Glove_slap Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 and now she's seeing someone else. I asked her out after a very long time of just talking as friends but she's already seeing someone else. She didn't say no or anything when I asked her out but all she said was that she's seeing someone else right now. I haven't spoken to her for about two or three weeks since. I miss her a lot right now even though we've never dated. How do I get over this? It's my fault for being such a shy idiot, I really liked this girl but when I told her it was already too late, she was so interested in me before that I never really did anything with it. I don't want to be her rebound if things don't work out with the guy, I do want her though but only if she wants me but I doubt that would magically happen...How do I get over this?
smudge21 Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 Nothing worse then regret, we all get it. I know so many times I've "missed the boat" on good things, not just dates. Sadly there's also no easy way to get over this other than just tell yourself that you did what you wanted to do - yeah okay, you held back, stayed friends, took your time and feel you waited too long, but you don't know how things would've gone had you have asked her out earlier. You may have totally blown it, she may have turned you down straight away... you don't know, so in reality there is no point thinking that you had a chance and blew it. There is no point in having the regret over what you don't know. I know with my recent ex, there are times I look back on and wish I'd done things differently; said more, made it more clear how I felt. Hell, I only told her how I felt when I was saying goodbye. Yet I look back and at the time, I wanted to take my time as she meant a lot to me and I didn't want to rush things. I did what I wanted to do at the time, so despite my regrets now, I too have no idea how things would've gone had I done it differently. The positive you can take from this is that you are still friends and she knows you like her more, so now you have to decide can you still see her in the same way as you did before? I can imagine how hard that will be, but maybe the thing to do now is show off the signals that yes, you do want to date her but you understand she's already seeing someone, so therefore you will remain her friend as she is a good person and someone worth having in your life. I guess the decision is yours, but regretting is unhealthy and pointless - you can't change it, all you can do is move forward. Good luck.
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