fificremefarben Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 ...I still can't shake this feeling like this is only temporary. That he will come to his senses. I know it's really damaging to myself to be thinking this way because, given that it's 4.5 months NC, he aint comin' back. I just feel like he broke up with me after he'd met this new girl and was going through a period where he was re-evaluating his life and wasn't happy with his work (felt like his job wasn't going anywhere etc.) and with living at home. Since the breakup, he's completely turned his life around: new girlfriend (the one he left me for and lied about...read my previous posts for the full story); new apartment (moved to the nearest big city to us) etc. It seems like he's just completely turned his back on his old life. I just feel that, with all of the history between us, how long it took us to get together and how happy we were for the 4 years we were together (save for the last month or so when she was in the picture) and just how much we loved each other, that this just isn't right. I can't help but feel it's just a phase...maybe GIGs or something. I feel like this can't be the end of our story, even though it is, because I couldn't take him back because his behaviour towards the end was just disgusting (lying and cheating). It just seems like such a waste of all those feelings for each other over the years. Sorry, I'm not even sure what I'm asking here...I'm just having a bad day, and would appreciate any insight xx Breakup story: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t304090/
Mcnulty Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 He has gone and you have to accept it I'm afraid. You acknowledge he has a new life and that he lied and cheated, so you couldn't take him back after that could you? 4 years is a long time, mine was 8 and a half years and I never got so much as a "I'm seeing your mate". They cut and run and that's that. All we can do is lick our wounds and heal the best way we know possible. It's one of the hardest things in life we must do, but we have no other choice do we honestly?
ZimboGon Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 If he is still with the girl, move on. You have no choice. I'm in the same shoes as you, my friend. My girlfriend was unhappy with her life, and it impacted our relationship. She met a new guy, and no matter how hard i tried or how good i was to her she lied and left me for him. I'm almost a month in NC, and every day i wish she would come to her senses and come back. But it isn't fair for you to dwell. If he does, then he does. But if not, there are people out there who will treat you better, like you deserve. I myself don't feel the same way, because i saw something special in her i will never forget. So even if she doesn't come back, i'll win her back in a year or so if she is single.
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