chise Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 (edited) Hi there, I really need blunt advise on this, the last thing I want is to appear as an idiot This year has been very difficult for me and after breaking up with my ex-bf three months ago, i do not feel like dating for a while. He broke my heart and hurt me more than i thought it was possible. To be honest I am still in love with him. But I still want to have sex and I am not into ONS. I do not like to go out and I prefer to use my weekends doing things I really like instead of getting wasted with random guys. Two months ago I met this guy at a party and we slept together. I liked him. He is a party animal, probably a player but funny. I do not like him in a romantic way though. He seems to be a nice person but not the kind of person i could like this way. So it feels safe. I contacted him a few weeks later and we met up again. We went out for drinks and we slept together again. It was awesome but again, no interest in more than that. I guess he is not interested either. The problem is we texted quite a bit and despite he always tried to make plans to get together again he flakes. Actually he asked me to go out last week and i didn't hear from him since then. I got very upset but just because we had plans and he didn't even cancel ! I do not know if he is just NOT interested in a FWB situation or if he thought i was more interested than I really am and he just wants to put distance. We have never discussed what we want and we barely know each other so if feels awkward. I am sure he is also sleeping with a bunch of girls but not my problem anyway. What do you think ? Do you think that this can be fixed or after the argument we had last week he is done ? I told him to contact me if he feels like meeting up but I am afraid he thinks i want to date .. and I don't !!!!! Thank you ! Please be honest, i do not want to neither bother him nor ridicule myself. Specially because we have friends in common Edited December 16, 2011 by chise
bean1 Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 I think he expects "the benefits" without even the friend term - which is why when you got upset about him no-showing, he bailed. He wants it so loosely on his terms that he can just stand you up and you not complain. He has zero respect for you. Will he sleep with you again in the future if you don't make a peep for the next little while? Probably, yes, but you are less than friends with benefits:o He is treating you like a pizza delivery... (and no judgment, I've been there too - but this is what it is)
Author chise Posted December 16, 2011 Author Posted December 16, 2011 Maybe you are right. He apologized right away though. I do not know if he is the kind of person who just wants to look nice and this is why he always replies quickly and is all sweet. You know, all words no actions. I do not expect him to be a "friend" and if he has no interest I cannot force him ! But this is not a reason to be unreliable.
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