Zabs Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 Just interested... If you are split up...having rlations with another party is cheating...or is ist? Yes or no? My personal view has changed from what it used to be. I used to believe that as soon as the 'bond' is broken..that's it. But if you are separated...I now think that it's your own business what you do in that time...as long as it has no adverse effects on your ex ie: sleeping with their friends/relatives etc..(YAK! That is LOOSE!) Your thoughts? Much love Zabs xx
TaraMaiden Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 Split up for good - go for it. Separation, on a (genuine) break - no-no.
bbronco Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 Hmm..I'd say it depends on what the circumstances of the break-up are. If it's a nasty one, then by all means, get some. But if it's mutual with dash of possible reconciliation, then staying committed to that person even while split up, is a testament to your devotion I guess. I personally haven't even had the slightest interest in anyone since I'm hung up on my ex..and additionally, I feel like as long as I stay away from other guys..then maybe it's proving my loyalty to my feelings in trying to win him back? He'd for sure throw me under the slut bus if I dare fool around, yet I know he's been fooling around...which I'm told by my guy friends I should pardon if we ever work things out as it's a typical hurt guy thing to try and get their dick wet post break-up. Supposedly meaningless.
SkyEmtRN Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 Hmm..I'd say it depends on what the circumstances of the break-up are. If it's a nasty one, then by all means, get some. But if it's mutual with dash of possible reconciliation, then staying committed to that person even while split up, is a testament to your devotion I guess. I personally haven't even had the slightest interest in anyone since I'm hung up on my ex..and additionally, I feel like as long as I stay away from other guys..then maybe it's proving my loyalty to my feelings in trying to win him back? He'd for sure throw me under the slut bus if I dare fool around, yet I know he's been fooling around...which I'm told by my guy friends I should pardon if we ever work things out as it's a typical hurt guy thing to try and get their dick wet post break-up. Supposedly meaningless. "slut bus" lol On a serious note, it is easier for the girl to get the bad image if they go around messing with people a few days after break up. Guys can get away with it most of the time. But either way it depends on the break up. Mutual, sad, depressing with room for reconciliation = no its not ok to do so, it shows respect for yourself and for the other if you don't go around sleeping after the break up If it was angry, hate, outrageously heated break up with cheating etc = then its ok Either way it will add insult to injury...
Cmac Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 I haven't even thought about hooking up with any other girls since my break-up. I know my ex is away out with her friends tonight in town. The thought of her possibly hooking up with someone has been eating at me all night. Such a horrible horrible thought. I think it just shows total lack of respect for the time you spent as a couple if you're out having sex with other people a matter of weeks after the break-up.
ZimboGon Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 She dumps me, next day she says she misses me and makes a mistake, day after that she takes a guy to a party we were supposed to go to and hooks up with him. >:|
CaliBabe Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 No I don't think it's wrong, esp if your the dumpee
Million.to.1 Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 If you have split up, then no, you are not "cheating" This is a weird question because by asking if it's cheating, then the whole reason becomes about what the "ex" would say. It shouldn't be a decision based on how your ex would feel about it. They are your Ex. If you have broken-up, then you are free to do as you choose. Whether or not you are ready, or being purely selfish, or just looking for distraction, it doesn't matter. But whether or not it's the right thing for your own sake is another story. A dumpee will always be hurt when a dumper they are not over yet moves on with someone else, regardless of the "right" amount of time after the break-up.
chados Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 i really feel that the dumper should at least show some respect for the dumpee. but i could understand if the dumpee is trying to move on quickly. the dumper broke up with you, and by that they simple told you that they dont need you anymore. zabs, move on if youre feeling its the right thing to do. dont feel any guilt about it, because he broke up with you, so he doesnt need you right now?
stitch702 Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 My ex hooked up with some guy 3 weeks after our break up...and hooked up with hiim again then realized it wasn't right. She's now with another guy a week after and I assume hooking up with him too....everyone says its because she is "lonely" and sees it as a way out to get over me quickly by filling that void with someone else... Needless to say, I know where I stand and will never take her back, if she EVER decides to come back that is. It's sad really, but it has made me more persistent to move on
Author Zabs Posted December 17, 2011 Author Posted December 17, 2011 If you have split up, then no, you are not "cheating" This is a weird question because by asking if it's cheating, then the whole reason becomes about what the "ex" would say. . Depends how 'deep' you read into the question. The question is aimed at the members of the site and no one else. Much love, Zabs xx
Author Zabs Posted December 17, 2011 Author Posted December 17, 2011 zabs, move on if youre feeling its the right thing to do. dont feel any guilt about it, because he broke up with you, so he doesnt need you right now? This isn't about me. it is a generic yes or no Chad:laugh: My situtation changes daily!! And I will tell you what I told him 2 days ago..I cannot be around anyone I don't know so a new relationship with anyone...isn't even in the equation Much love, Zabs xx
chados Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 This isn't about me. it is a generic yes or no Chad:laugh: My situtation changes daily!! And I will tell you what I told him 2 days ago..I cannot be around anyone I don't know so a new relationship with anyone...isn't even in the equation Much love, Zabs xx i still stand by my opinion sure it might be weird if a dumpee moves on the next day, but the main reason for that is probably because they are miserable. and i can understand that. but as a dumper i just feel its a lack of respect. keep it up zabs;)
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