theratandthecat Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 Last night I heard my ex got into the top university of the nation while I didn't apply. I feel so humiliated and behind. Then I found out too, through a friend, that she thought I was annoying and she wanted her space. But atm, she doesn't have anyone (yet). This is my senior year in high school, and I'm tired. I have made too many wrong choices this semester and afraid colleges are not going to accept me. I really don't know why I didn't make wiser decisions. Maybe... God doesn't love me?
Bito Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 What university you attend does not measure who you are as a person. Stop thinking back and regretting the choices you made as that will do nothing to change them. Instead focus on makeing wiser choices in your future. I know its very difficult for you to see it now but you have your whole life ahead of you. a year from now when your off at school, all of this will feel like a distant memory.
Author theratandthecat Posted December 16, 2011 Author Posted December 16, 2011 She got into Harvard, for Christ sake. That has always been my dream school. I guess its because of jealousy and frustration that drove me so. I don't know. At this point I feel so upset....
Chi townD Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 Dude, listen to me. I'm a College Professor. I know about Harvard. Big deal. Do you realize that only about 7% of people that get into Harvard, get in without knowing someone. The rest had someone that pulled some influence to the admissions department. Whether they had family that attended, or some other influence. Therefore, it's not about how well you do in High School or how well you did on your SAT or ACT. It's about WHO YOU KNOW. I went to a University that was rate top 25% in the nation for it's academics at the time I applied. Was is Harvard? no. But a GOOD SCHOOL none the less. Was is the school I longed to go to? Nope! I always dreamed of going to Notre Dame. But, I didn't get in. However, I still managed to get into one of the better Universities in the counry and it wasn't anything to be ashamed of. Now, before you get all jealous at her, remember. She probably had good grades, but more importantly she had someone influenced her way in there.
Author theratandthecat Posted December 16, 2011 Author Posted December 16, 2011 I'm a College Professor Really? Harvard this year accepts 18% early applicants. I just regret not applying. She is very disadvantaged, like me, and I think thats how she ended up there. She doesn't know anyone or in anyone influences anyone. That is for sure. Still, I just regret why I was stupid enough to not apply early to my dream school. I can never forget the lesson. While all my friends have excellent option, I am here with only my safety schools. FML.
Chi townD Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 (edited) Yeah really. I won't say which University but it's a Big 10. And so what? So, what about your safety Schools! Do well there and apply for a transfer! Those happen all of the time! Look, I didn't start College until later in my youth (didn't go right out of high school). However, I enjoyed it and excelled at it! Look, an education is an education. Doesn't matter if your degree is from Harvard or University of Virginia. It's still the same degree that has been conferred by an accrediting institution. Harvard grads just have a very expensive bachelor's degree. That's all. Edited December 16, 2011 by Chi townD
Author theratandthecat Posted December 16, 2011 Author Posted December 16, 2011 ... Most of my friends got excellent options. They got into Harvard, Yale, Princeton, Stanford and whatnot. Having trying so hard all these years, I don't think attending a safety school is worth all my effort. She got full ride btw. Her family doesn't make much money, and so do mine. I'm just jealous, that on top of everything, this is just another in-my-face.
Chi townD Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 So, what are you going to do? Not go because you didn't get into an Ivy League? Do you feel like less of a person because you didn't get Ivy League? Do you think that her and the others would look down on you because you're not part of the "Almight Ivy League!" If you're so hung up on Ivy League, why not apply to Brown? Not the most popular of Ivy League, but it's an Ivy League none the less.
Author theratandthecat Posted December 16, 2011 Author Posted December 16, 2011 I still have a chance to apply to Harvard via Regular Decision. It is just that the admission pool is going to be all the more competitive while the acceptance rate is much, much lower. Harvard is my dream school. But of course, I'm trying to Brown too.
SkyEmtRN Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 I still have a chance to apply to Harvard via Regular Decision. It is just that the admission pool is going to be all the more competitive while the acceptance rate is much, much lower. Harvard is my dream school. But of course, I'm trying to Brown too. First: Good luck with college applications (not being sarcastic) Second: Look on the bright side, so what if you don't get into Harvard. She is going to be crying with tuition and loans (assuming she does not have a full ride) I go to Adelphi University, granted its not as expensive as Harvard but after years of loans. Those loans nearly double in size and I'm already crying like a girl. Third: Look at college as starting a new life, new atmosphere, new friends, new people, new gf. Pull your head up and smile. Every minute your angry and sad you waste 60 seconds of happiness.
Author theratandthecat Posted December 16, 2011 Author Posted December 16, 2011 I don't know what I'm going to do if I don't get in. All my friends have already gotten into Yale, Stanford, princeton, upenn, columbia, and whatnot. She's going there with a full ride.
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