irc333 Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 I saw this profile of a woman, actually opened up with, "I"m trying this site again, so if you haven't dated a woman that looks like me, I would probably would be the kind of woman that would have no interest in you!" She's a mid 40's, but...yes...she's attractive. But come on, I would think women younger than her would get away with saying that, but a woman her age? Grow up. ANY guy who would see that would be immediately turned off by that, right?
Andy_K Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 That's over my age range, but I wouldn't be put off by a girl in her twenties saying the same thing. Attractive girls get a ton of messages, so I have no problems with them occasionally being a bit blunt in their profile to try to filter that down a bit.
curlygirl40 Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 Yes I agree, rude. What I don't understand about people who put things like that in their profile is that that they could be putting people off who might be in their perceived 'league' and then those people won't be contacting them anyway. And what are they gaining? A few less e-mails from the 'unworthy' gang. Please. Yup, rude and uncalled for.
OnyxSnowfall Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 Maybe you need to give up attempting online dating =P
Pizzaman81 Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 Your proper response would be "Yes I usually date hotter girls than you. Good luck, I hope you find what you are looking for"
Oxy Moronovich Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 I think the thing about that 40-something woman's profile was because you feel she's not in a position to say the same thing. You wouldn't be so shocked if she was in her 20s. A similar thing happens when I read profiles of single mothers saying they don't wanna date single fathers. I've also met women around 5 feet who rejected guys 6 feet for being too short. It's just shocking in the way how many women place huge demands on men when they do not bring anything to the table or have baggage themselves. When I was 25, I used to be penpals with a 24 yr old woman in an Oregon prison. She was in there for an accomplice to murder. She had been in since 14. She admitted she had only had one brief boyfriend before jail. When I told her I'd only had sex with 7 women, she said she was uncertain of me because I seemed inexperienced. I had to read that several times before I bust out laughing. I've said it many times: women don't change, they merely get older. A woman at 20 will have the same personality at 50. She'll treat men her age as if she's the one bringing the most into the relationship. It may be shocking but it's how women act.
D-Lish Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 Anyone saying that in a profile, regardless of age or gender is lacking in humility- a trait I consider to be pretty important. A confident person wouldn't feel the need to say such a silly thing. It's the same thing with men when they post pictures in their profile surrounded by women (so many guys do this)... It says something negative about them.
Oxy Moronovich Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 It's the same thing with men when they post pictures in their profile surrounded by women (so many guys do this)... It says something negative about them. Some guys do that because they know women are turned on by men appealing to lots of women. They actually think it says something positive about them. There are many things women do with their profiles that turn guys off: --posting pics of their pets. --posting pics when they were thinner and/or considerably younger-looking. --posting blurry pics. --posting one pic of themself and nine others of their house. --posting mostly blurry pics. --posting only headshots. --posting one pic.
colliejoanie Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 Yes, I think that's rude......and another poster is right on when she said it was turning off a potential match. Guys do the same thing. I read one where a guy listed three book titles and if a woman hadn't read them, we weren't to respond. (I've read them). He was a great looking guy, with a great career and life goals..... who is most likely still single.
Dust Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 I think you take online dating to seriously and so does this women you mention. Seriously online dating sucks and men should only treat it as a form of entertainment if that even. If I had a dating profile I might as well write "People say I look like Justin Bieber" and then have a picture of Justin Bieber as my profile pic.
Art_Critic Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 The profile is probably a college kid writing a paper or just a lonely woman trolling the dating sites and not looking for a date.. Her profile is meant to be off putting.. Either that or she is an escort looking for customers... I think ripping apart a person's profile and OLD in general is just a waste of time.. It is just a method of meeting people.. and you get a chance to meet a huge segment of the population that you would normally never date.. from prostitute to the love of your life... The whole gamut is out there and they are all using OLD for their own uses.. some good.. some bad... The key is to weed thru all the trash that you don't want to date and get to the people worth meeting.
PhillyDude Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 When I see profiles like that I ask do they "like sucking d...k" LOLL
dasein Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 If men stopped mailing and fawning on bitches like that, they wouldn't get away with putting stuff like that in their profile, so as arrogant as it is, that one is equally on men. And Art, no joke, I've seen even worse in real profiles. "You must live within 5 miles of me, or in one of the following zip codes...," "I didn't mark any income expectations because none are high enough," "I don't cook, don't clean, and don't work. Real men treat their woman like a queen."
