confused kitty Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 Guy Ive been dateing about 6 weeks now is insisting on buying me a christmas present, we have both agreed that we're exclusive but still only dateing as neither of us wanted to rush into anything! The first time he brought up the subject I managed to laugh it ofc and change the subject tonight I wasnt so lucky! I keep telling him I dont need anything and that he doeant need to spend his money on me ( hes trying to save up for a new car) Basically hes not taking no for an answer, and Im not sure why but I feel abit guilty, I really dont want him spending his money on me when theres nothing I need. He wants us to go shopping next week so I can pick out somthing I like, Im dreading this because I dont even have anything in mind and given the fact that we're not even in a relatiinship what do I choose? I dont want to put pressure on him financially or any other way... Any advice would be great guys, Thanks!
Pocahontas36 Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 It's obvious he cares for you and wants to show you by buying you a little something. Let him, and don't tell him he doesn't need to, that will only hurt his feelings. Pick a scarf or a sweater something simple that you can wear so he knows you appreciate it.
insertnamehere Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 ^ ^ ^ I agree with the above. I think as long as he keeps it sane, a token of affection is no big deal. Now, if you walk out of the mall with an iPad, then it's time to worry.
Author confused kitty Posted December 16, 2011 Author Posted December 16, 2011 lol thank you guys, luckily I already have an iPad but agreed I too would be abit freaked by that! Il try think of somthing small but meaningful that Id like. Also should I get him a little somthing?
smudge21 Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 Just wait until he takes you shopping, then as you're wandering the stores, simply stop at the most expensive thing you can find and get all excited. His face will drop at the thought of paying so much but allow him to enter the store almost go through with it before telling him you're joking and the fact that you're together is enough of an Xmas present. If anything he'll know not to look around anymore stores and the two of you will be happy - you'll know that he cares enough to want to do this and he'll know you care enough to want him without the gifts.
Els Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 If he insists, I feel you should let him. Choose a reasonably-priced gift, but one TOO cheap (like, uh, I dunno, a $2 keychain) would probably hurt his feelings.
jobaba Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 Guy Ive been dateing about 6 weeks now is insisting on buying me a christmas present, we have both agreed that we're exclusive but still only dateing as neither of us wanted to rush into anything! The first time he brought up the subject I managed to laugh it ofc and change the subject tonight I wasnt so lucky! I keep telling him I dont need anything and that he doeant need to spend his money on me ( hes trying to save up for a new car) Basically hes not taking no for an answer, and Im not sure why but I feel abit guilty, I really dont want him spending his money on me when theres nothing I need. He wants us to go shopping next week so I can pick out somthing I like, Im dreading this because I dont even have anything in mind and given the fact that we're not even in a relatiinship what do I choose? I dont want to put pressure on him financially or any other way... Any advice would be great guys, Thanks! Perfect. Pick something that costs just about as much as you want to spend and tell him to get that. Then buy something the same price. Or let him pick out something and then get him something you think he'll like regardless of price. Everything depends on the way you do things. I just spent over $100 on a piece of clothing for a girl I'm casually dating cause I thought it was nice and would look good on her. I don't give a sh@t if she spent $15 on me. $100 is not a lot of $ to me. More the thought that matters. I buy presents for my female friends too (or I did before they all fled the country).
Author confused kitty Posted December 17, 2011 Author Posted December 17, 2011 Ive been thinking and heard him talking about this cap he really likes but didnt buy as he was unsure it would suit him and wanted my oppinion first and also hes big into Nervana and broke his cd only yesterday. I know its not much but Im hoping it will show him that I listen and pay attention to the little things, also its his birthday end of January and planning something fun and special for then
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