monkey00 Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 So I'm thinking of getting an account on a dating site. Looking through it I found my ex on it, and she probably has been the past few months. When we were together right before we broke up (for reasons unassociated with this) and I found out, her reason was because her friend was on the site and needed her opinion on guys that would message her friend/ask out. Which is lame, because she has a few photos up. And she seems to be on the site whenever she is at home. I want to sign up but her and a bunch of her friends are on the site. Would it be weird to put a profile up there?
FitChick Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 I'm on a dating website that an ex is on. It happens to be a very good site so why should I let him limit my choices?
Art_Critic Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 so why should I let him limit my choices? Agreed.. and if it became a problem that is why they have tools like block..
ditzchic Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 I'm on a site that my ex is on. And he's my highest rated match within 50 miles. lol. When I first saw him on there I was a little shocked but I'm over it now. He doesn't mean much more to me than any other stranger on the internet.
tigressA Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 When I was on OKCupid there was a bunch of guys still on there who I had been out with/been in a relationship with. I didn't let that stop me from doing my thing. It never became a problem for me.
Author monkey00 Posted December 18, 2011 Author Posted December 18, 2011 Well I did it. So I took a peek at her profile and she's just seeking single friends, not a relationship. We're still on good terms and not total strangers, but it's just weird about keeping our dating activities a secret...or don't ask don't tell. I think the only thing that might weird me out is if she saw my profile and would behave weird/emotional about it.
ditzchic Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 Well I did it. So I took a peek at her profile and she's just seeking single friends, not a relationship. We're still on good terms and not total strangers, but it's just weird about keeping our dating activities a secret...or don't ask don't tell. I think the only thing that might weird me out is if she saw my profile and would behave weird/emotional about it. Haha. My ex ended up hiding me on OKC so he doesn't see my profile and I don't see his in searches. When I realized he did it I had to laugh about it. Obviously it means he isn't over it. Not necessarily that he wants me back or anything but he is obviously still holding onto something about the way things went down or he would be able to see my face without freaking out. I don't know if that makes me happy or what...
DearAbby Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 You can block her. That's what I would do.
Art_Critic Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 When I realized he did it I had to laugh about it. Obviously it means he isn't over it. Well.. you took the time to find him and figure it out.. what can we extrapolate from that ? ..
ditzchic Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 Well.. you took the time to find him and figure it out.. what can we extrapolate from that ? .. He was showing up as my top match and then just disappeared!! I had to look. Just for funsies. But really, at that point I really wasn't over him yet. He dumped me. But at least I could look at his face without having to hide him!
lululucy Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 I hid my exes on okc after we broke up. It's not a matter of being able to look at your exes face -- if you're looking for love, why would you want to see them? It didn't work out.
ScienceGal Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 I would delete/block an ex just like anyone else I come across that I am not interested in dating. It doesn't always have to do with feelings. When I log in, I want to see potential matches and they ain't it! I signed up for a dating site a few days ago. I just put a photo up a couple hours ago. Let the games begin, sigh. And by games I mean that I have received 3 messages since the photo. One from a man who sent me the exact same message when I had an account before (still not interested), one that has a photo that only shows his smile (and is way out of my age range), and one "hey baby" phrased message. I am not religious, but find myself saying "Jesus, take me now" quite often lately.
Author monkey00 Posted December 19, 2011 Author Posted December 19, 2011 Thanks for the suggestion of blocking - just did that. If any of her friends come across my profile and tell her, then oh well. I should've signed up a long time ago, but was always hesitant because all her friends are on it. At this point I don't really care!
Casablanca Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 He was showing up as my top match and then just disappeared!! I had to look. Just for funsies. But really, at that point I really wasn't over him yet. He dumped me. But at least I could look at his face without having to hide him! I block all kinds of people on there, if I read a profile and I know its no one I would ever want to get with, I hide them from searches, like another poster said, why have someone you're not going to date show up in searches? Sounds like you and him are in the same boat, more or less And yes, I would be on a dating site that my ex was on...I've done it before, I'll probably start up my profile again after the new year and there is a decent chance my ex is back on there.
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