El Brujo Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 (edited) I saw this profile of a woman, actually opened up with, "I"m trying this site again, so if you haven't dated a woman that looks like me, I would probably would be the kind of woman that would have no interest in you!" She's a mid 40's, but...yes...she's attractive. But come on, I would think women younger than her would get away with saying that, but a woman her age? Grow up. ANY guy who would see that would be immediately turned off by that, right? Not necessarily. I'd give her a chance... I'd tell her "ok, make an appointment to come in for an interview". (Yes, I really would do that!!!) There are many things women do with their profiles that turn guys off: --posting pics of their pets. --posting pics when they were thinner and/or considerably younger-looking. --posting blurry pics. --posting one pic of themself and nine others of their house. --posting mostly blurry pics. --posting only headshots. --posting one pic. --posting photos of them hanging on their drunk friends in some sleazy nightclub (it tells me their only true love is Al K. Hall) --posting pics they took of themselves by pointing their smart phone into a mirror (it tells me they have such horrible personalities that no one will take pics for them) --posting pics of themselves in front of some far-off landmark like the Eiffel tower or the Pyramids (it tells me this woman is going to feel boxed-in by staying in one place) --posting pics of themselves doing something dangerous like skydiving (nobody will ever sell life insurance to her!) --posting photos of their tattoos (If I want to see art, I'll go to a gallery... not date someone whose body IS an art gallery) BTW maybe it's just me, but why do all the women on OLDSs look so busty??? Personally I was never much of a chest-nut, but aren't the less-intelligent grades of men supposed to really go in for women with big boobs? Edited December 17, 2011 by El Brujo
Oxy Moronovich Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 Not necessarily. I'd give her a chance... I'd tell her "ok, make an appointment to come in for an interview". (Yes, I really would do that!!!) --posting photos of them hanging on their drunk friends in some sleazy nightclub (it tells me their only true love is Al K. Hall) --posting pics they took of themselves by pointing their smart phone into a mirror (it tells me they have such horrible personalities that no one will take pics for them) --posting pics of themselves in front of some far-off landmark like the Eiffel tower or the Pyramids (it tells me this woman is going to feel boxed-in by staying in one place) --posting pics of themselves doing something dangerous like skydiving (nobody will ever sell life insurance to her!) --posting photos of their tattoos (If I want to see art, I'll go to a gallery... not date someone whose body IS an art gallery) BTW maybe it's just me, but why do all the women on OLDSs look so busty??? Personally I was never much of a chest-nut, but aren't the less-intelligent grades of men supposed to really go in for women with big boobs? Yes, I definitely agree with the pics in the mirror thing. It is tacky. I also looks extremely self-absorbed. The way women pose like this and purse their lips screams, "Princess and gold-digger." I also can't agree more with my disgust at pics of tattoos. Tattoos on women don't necessarily turn me off. But for the most part, I find them ugly. I don't see why women are so obsessed with them. Sometimes they get really ugly tattoos. I once saw a woman who had tattoos all around her ankles made to look like ankle chains. Don't get me started on how much I hate tramp stamps. I don't care how cool I am with her, I don't think I could get into a serious relationship with a woman with a tramp stamp. So when a woman puts pics of her tattoos on her profile, I am always turned off. I'm sure this applies to most guys.
mammamia1 Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 It just shows how one-dimensional online dating is. I know a number of nice decent girls who have tattoos/body piercing. If you meet them outside and see them as a whole person, you'd find them normal and date-able. But if you just see the pics online, you only zoom in the tattoo and over analyze. Other than that, I agree with the points about pics in the mirror etc.
FitChick Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 Yes, I definitely agree with the pics in the mirror thing. It is tacky. I also looks extremely self-absorbed. So many men do the same. I can see if they are in great shape and I enjoy the show, but when they definitely are NOT in shape What were they thinking?!
kaylan Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 OP, I automatically next a girl for having any hint of entitlement in her profile. I know a lot of guys online will just make her ego even bigger by playing into that crap, but I wont. Im 25 by the way, so I come across this crap sometimes from women in my age range....but I ignore those kind of girls anyways.
kaylan Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 So many men do the same. I can see if they are in great shape and I enjoy the show, but when they definitely are NOT in shape What were they thinking?! lmfao...soo true. I find that more out of shape women do this more than the guys. Only because it seems guys will overlook it and talk to her anyways because they want to get laid. I usually message those girls and tell them to hit the gym and stop trying to flatter themselves. Personally, I used to have body shots up to show off my gym work...but I always added the caption "not being arrogant...just letting you know I love to work out...and letting you know what you are getting into =)" Despite what some people say, having pics to show off you are in shape def helps online...OKCupid even did a study on this in one of their blogs.
kaylan Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 If men stopped mailing and fawning on bitches like that, they wouldn't get away with putting stuff like that in their profile, so as arrogant as it is, that one is equally on men. And Art, no joke, I've seen even worse in real profiles. "You must live within 5 miles of me, or in one of the following zip codes...," "I didn't mark any income expectations because none are high enough," "I don't cook, don't clean, and don't work. Real men treat their woman like a queen." ^This. I cant stand women who behave this way, but men allow them to get away with it because a lot of dudes are so desperate for the smallest chance to taste some puzzy. Its pathetic.
chryssy83 Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 I think that a woman putting something like that screams high maintenance. And I guess guys go for that.... If a guy wants a relationship where she's gonna constantly be reminding him that she's too hot to put up with anything she doesn't like he should definitely try to date her.
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