AZNNTYCE Posted May 30, 2004 Posted May 30, 2004 ello peoples. ok im really confused with something. my girlfriend said to me the other day that she was "falling for me". can someone please exactly explain this term to me. my girlfriend is a commitmaphobe and so i asked her that after she told me but she also replyed "yes" this got me really confused ~someone help~
LILUIL Posted May 30, 2004 Posted May 30, 2004 Erm..... I would tell a guy im falling for him, if i was 'coming out of my shell' Could be that she's feeling some love stirring up inside her.... finally. To be sure, ask her!
ziggue Posted May 30, 2004 Posted May 30, 2004 It sounds like to me that she is hinting that she wants a relationship with you. I agree with Aznntyce she could be starting to feel some strong feelings for you. Probably is scared of them too. That could be the reason she is a commintment phobe. Talk to her. Tell her how you feel and what you want. Be honest too. Hate it when guys are not honest about what type of relationship they want with you because that is when a person ends up getting hurt. It could've just slipped out and she used that as an excuse to cover up what she said as well.
Author AZNNTYCE Posted May 30, 2004 Author Posted May 30, 2004 she said it to me on thursday. and on saturday i questioned her about it. i asked her was she serious, and she said yes. then she asked me and i told her the truth, i told her i was falling for her too. but after that i asked her "i thought you were a commitmaphobe" and she said i am.. can someone please explain this nows?
packersgirl Posted May 30, 2004 Posted May 30, 2004 Take it from a commitaphobe, its tough when you realize you're falling for someone and that these strong feelings your feeling wont go away. She probably wants you to help her with this. Everyone who's afraid of commitment has to face their fear at one time or another, maybe she's ready to get past this with you.
dragon32986 Posted October 9, 2005 Posted October 9, 2005 My boyfriend and I have been togeather for about a week and i've fallen for him already...he told me himself that he was a fast mover and after I recently found out that I am completely in love with him and i told him so it feels like he has shut me out of his life...he won't talk to me...hold me...kiss me goodbye before he goes to work anymore...I feel so empty all of a sudden and I don't want to lose him because he has been the only guy i have trusted since I first had my heart broken 5 years ago...the guy i gave my virgininy to left me 3 days after and until Joe i haven't had a trusting relationship and right away I could trust Joe...please help me! dragon32986
europimp Posted October 9, 2005 Posted October 9, 2005 A person who has commitment phobia simply has a much tougher time breaking out of their shell, trusting someone, and falling for them. There isn't much to explain; if she's falling for you, she likes you a lot and is in the process of liking you even more. If you want a relationship with her, that's a good thing, and I have no idea why you're worried at all. If you're in this just "for fun" and not for a longer relationship, get out NOW and don't hurt this girl. To Dragon: You should make your own post really so that more people will stop by and comment. If you told this guy how you feel and you really like him, and he's just ceased all contact, if you're a frequent reader of LS you know that's not good... The only thing that you can do is talk to him. The next time you talk to him you need to make sure you do one thing, find out whether he feels the same or if he was put off at all by your expression of such strong feelings. Make sure you're not extremely clingy too, it's amazing to have someone who loves you and who you love support you and help you in YOUR LIFE, however, he may be afraid that because you expressed such feelings you would become extremely clingy, which most people don't want. It is not a good sign though that you haven't had such a good relationship with him lately. I hate to say it, but when I went out with this one girlfriend, after a short time she told me how much she liked me, and I personally like to take it slower, whereas she was pursuing much more of a fast physical relationship. She was kind of clingy, and after about a week and a half of dating I realized that I really didn't get along with her all that well, but she really liked me and I didn't know what to do. I'm sorry to say I let it continue for another two weeks, with me growing more and more distant. I still spent time with her but it became more of a chore... Then I finally realized that this wouldn't lead anywhere relationship wise, and I broke up with her. She didn't take any of the hints, so she was rather blindsided by this and very hurt. I haven't spoken with her since, avoiding contact as much as possible, figuring that it'd be better for her if I were to not hang around her a lot, which it was, but it took too long. Its not a good sign that he hasn't been displaying much affection. I personally would see the relationship as dying fast, so if you want to save it, I would suggest giving him some room to breathe, give him a day or so, then call him and get together a few days down the road. Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you have to see eachother every day. Give him a little more room and hope for the best... but I don't see much of a future there. It sucks that you haven't been able to find someone you trust, and it sucks that you fell so fast once you found someone. I hope that you find someone so that you can be happy, but I don't think it's this guy. It's only been a week and you've professed your love, that'd scare many people off.
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