Art_Critic Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 The part that really creeps me out is Facebook tags people names in images, so someone, for instance a pedofile, can have your kids name in seconds. Then with a few other mouse clicks find out all sorts of **** about them that they shouldn't have access to. Facebook makes it as easy as pie since Unless that Pedophile is on my friends list that just isn't true YellowShark. As far as the breach of MZ files.. yeah.. that was a bummer.. Do you do online banking ? or buy stuff online ? Same risk....
Lis007 Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 I like facebook! Its a great way to stay connected with family and friends overseas and stay in touch when life is busy. I love seeing everyones photo's and knowing what they are up to. As far as relationships I have to say that when I separated it was also a great support for me with my girlfriends and family. It did facilitate my rebound relationship which I regret. Only weeks after separating he sent me flowers saying good luck with your new direction and well lots of attention in the guise of support as he had also just been through a divorce. My big mistake falling for it but at the time I have to admit it felt good. But I wish I hadn't been so quick and am convinced if I hadn't allowed these advances perhaps there is a chance I could have reconciled with my husband. You live and learn...
YellowShark Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 Unless that Pedophile is on my friends list that just isn't true YellowShark. Yee have waaaaaaay too much faith in Facebook my friend. If Zuckerbergs PERSONAL info isn't safe, yours isn't either. As far as the breach of MZ files.. yeah.. that was a bummer.. Do you do online banking ? or buy stuff online ? Same risk.... No it is not. When I buy something online or do online banking my entire life with pictures and location isn't available for the world to hack. On Facebook it is.
Art_Critic Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 No it is not. When I buy something online or do online banking my entire life with pictures and location isn't available for the world to hack. On Facebook it is. Just your name, SS # and address as well as Birthdate and all your family names and off course all your balances That is info that is NOT on my FB.... YS... the breach on MZ wasn't all of his photos.. it was his most recent few and that hole was plugged... good luck.. you might want to think about wearing tinfoil while you surf...
M2155 Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 Facebook is what you make it to be. FB has been great for me in keeping in touch with friends and family. In this much busy world, I don't have time to call, print photos etc. FB is just a tool. You can't blame a tool for what ther user does with it. If someone wants to cheat, flirt, stalk, whatever, FB makes it easier. But in life before FB, people still found ways to cheat, stalk, flirt. And after FB people will still find a way.
YellowShark Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 Just your name, SS # and address as well as Birthdate and all your family names and off course all your balances That is info that is NOT on my FB.... YS... the breach on MZ wasn't all of his photos.. it was his most recent few and that hole was plugged... good luck.. you might want to think about wearing tinfoil while you surf... See. Here it goes. Just like last time I dared to say a bad thing about Facebook on this message board. You have resorted to flaming me because what I say is true. And god forbid I say anything bad about Facebook. They have you hook, line, and sinker dude. On Facebook is your name, location, birthdate, likes, dislikes, pictures of you, pictures of your friends, pictures of your family. All waiting to be hacked. Even the CEO of Facebook could no fully secure his info. So if that doesn't ring a bell with ya... nothing will at all. You choose to defend Facebook to the death. I get it. Have a nice day.
runner Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 The Earth survived for many thousands of years without Facebook. I somehow survived decades without Facebook. I dont have 300 "friends," no one does. The only people who can't survive without Facebook are narcissists who validate themselves using Facebook. And don't give me this BS excuse that it's how you stay in touch with friends and family, cuz the 6 billion people who don't use Facebook - like me - manage to be able to just fine. bitter much ? feel free to call it "BS" but i enjoy sharing aspects of my life (photos, etc) with family and friends through fb. i said 'aspects of my life'; not my actual presence, which computers will never be able to replicate, no matter what. can the species survive without it ? of course ...and we could also do just fine without automobiles, playstations, etc. Before Facebook people used to actually talk to each other. I know it sounds strange but it is true. erm, not really; not in my case at least. computers/interwebs/smartphones/email/facebook....none of these things have ever dissuaded me from interacting with people IRL. if anything, they've all given me the opportunity to meet people (again IRL) that i never would have otherwise. and secondly, i still carve out time in my day to actually speak to people- phone or face to face. if someone is prone to hiding in their basements behind an online profile and being a-social, i don't think it matters if its facebook, smayshbook, or loveshack.
