Heather1 Posted January 17, 2012 Posted January 17, 2012 Ummm, hopefully we're all sex addicts!! It's a natural thing...maybe you're just a player who wasn't ready to get m'd? Do you see yourself in 5 yrs w/ her, kids & a future?? You're really not doing her a favor by staying m'd if you don't share future goals. Let her go to find someone to have a family w/. Those child bearing years go quickly for women, don't waste her time. Not a judgement, just sounds like she was ready & you weren't. Sounds like your families & friends will be relieved too. 1
PinkInTheLimo Posted January 17, 2012 Posted January 17, 2012 I understand that mending this would take years. But at the same time, am I supposed to give up my friends and any sense of independence or freedom? Tell me how a relationship would be rebuilt while I'm breaking down mentally in my cage? No one's talking to me, we had mostly mutual friends who aren't speaking to me. I've spoken to my brother in law once, aside from that they've made no contact with me. My wife has stopped talking to my mother and my sister, because they've been cheated on and tried to relate with her and she didn't want to listen to a perspective of forgiveness. She's only speaking to my younger sister who doesn't like me and has stopped talking to me because of this. She says she wants to stay together, but to me her actions indicate that she's associating with people and perspectives of those who tell her to run. You can't tell me I'm not remorseful. I've cried more in the past few months than my entire life. I confessed my wrongs when I had no reason to do so, I wasn't caught, I wasn't going to get caught, I told her because I was remorseful. That's quite a ridiculous assumption for you to make based off a few extremely short posts. As far as help, I've said repeatedly here that I'm going to counseling... Dude, you are SO easy on yourself that it is ridiculous. Your wife had no problem granting you your friends and independence and freedom BEFORE she knew you cheated on her. She TRUSTED you and instead of being grateful for her trust you BETRAYED it. And now you think that by saying sorry a couple of times and doing some therapy, your wife should just move on and not giving you a hard time. Why do you even want to be married if you are so selfish. It's all about YOU, YOU, YOU. I don't see any empathy for how your wife must feel. You don't seem to understand that what you did is a serious dealbreaker. 1
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