Buttercup84 Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 He ended things in July and in September or so I started NC . We lived together and I know I left a few things behind , books , clothes and my telescope and guitar that he bought for me . I wish I got those things back but didn't want to contact him , and thought they are not worth me seeing him and feeling **** again . So I moved on . Last night I come home to an email from him saying he is sorry for bothering me and he found something of mine whilst cleaning up . It is a box with a photo album and little notes from a friend . He asked if I was home . I just said throw it all out and thanks Usually when I still got mail there he just mailed them to me , and for those 6 months he didn't ask if I wanted my old things back . I am not 100% but that email shook me a bit , after all this NC I was used to it and now I do not know how I feel. Why couldn't he just send it to me or just throw it away ? I would have asked for it back if I really wanted it . My family think it is because it is the holidays and he mght be feeling lonely . But whatever it means I am not going to see him . If he wants to post my things Ill let him , but not having him come to my place even if he gives the stuff to my parents. Sorry for the rant
mike588 Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 He ended things in July and in September or so I started NC . We lived together and I know I left a few things behind , books , clothes and my telescope and guitar that he bought for me . I wish I got those things back but didn't want to contact him , and thought they are not worth me seeing him and feeling **** again . So I moved on . Last night I come home to an email from him saying he is sorry for bothering me and he found something of mine whilst cleaning up . It is a box with a photo album and little notes from a friend . He asked if I was home . I just said throw it all out and thanks Usually when I still got mail there he just mailed them to me , and for those 6 months he didn't ask if I wanted my old things back . I am not 100% but that email shook me a bit , after all this NC I was used to it and now I do not know how I feel. Why couldn't he just send it to me or just throw it away ? I would have asked for it back if I really wanted it . My family think it is because it is the holidays and he mght be feeling lonely . But whatever it means I am not going to see him . If he wants to post my things Ill let him , but not having him come to my place even if he gives the stuff to my parents. Sorry for the rant Oh I know how you feel.. I'm about 4 months into N.C. and if my ex. contacted me I'd be "shook too".. like you I'm getting used to it. As far as you telescope and guitar.. those sound like nice things..do you want them back? If so and now that you have moved on and N.C. has been broken maybe you can send him an email... (don't meet him) about dropping those items off or he could leave them with a friend..family member? The photo album and note/s I understand about throwing them away.
Author Buttercup84 Posted December 20, 2011 Author Posted December 20, 2011 Oh I know how you feel.. I'm about 4 months into N.C. and if my ex. contacted me I'd be "shook too".. like you I'm getting used to it. As far as you telescope and guitar.. those sound like nice things..do you want them back? If so and now that you have moved on and N.C. has been broken maybe you can send him an email... (don't meet him) about dropping those items off or he could leave them with a friend..family member? The photo album and note/s I understand about throwing them away. Yeah , it's Ok . The telescope was a cheap crap one anyway and he gave me the guitar for my birthday so I just have to let it go . As much as we hope for contact , it really is best when they do not contact us x
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