Citizen Erased Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 It's just a website people, sheesh. If it's destroying your relationship, delete it. If you think it's stupid, don't have a facebook page. Voila! Humans have managed to cheat well before Zuckerwhateverhisnameis's great great great great etc etc relatives were born. Certainly don't see people bitching about how Apple, Blackberry, Dell, HP etc is to blame for the state of the world's crappiness, how do you think people are accessing the site to begin with? Not to mention twitter, forums like this, dating sites and that little thing called text messaging. Why don't we just blame the internet. Or mobile phones, laptops and/or desktops. We should all become Amish and be done with this world. Seriously, the amount of threads that have people blaming FB for their life troubles is taking over Nice Guy threads.
Eddie Edirol Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 Arrant nonsense. Aside from treating the woman as a dumb animal with no conscious thoughts or free will, you're also attempting to whitewash the power of the tool. . Im saying the opposite. Im saying that women of free will, who are actually INTO their boyfriends, dont allow themselves to be affected by guys who flirt with them online. Are you one of those people who could never be at fault when you get dumped? Art Critic, thank you for being the only other realistic one in the thread.
Eddie Edirol Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 Arrant nonsense. Aside from treating the woman as a dumb animal with no conscious thoughts or free will, you're also attempting to whitewash the power of the tool. . Why do people continue to try to find reasons other than themselves for their breakups? Do they REALLY feel better thinking they did nothing wrong...or do they just not want to learn from their mistakes? Too many people on this board are so afraid to change.
runner Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 It's just a website people, sheesh. If it's destroying your relationship, delete it. If you think it's stupid, don't have a facebook page. Voila! Humans have managed to cheat well before Zuckerwhateverhisnameis's great great great great etc etc relatives were born. Certainly don't see people bitching about how Apple, Blackberry, Dell, HP etc is to blame for the state of the world's crappiness, how do you think people are accessing the site to begin with? Not to mention twitter, forums like this, dating sites and that little thing called text messaging. Why don't we just blame the internet. Or mobile phones, laptops and/or desktops. We should all become Amish and be done with this world. Seriously, the amount of threads that have people blaming FB for their life troubles is taking over Nice Guy threads. lol as for the whole hacking bit earlier in this thread...who the heck actually publishes private info on fb ?? ...if they do, then they probably deserve to have their bank accounts cleaned out as for photos...has anyone ever noticed the amount of CCTV out there ?? we're all 'reality TV' superstars even without computers okay i'm done
Art_Critic Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 So if that doesn't ring a bell with ya... nothing will at all. You choose to defend Facebook to the death. I get it. I'm all for safe surfing... so I surf with a tinfoil hat... On my FB.. my birthdate is not shown.. my birthplace.. I was actually born in a suburb of what is on my FB page.. My name, email and work.. yeah .. it is real and so are the pictures.. why wouldn't they be ? By the way.. ever use zabasearch and search your name ? or any of the other tools out there.. FB is just a webpage....
Art_Critic Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 It's just a website people, sheesh. If it's destroying your relationship, delete it. If you think it's stupid, don't have a facebook page. Voila! Best post of the whole thread...
cerridwen Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 I enjoy Facebook in moderation... Not me! I love facebook.. . I hate Facebook! I like facebook!.. NOT ME!
Citizen Erased Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 Best post of the whole thread... Cheers mate. Now, do the Amish know how to make tinfoil? Cos I may want one of those hats just in case.
Shaun-Dro Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 Facebook's effect on my last relationship; - Her "guy" friends always creeping on her, hitting on her online, all that crap. Stuff they would never do in real life. - The second we broke up, had guys crawling on her the second her status changed to "single". Not to mention all the terrific human beings "liking" you getting dumped. After this last one, I perma deleted my Facebook. It CAN be done, it just takes two weeks. It brings out creepers, cowards, and scumbags and makes a modern relationship that much more difficult to retain. I fully agree with you, my man. Facebook has become a disgrace. I used to frequent it last year but after seeing all these false connections and a constant switch of status every few weeks, with scum lowlives on there after every attention-seeking girl, I knew it was time to move on from it. As far as dating goes, I don't know what to tell you in regards to meeting a woman who doesn't utilize Facebook. It seems they're all doing it now. I thought it was supposed to be a means to rekindle old friendships but now it's become just a hunting ground for slimey characters. Not to mention it has also brought out some serious perverts hitting up the young teens on there, who I honestly feel should have no business on the website.
