trust issue but she just said I need to find someone better for me than her and she was moving on with someone else after lying about it to me for weeks. She did all the dumping through text because she said it was too hard on the phone to talk to me.This woman is 47 and acted like a teenager.She changed her number and dismissed me like we were never in a relationship for 3 years how does someone just turn off feelings like that I guess its easier when you have a rebound waiting.
PoppyLove89 Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 Sounds to me like she was paranoid because she was up to no good herself! My first ex boyfriend was like this too, because he cheated on me, he was adamant that I would do the same - get my own back, if you will. It's the "if I can do it to him, he can do it to me" mentality, I guess. From what you've said here I think you're better off without her! Do your really want to be with someone who doesn't respect you or your relationship? Besides, if you haven't got trust in a relationship, it's not really a relationship worth having since that SO is meant to be one of the closest (if not the closest) people in your life. In the end mistrust, jealousy and accusation end up causing more damage than good; no doubt you argued quite a lot? Believe me, if there's a chance she may have cheated on you while you were together, she never trusted you and then she's the one who lands in bed with another guy before the sheets are even cold - you're better off without her, as hard as it is! Good riddance to bad rubbish. Hold your head up high, go NC and stay strong
Eddie Edirol Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 Yeah Scobro, it sounds like she lost her attraction to you long ago, and started seeing this guy, thats why she could jump to someone else so quick, she wanted something new, while youre hurting. And as someone else said, its not ironic that she was suspicious of you cheating when you werent, she was creating a distraction for herself. So know for the future, if anyone is accusing you of cheating based on nothing, it means they are cheating, or just screwed up. This woman is toxic if she is like this at 47, she will do the same thing to the next guy, or he will do it to her, thats how toxic people do each other. So really, you dodged a bullet, you didnt need to be with her any longer anyways.
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