Meeks7 Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 Last night I was the hit of a party with somewhat new friends. We did skits and being someone who has acting experience and training, I excelled. Everyone was laughing at my improv, and saying they didn't know what a gifted actor I am. End of the evening one of the guys (who has a girlfriend) spoke with me. He gave me some dating advice. "Hey Meeks, there's NO reason why you shouldn't have a girlfriend. Mind if I give you a little advice?" "Not at all, fire away." "Be bold. Don't hold, coz if you do, you might as well fold." He basically encouraged me to ask out my crush to coffee. Casual, but kind of sets the stage for the girl to know you are interested. You also have to strike while the iron is hot so to speak. If you wait too long, the friend will just think you see her as a friend, and she'll put you in the friend box and move on to the next suitor. He encouraged me to ask girls out to coffee more often. Can't wait for the sky to open and point to a girl. "You will be rejected a lot, like I was, but it will eventually work out. And as you can see, I did pretty well." It was good advice. I do have a bad habit of buddying it up and not stating my intentions from jumpstreet. I might try his advice. It felt awesome to be so complimented last night. Everyone say I was a comedian king, and the girls, I noticed, were all looking at me in a different light. I felt really confident last night. It was pretty crazy! Adrenaline, for sure. Girls just wanna laugh and have fun. I did that last night and I bet if I asked 10 of them out to coffee, at least half of them would have said yes. So, keep things light (especially early on, from setting to conversation) and just be kind and humorous. Ask more girls out to coffee! If it doesn't click, see ya later, if it does, take them to dinner next. Kiss on 3rd date. Play the numbers game. It does work.
ThaWholigan Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 Last night I was the hit of a party with somewhat new friends. We did skits and being someone who has acting experience and training, I excelled. Everyone was laughing at my improv, and saying they didn't know what a gifted actor I am. End of the evening one of the guys (who has a girlfriend) spoke with me. He gave me some dating advice. "Hey Meeks, there's NO reason why you shouldn't have a girlfriend. Mind if I give you a little advice?" "Not at all, fire away." "Be bold. Don't hold, coz if you do, you might as well fold." He basically encouraged me to ask out my crush to coffee. Casual, but kind of sets the stage for the girl to know you are interested. You also have to strike while the iron is hot so to speak. If you wait too long, the friend will just think you see her as a friend, and she'll put you in the friend box and move on to the next suitor. He encouraged me to ask girls out to coffee more often. Can't wait for the sky to open and point to a girl. "You will be rejected a lot, like I was, but it will eventually work out. And as you can see, I did pretty well." It was good advice. I do have a bad habit of buddying it up and not stating my intentions from jumpstreet. I might try his advice. It felt awesome to be so complimented last night. Everyone say I was a comedian king, and the girls, I noticed, were all looking at me in a different light. I felt really confident last night. It was pretty crazy! Adrenaline, for sure. Girls just wanna laugh and have fun. I did that last night and I bet if I asked 10 of them out to coffee, at least half of them would have said yes. So, keep things light (especially early on, from setting to conversation) and just be kind and humorous. Ask more girls out to coffee! If it doesn't click, see ya later, if it does, take them to dinner next. Kiss on 3rd date. Play the numbers game. It does work. Agree, my father told me this last time I saw him. He's an actor aswell . I wouldn't mind getting into it, might take some classes. I heard of a PUA in London called Daniel Vercetti, he's an actor too and emphasizes body language and how important it is. Every testimonial/forum post/anecdote about him is usually about his "aura" and how he comes across. I think your acting training could come in handy with women, especially with regards to body language, vocal tonality and general fitness. It's funny that a lot of us get the same advice, but everyone does different things with it.
Author Meeks7 Posted December 17, 2011 Author Posted December 17, 2011 Every testimonial/forum post/anecdote about him is usually about his "aura" and how he comes across. Yup, I definitely felt there was an aura about me last night. After my skit, everyone was looking at me as though I were a new man. There was so much laughter from my skit. BTW, I played a bumbling fool on a blind date. The guy who spoke to me said "Well, if you can act that well, you surely can learn how to act smoothly." He also said "It was a little too natural, haha" (my clumsiness) Yes, acting and improv classes does wonders for your overall confidence. Just learning how to think on the spot and be witty/entertaining is a great life skill in general. I think I just need to view myself more as a champion, than a chump. I go through stretches where I'm really down on myself, but if I just acted more care-free, more loose and more fun, more girls would be attracted to me. It's all about that "aura" thing again. Everyone caught a glimpse of it last night, and I felt like I was a MAN ON FIRE. Definitely a great feeling having everyone hi-5 you and say "Man, you are the man!"
jobaba Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 If it doesn't click, see ya later, if it does, take them to dinner next. Kiss on 3rd date. Play the numbers game. It does work. Truer words, my man. I was just watching an episode of "Why Am I Still Single?" on VH1, a show I'd never seen before. They set up this black woman model with this black guy who I thought was really good looking, good looking enough to be a model himself and probably more appealing to the masses than her, since he was light skinned. She had this thing called the '7 second rule' where she evaluates men within 7 seconds of meeting them and she said he was a 'no-go' from the first 7 seconds even though he was attracted to her. She strung the date along and he played along because he was a nice guy but could tell she was cold. If I'm ever in that situation again ... gone out the door. $7 bucks for the beer I ordered. Have fun, honey... Women are shallow and picky. Gotta wade through the masses until you find one who is either shallow and attracted to you or not shallow. I agree 100%. Play the numbers game.
DearAbby Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 This is an awesome thread. Congrats to the op. You should definitely start to behave like that in public and on dates. I can tell you as a girl that is a huge turn on. Everyone loves someone who can be funny and or make fun of themselves. My personality is like yours when you were acting. Many times I find myself the center of attention with everyone around me doing monologues. On dates, I sometimes tend to be withdrawn which really isnt my personality at all. It could be perhaps because I am worried that my date is judging me, not sure, or I care too much how I am perceived.
Author Meeks7 Posted December 17, 2011 Author Posted December 17, 2011 This is an awesome thread. Congrats to the op. You should definitely start to behave like that in public and on dates. I can tell you as a girl that is a huge turn on. Everyone loves someone who can be funny and or make fun of themselves. My personality is like yours when you were acting. Many times I find myself the center of attention with everyone around me doing monologues. On dates, I sometimes tend to be withdrawn which really isnt my personality at all. It could be perhaps because I am worried that my date is judging me, not sure, or I care too much how I am perceived. Know what you mean. Like last night, I was seriously in the zone out of my body/mind. All my college acting experience came rushing back, and I didn't even see the people around me. It was like I took a drug, lol. I felt like I could do anything, and the girls were all "ooh-la-la" with me afterward. Giving me "smiling eyes" and I felt like I could do no wrong. I was the life of the party. People started inviting me to their events too! It was like everyone wanted a piece of the "new cool guy" with the "hidden talent" lol
jobaba Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 Know what you mean. Like last night, I was seriously in the zone out of my body/mind. All my college acting experience came rushing back, and I didn't even see the people around me. It was like I took a drug, lol. I felt like I could do anything, and the girls were all "ooh-la-la" with me afterward. Giving me "smiling eyes" and I felt like I could do no wrong. I was the life of the party. People started inviting me to their events too! It was like everyone wanted a piece of the "new cool guy" with the "hidden talent" lol Been there before. Doesn't mean they like you in THAT way... But keep at it man. Good for you!
snug.bunny Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 Here here, good post! Here's to you! (you being the male version of course).
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