Art_Critic Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 Not me! I hate Facebook! NOT ME! Grump.....
Mme. Chaucer Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 I LOVE facebook. I have seen quite a lot of unsavory bs going on there but I have never been involved in any of it. Facebook has not impeded my real life interactions with family and friends. It has, though, provided me and many people from various phases of my life the chance to be connected again. Yes, lots of the connections are pretty peripheral. I can see pictures of people I went to high school with, or who were in my theatre group in college, my homies from the San Francisco punk scene or my super tight group of AA women from years ago; I can see what their kids look like, their wedding photos, a new puppy, how their garden is designed, where they're having a show or reading. All kinds of great stuff. I can say, "hi! I was just thinking about you! I hope you are doing well," or "I was just remembering that time in Fortuna when you brought me soup. I was so sick! Thank you!" to somebody I haven't really spoken to in 20 years. I love that. I talk to my sisters and my daughter in person all the time, but it's fun to see their pictures and news regularly. I think it's kind of ironic for some of you to say, with a hint of archness, "what did you all do BEFORE Facebook was launched?" … but you are saying it here on LoveShack, an Internet community which has even less to do with "real life" than Facebook does, for the most part. And you're on the Internet, too. What did you do before THAT was invented? Heck. It wasn't that long ago that every phone was attached to a wall in a specific place in your house … and not long before that, not every home had a phone. And before that - no such thing as a phone. So phooey on that!
cerridwen Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 Grump..... Totally. It's a completely personal thing. It's been awhile since I've thought about what my ex pulled. It left such a sour taste in my mouth, just the mention of FB puts me off. But are you going to like, accept my Friend Request or what? It's been two weeks.
Art_Critic Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 But are you going to like, accept my Friend Request or what? It's been two weeks. I blocked and deleted you .. no offense...I don't friend grumps hahahaha
Art_Critic Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 It's a completely personal thing. That is probably why a thread like this exists.. You were affected negatively by FB so the sting remains.. I've never been affected in any other way than positives on FB so really I can't speak to the hurt you feel/felt.. Here's hoping you one day won't feel what he did and can accept my friend request...
cerridwen Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 I blocked and deleted you .. no offense...I don't friend grumps hahahaha Bah. I've been rejected more times than you've seen sunsets, sir. Par for the course! OP, I say rock that hate!
Citizen Erased Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 But are you going to like, accept my Friend Request or what? It's been two weeks. What am I, chopped liver? Where's my friend request? Destroys budding friendships too OP.
cerridwen Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 What am I, chopped liver? Where's my friend request? Destroys budding friendships too OP. Chopped nothing! My plan is to turn up on your doorstep soon. You, Pyro and I will cram onto the couch, all three of us in Snuggies. Hm. She DOES have a good point about friendships though, OP. Though my last short-term guy trolled mine for new male friendships and would raise hell upon discovery.
betterdeal Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 Why do people continue to try to find reasons other than themselves for their breakups? Do they REALLY feel better thinking they did nothing wrong...or do they just not want to learn from their mistakes? Too many people on this board are so afraid to change. Two replies to the same post? Did I hit a raw nerve? As far as my behaviour goes, I have been much less than gracious in my time. If you can find anything written by me on this site to suggest I blame one person for break ups I've been through, please do show me it. Now we've got the unpleasantries over, I shall veer dangerously close to the topic at hand. If temptation is put in front of you when you are at a vulnerable moment, you are more likely to take it. Facebook creates conditions for that to happen. What may have been a temporary break, when two people could collect their thoughts and calm down, can easily be shredded by a horny interloper wanting instant gratification. And even if one party has a meaningless f*ck whilst on such as break to take their mind off things, the chances of such an indiscretion being made visible to the other party is much greater now, thanks to Facebook, and that can by the final finger poking in the wound to push that person away for good. The sense that sharing every detail of our lives on that site is the done thing encourages a one night stand to be declared a new relationship. The opportunity for things perhaps less than honourable but not important in the grand scheme of things to be carried out with some discretion has been diminished as an unintended consequence of Facebook. There are different forms and levels of privacy, and Facebook has affected those.
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