PhillyDude Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 "so when are we hanging out again?" How should I respond? I remember being tongue tied because usually women are not that bold on a 1st date. I answered but not with an actual day to hook up again. I said..."i guess we have to see how our schedules look next week" something along those lines.
norajane Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 Her: "so when are we hanging out again?" You: "When are you free?" or "How about Thursday?"
colliejoanie Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 I made the "mistake" of doing this at the end of the date once......and I didn't hear from him again. In my opinion, the date was going really well. Laughing, talking, we were both at ease. I didn't feel butterflies, but it was going well enough that I guess I just blurted it out....I have a very busy schedule with my daughter, work, and school, and he traveled out of town a lot. I guess I wanted to lock it down. He visibly flinched......and stuttered. I was mortified at his reaction.
phineas Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 I made the "mistake" of doing this at the end of the date once......and I didn't hear from him again. In my opinion, the date was going really well. Laughing, talking, we were both at ease. I didn't feel butterflies, but it was going well enough that I guess I just blurted it out....I have a very busy schedule with my daughter, work, and school, and he traveled out of town a lot. I guess I wanted to lock it down. He visibly flinched......and stuttered. I was mortified at his reaction. He probably didn't have kids. I get the same thing from women who don't have kids. They seem to think my wanting to know ahead of time if i'm going out with them again is needy or something. I only have a few days without my kids. I plan to do my stuff on those days & it would be nice to know if I need to fit a date in there somewhere NOW instead of a few days before. People with kids understand that though.
chryssy83 Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 As a female, I wouldn't recommend that women do that. Guys like to ask girls out in the beginning, and they will if they are interested. HOWEVER....if you are a guy then your response depends on how you feel. Don't play games. If you like her and want to see her again, ask when she's free or suggest a day. If you don't like her, please don't say "uh I'll call you" or "let's talk sometime next week." Just turn her down nicely without giving her false hope. I think that if a woman is being that direct and you like her, she probably picked up on the fact you like her. To say anything other than that you want to make plans is manipulative. She will probably pick up on that and be turned off. So just be nice to her and make plans if you want to see her again.
KathyM Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 "so when are we hanging out again?" How should I respond? I remember being tongue tied because usually women are not that bold on a 1st date. I answered but not with an actual day to hook up again. I said..."i guess we have to see how our schedules look next week" something along those lines. I would say that that's a little bit lame of a response, and sounds kind of like a brush off. I would suggest, if you are interested in seeing her again, you should have said something like "How about next Wednesday" (or whatever day you think you'll be free. If you're not interested, then I would suggest saying "Not sure. I wasn't really expecting that question, and you kind of caught me off guard." I think telling the person we are not a match, or turning them down on the spot at the end of a date that the other person thought went well is not a good plan. If you would be interested in seeing the person again, then set a date for the next time you'll get together. What you said sounded like a brush off, IMO.
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