thatone Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 I actually know a guy who likes True Blood although he admits it's a bad tv show (I think he means that it's not something sophisticated like The Wire). He doesn't seem to have trouble attracting women. Maybe that's why he isn't overanalyzing the show too much. the wire is nothing short of the best show ever on TV . and it's arguably not sophisticated. characters are well developed, something happens, that's it. there is no far reaching plot, no greater truth, just everyday life.
kaylan Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 (edited) That is because for the most part men don't actively reject good women while complaining there are no good women left. Well, I can say I do the exact same thing these gals are accused of doing. I have no problem satisfying my physical needs with the time calls for it, but thats a whole different animal then finding someone you want to date and spend time with. I drop girls out of the running for girlfriend a lot of the time before they even know it. Im very picky, but at the same time there are a lot of women out there who can either throw you for a loop, or that you arent compatible with. I am just trying to find a girl who makes me bonkers for her again. Itll happen eventually. But just because someone is a good man or a good woman does NOT mean their good for the person their interested in. Ive rejected good girls before and its because they werent the things I wanted in a girlfriend. Whats wrong with that? Either way, men should stop complaining and learn to be picky themselves. If some men were as picky with sex as they are about who they decide to commit to, then thered be less complaining. Because what I have noticed a sometimes is dudes just want/have a gf for the frequent sex...not because they see a future with the girl they are dating. Women try to avoid this, because weve heard stories of people staying in relationships they dont wanna be in just because they get consistent sex. Read this thread: It sums up what I said. http://www.okcupid.com/forum?tid=583287407611404340 That was obviously my point. The issue is this: men don't pretend any different, while women do, I don't know if they subconsciously think they are any different, or if they just LIE. Women are the ones with the golden ticket between their legs. Women decide who gets to have sex and who doesn't. The apples Negative Nancy and others bring to this thread about oranges in order to garner eternal sympathy for women who usually get what they deserve in dating (whether it's good or bad) , is my issue. Nobody wants to fight your straw men that there aren't men who are hung up on looks, there certainly are and they usually admit it. Women will never, even if you water tortured them. If I had your power, i'd date an amicable plain jane over a "hot mess". Its a golden ticket because men make it that way. If we had more of a collective sexual backbone, things wouldnt be the way they are. Noone is a golden ticket in my life but me. I dont treat anyone as a prize or put someone on a pedestal but myself. I understand everyone has flaws, and ill be damned if I give special treatment to someone just because they have a vagina instead of a penis. Thats the issue with things. Men are slaves to their hormones and its pathetic. Everyone has as much power as what they create for themselves. The dudes on this site are not alone in their struggles. There are women out there who complain about not being accepted for who they are and for being nice. But hell, people have a right to pick and choose who they want in dating. We all do it. Guys need to see women as equals in their mind and things will become more clear. I dunno, but I wonder if guys here ever truly have had women hit on them. Or ever have a chance to reject women. Even if its just once in a while itll let you see things differently. You pick up on behavhior and stuff. Im no Denzel or Brad Pitt, but I get interest. Like I nexted a perfectly nice cute girl back in the spring because I felt she blew it. We met in the bar a couple times and danced and made out. She made all the moves the first couple times. She asked me to dance and was the one to make the kiss move the first couple times. Its one of those dancey clubish bars btw. And this was in town at school before I graduated, so you see the same faces each week usually. Given the atmosphere I wasnt looking to court anyone, and I assumed she wasnt either since people sometimes dance, make out, and go home. so I didnt ask for her number until the third time I saw her. Mind you the third night I saw her she rejects my advances to dance twice...so I was already annoyed by what I perceived as bad behavior. She obviously wanted me to chase her, and then she finally dances with me. Makes the moves on me again and we are kissing. Then I ask for her number and she tells me "you have to earn that" And I was instantly turned off because I assumed me dancing with her and hooking up on 3 different nights was enough. Im asking for her number so I can get to know her and give her a shot, since shes normally not my type. But im not a fan of cat and mouse games so much. I saw her around town after that but just have her friendly hi's and didnt make an effort to talk her up. Even though from what I heard around, I knew she wanted me to. My two friends were telling me I screwed up by blowing her off, because "dude she so wanted you"...but why am I going to act in a supplicating manner? I have options and know theres other girls out there who wont annoy me. I think that difference in thinking is the gateway to becoming better in dating...man or woman. You are the prize and you work to be the best you can be and not stand for drama and games. Edited December 21, 2011 by kaylan
AD1980 Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 Well, I can say I do the exact same thing these gals are accused of doing. I have no problem satisfying my physical needs with the time calls for it, but thats a whole different animal then finding someone you want to date and spend time with. I drop girls out of the running for girlfriend a lot of the time before they even know it. Im very picky, but at the same time there are a lot of women out there who can either throw you for a loop, or that you arent compatible with. I am just trying to find a girl who makes me bonkers for her again. Itll happen eventually. But just because someone is a good man or a good woman does NOT mean their good for the person their interested in. Ive rejected good girls before and its because they werent the things I wanted in a girlfriend. Whats wrong with that? Either way, men should stop complaining and learn to be picky themselves. If some men were as picky with sex as they are about who they decide to commit to, then thered be less complaining. Because what I have noticed a sometimes is dudes just want/have a gf for the frequent sex...not because they see a future with the girl they are dating. Women try to avoid this, because weve heard stories of people staying in relationships they dont wanna be in just because they get consistent sex. Read this thread: It sums up what I said. http://www.okcupid.com/forum?tid=583287407611404340 Its a golden ticket because men make it that way. If we had more of a collective sexual backbone, things wouldnt be the way they are. Noone is a golden ticket in my life but me. I dont treat anyone as a prize or put someone on a pedestal but myself. I understand everyone has flaws, and ill be damned if I give special treatment to someone just because they have a vagina instead of a penis. Thats the issue with things. Men are slaves to their hormones and its pathetic. Everyone has as much power as what they create for themselves. The dudes on this site are not alone in their struggles. There are women out there who complain about not being accepted for who they are and for being nice. But hell, people have a right to pick and choose who they want in dating. We all do it. Guys need to see women as equals in their mind and things will become more clear. I dunno, but I wonder if guys here ever truly have had women hit on them. Or ever have a chance to reject women. Even if its just once in a while itll let you see things differently. You pick up on behavhior and stuff. Im no Denzel or Brad Pitt, but I get interest. I agree with you on that Men as a whole make it harder for all men by putting women and vagina on a pedestal inflating their egos.. As far as having women hit on me or get the chance to reject a women in my 31 years its never happened so while i willnever give up my dignity for a women i cant afford to be as picky or choosy as some but nothing is available to me anyway..
dasein Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 My life is like The Wire Funny clip, but I hope they get sued by War for the cheezy ripoff of "Slipping into Darkness."
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