winterbaby82 Posted May 30, 2004 Posted May 30, 2004 hi everyone, i heard about this website from my best friend (she used it for her last breakup) so i thought i would try it out i just broke up with my bf of 3 years 3 days ago, and it has been the longest 3 days of my life! i have never cried so much ever. i know it was the right thing to do...we've talked about it before....and we both knew it was gonna be ending sometime soon......and i knew it was gonna be hard but not like this. it was the first time i had done a break up face to face too!! i love him still, and we want to be friends after but we know its gonna be weird for the next while.....but i dunno.....i've never gone through this before. this was my first long term relationship and i knew it wasn't gonna last forever but i never thought about what it was gonna be really like when it did end. the hardest part about it is that i have talk to and seen him almost everyday for the last 3 years!! and thats a loooooong time (especially for me!) so now when i'm on my break at work or in between classes at school....i dont have anyone to just call up and chat with for a couple minutes!! i miss all the little things...holding hands in the car, goin for a nice dinner and making googly eyes across the table......he always got me a blanket when he knew i was starting to get cold.....i just miss him......but i know its over and it is what i wanted.....i like being an independent person and i really needed time to myself......but i just miss him so much, i cry all the time and sometimes i just want him to call and say 'lets get back together we made a terrible mistake' and other times i'm glad he didn't call at all. i dont know if its easier to jump right into the friend thing -- like see him regularly and get used to being around him and not hugging or kissing or saying i love you.......or stay away from him for a while and dont see each other or talk to each other at all! just quit cold turkey!! i dont know.....i've never done this before. so if anyone has any advice i would greatly appreciate it! i know all i did in my msg here was blab on about crap but i really needed to do that. so thanks for reading!!
quyster Posted May 30, 2004 Posted May 30, 2004 Hi winterbaby Me n my gf have broken up for 3 months now, i totally understand how u feel right now. To be honest, i'm still tripping about it but i'll tell u somethign i've learned from it. " Forcing doesn't end up with happiness". The begging, the being nice, proving yourself dont work. I tried everything already. Just try to keep yourself busy: work, school, friends, when u r alone try to find company, friends to talk to. Don't think too much at nite, try go over a friend's house to sleep. Talk a lot out, you'll feel much better. I hope that helps, If you still have questions, just ask me. I'll tell u more about what i've been thru.
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